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Neighbour accusing our cat of attacking others – advice?

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TheMightyWanderer · 24/07/2024 11:19

Urgh. I'm after a bit of advice (it's a long one, sorry).

A Facebook post on our local community page has identified our cat as attacking others on the street. The post says that the cat is "vicious" and that next time the OP's cat comes in injured, she'll be "pretty sure which cat she'll need to look at" and that we need to keep him in.

Our old dearly departed boy (not the cat in question) came home injured a few times before and it is awful to see them in pain (not to mention the vet bills) so I completely understand that she's upset, but it is what cats do and we're doing everything we can to be responsible cat owners.

I phoned the vets for advice this morning and they've said that there's very little we can do beyond what we're already doing, which is:

  • He's neutered – we got him neutered as soon as he was old enough (around 2 years ago)
  • We have a Feliway plugin at home
  • He wears a tracking collar so we can see where he is and has been (more on this below)
  • He is locked in from 6pm to 6am (and incidentally, I hear a lot of cat fights and yowling on the street overnight, when he isn't out!)
  • And we've never actually witnessed him be aggressive to any neighbourhood cats, even those who regularly come into our garden (and, on occasion, house).

He's also about 3kg, very small and timid, and he has never come home with scratches, bites, scabs or chunks of fur missing.

About the tracking collar – I can see he passes through the area mentioned in the Facebook post to get to where he likes to spend the day wandering around. He's in that area for maybe 5-10 minutes at a time, usually twice a day – on his way out and on his way home. I feel like this isn't really enough time for him to be terrorising multiple neighbourhood cats, but that's just a hunch and a lot can happen in 5-10 mins. Obviously I don't know.

I feel a bit beside myself! I know is a stupid thing to get upset over – I don't want this to turn into a conflict with neighbours but also don't want to have someone banging on my door demanding vet bills get paid when as far as I can see, there's no proof that it's actually him and we're already doing what we can. Plus I don't want to transition him into being an indoor cat when he's healthy, happy and adventurous and, again, I don't have proof that this is him.

I am 99% sure this is the woman who accused our old boy of attacking her cat before a few years ago (before current cat's time) and claiming he wasn't neutered (he was neutered!). We just shrugged and let it go, and we never heard about it again. But this time feels a bit nasty as she's essentially threatening to come and land us with her vet bills on a public Facebook group.

Anyway, does anyone have any advice for me? He's on house arrest while I figure out what to do, but he will be miserable without getting some time outside in the next few days.

Thanks!

OP posts:
BlastedPimples · 24/07/2024 11:22

Well, she can't land you with any vet bills. That would be preposterous of her.

There is not a lot anyone can do about cats doing their thing.

Can you keep your cat in for a few days? Keep a record of when he is in too and present it to her next time she makes her claims.

K0OLA1D · 24/07/2024 11:23

If she's worried so much about her cat getting in fights she should keep her cat in.

I have 4, they all go out. One rarely comes home and one rarely goes out. The others are in-between.

They've all come back at some point looking a bit roughed up, it's one of them things when you have roaming cats imho

SoupDragon · 24/07/2024 11:23

The best course of action is to keep him in and see if the cat fights continue. Then you can say with confidence that it isn't your cat doing it. Do you think it could really be him?

I'd be surprised if anyone accused my cats of fighting as they are total cowards. They are identical to virtually every other black cat in the area though.

Gelasring · 24/07/2024 11:25

I don't think I'd even dignify it with a response to be honest. It doesn't sound like your cat is the guilty party so I'd let him out and carry on as usual.

If you do feel like you should engage with her, the first thing that springs to mind is to ask her what time the 'attacks' seems to have happened. Given he wears a tracker you may well be able to prove it wasn't him.

You could also point out everything you've put here. He's a small, neutered cat who doesn't show any signs of getting into fights.

CadoAvo · 24/07/2024 11:30

If she demands you pay vet bills, I imagine there is no legal standing that will make you have to pay them.

If it comes up again I would ask her for her email address and email her all the details you have, particularly from the tracker, which you think makes your cat innocent.

At the end of the day, cats are not like dogs and you can't stop them from acting like cats. She should keep hers in if it keeps coming back injured. Cats roam and get into fights, that's life.

Sunshineafterthehail · 24/07/2024 11:30

Just add a short response that dcat has had a stern talking to and leave the group. Batshittery at its best. They must have a bloody easy life if that's all they have going on /complaining about..

pottering45 · 24/07/2024 11:32

She is being ridiculous. She lets her cat out so she has to accept any risk that comes with that.
She's acting as though these are children bullying each other not dumb animals who are just doing what comes naturally.
You can't reason with this sort of mindset and if you apologise she will see that as a form of acceptance which will only validate her batshittery. Totally ignore it. If she calls you out personally tell her she's being silly but she's welcome to come and have a word with the cat and see if she can get through to him 😂

Andwegoroundagain · 24/07/2024 11:33

I'd just reply and say I'm so sorry to hear your cat was injured but there may be another cat that looks similar as you have a tracker on your cat and he is also kept inside so you're fairly sure it's not your cat.
And then mute !

MrTiddlesTheCat · 24/07/2024 11:36

You'd know if your cat was a fighter. One of mine is. He's a tiny, neutered male and he loves scrapping. As a result he's always sporting bald patches, scratches and occasionally bite marks.

K0OLA1D · 24/07/2024 11:53

MrTiddlesTheCat · 24/07/2024 11:36

You'd know if your cat was a fighter. One of mine is. He's a tiny, neutered male and he loves scrapping. As a result he's always sporting bald patches, scratches and occasionally bite marks.

One of mine has completely torn ears from fighting. He was 3 when we got him and was allowed out intact before then. He lost his balls but not his fight.

Blackcats7 · 24/07/2024 12:10

Cat owners are responsible for their cat’s behaviour under the law but in reality cases being brought against owners are very rare.
Once your cat leaves your property you have no control over what they do or what happens to them.
The only way to change this is to build a catio on to your property or cat proof the garden. This way the cat has a compromise between roaming and safety.
Either owner could choose to do this in these circumstances. Otherwise the situation is likely to continue.

K0OLA1D · 24/07/2024 16:31

Blackcats7 · 24/07/2024 12:10

Cat owners are responsible for their cat’s behaviour under the law but in reality cases being brought against owners are very rare.
Once your cat leaves your property you have no control over what they do or what happens to them.
The only way to change this is to build a catio on to your property or cat proof the garden. This way the cat has a compromise between roaming and safety.
Either owner could choose to do this in these circumstances. Otherwise the situation is likely to continue.

As its not op with the problem, I don't think it should be them building a catio!

Blackcats7 · 24/07/2024 16:41

K0OLA1D · 24/07/2024 16:31

As its not op with the problem, I don't think it should be them building a catio!

And if you read my post in full I said either owner could choose to do this.
I am not blaming anybody but offering a possible solution. That's all.

leeverarch · 24/07/2024 16:48

Cat owners are responsible for their cat's behaviour under the law

No they're not. Dog and livestock owners are legally obliged to keep their animals under control, these duties do not apply to cat owners. Cat owners do have a duty to take reasonable care to ensure that their cats do not injure people or damage property. That is all.

The OP is taking reasonable care by keeping the cat in from 6pm to 6am (and it is evening or at night when most cat fights take place), and by having the cat neutered, using a tracking collar, and using feliway so they live in a calm home.

Not a lot else to do really, other than to agree with the neighbour to take turns in letting their respective cats out at different times of day.

NoSquirrels · 24/07/2024 16:56

Mate, ignore it!

Just the other day I told a neighbour that her (enormous) Maine Coon was a bit of a thug and always chasing my (tiny) cat - but I didn’t expect her to do anything about it.

On the other side, my old boy apparently used to be the neighbourhood thug / most embarrassingly one of the cats he loved to taunt was my childminder’s! Again, nothing to be done - I told anyone who mentioned it to feel free to chase him off or squirt some water at him, and that was that.

Legally, you’re not responsible for a cat’s normal behaviour so just ignore, ignore, ignore.

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