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Very sick elderly cat, what to do for the best

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AssumingDirectControl · 13/05/2024 19:59

I’ve a 14 year old British Shorthair, Fennel, 15 next month. She’s had arthritis for about five years and is on Solensia to keep her relatively stable, though by now she’s got quite a lot of muscle wastage so she isn’t a cat in good condition for her age.

She wasn’t herself last week, a bout of diarrhoea, drinking a lot and a little bit quiet in herself. She seemed to perk up after a couple of days, but Saturday she refused to eat. Yesterday she still wasn’t eating and had started to look actually poorly/depressed. We took her to the emergency vet who examined her and could feel a mass in her abdomen, on weighing her she’d lost 0.5kg in the three weeks since she was last weighed for her Solensia, now weighing 3.5kg. The vet suspected renal lymphoma, but booked her in to the hospital and for an ultrasound today. Her bloods were all enormously raised and added pancreatitis and kidney failure to the possibilities of what’s going on for her.

Shes been on a drip for 24 hours now with meds and there’s no improvement in her general condition. The scan was inconclusive and the vet says they’ll need to get a specialist to scan her, but the specialist isn’t in work until Friday. if it’s lymphoma, she’ll be put to sleep immediately as there’s no prospect of recovery. Meanwhile she’s still in hospital and they’re going to need to fit a feeding tube.

I am really concerned that she’s an elderly, already quite doddery cat who finds the vet incredibly stressful and there doesn’t seem to be much of a plan for her other than to medicate her and wait until Friday at which point if cancer is confirmed she will be put to sleep. On the other hand if it’s not cancer, we should be giving her a chance to recover.

I honestly don’t know what to do, I feel that it’s too long to wait until Friday not knowing what we’re dealing with but I feel like we are out of options…

What would you do?

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Very sick elderly cat, what to do for the best
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aodirjjd · 13/05/2024 21:25

I don’t know why vets do this. It feels like they just keep treating and leave it up to the owners to speak up when they think there’s to much treatment.

I would put to sleep. Your poor kitty must be feeling quite poorly and whatever is wrong with her doesn’t sound a quick fix.

gamerchick · 13/05/2024 21:26

I think you know what to do OP. I'm sorry man. It's ok to make that decision and think of what's best for her.

AssumingDirectControl · 13/05/2024 21:29

Thank you everyone. We are going to have a chat about best case scenario and likelihood in the morning, but unless there’s a mini miracle overnight or any realistic chance of a full recovery (which I doubt) then we will say goodbye to her tomorrow.

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Abitboring · 13/05/2024 21:32

Wishing you much strength OP in whichever decision you choose to make. It's always wonderful to see humans looking out for their cats like that. She's in the best of hands with you. I think your gut feeling will let you know. I hope Fennel has a gentle night as can be.

AssumingDirectControl · 14/05/2024 13:17

We made the decision this morning and it was very peaceful. The right thing to do.

Thank you again.

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Toddlerteaplease · 14/05/2024 14:26

Very sorry, sending hugs. Be kind to yourself.

DramaAlpaca · 14/05/2024 15:04

Also sending hugs and Flowers

Abitboring · 14/05/2024 15:12

I'm so sorry, this must be hard. I'm sure Fennel was an amazing cat.

Yiayoula · 14/05/2024 15:22

Just wanted to say how sorry I am , Fennel was so beautiful and clearly she was very much loved.
Think we will be facing a similar dilemma before too long. I only hope I can be as brave and kind as you have been .
RIP, gorgeous girl x

Chatbotsarerubbish · 14/05/2024 18:30

I'm so sorry to hijack your thread, but wanted to thank you for posting your update. Our poor boy has declined quite suddenly over the last week, we're waiting for blood test results but it's not looking good.I'm so upset at the thought of saying goodbye. Reading your update has confirmed that we should do the right thing by him.

I will light a candle tonight for both our much loved cats x

AssumingDirectControl · 14/05/2024 18:48

Chatbotsarerubbish · 14/05/2024 18:30

I'm so sorry to hijack your thread, but wanted to thank you for posting your update. Our poor boy has declined quite suddenly over the last week, we're waiting for blood test results but it's not looking good.I'm so upset at the thought of saying goodbye. Reading your update has confirmed that we should do the right thing by him.

I will light a candle tonight for both our much loved cats x

I’m so sorry your lovely boy is also struggling. I have absolutely no doubt now that we did the right thing for Fennel. She clearly wasn’t happy (although pleased to see us) but when the vet was administering the drug she was relaxed and slipped away quickly and quietly, in the end it was a relief to see her peacefully at rest.

I wish you and @Yiayoula all the best for your loved oldies xx

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whatisforteamum · 14/05/2024 20:43

Reading this thread has made me feel tearful.
So so hard to let them go.Heartbreaking.
But ultimately kinder in the long run.
Look after yourself.

OnTheBoardwalk · 14/05/2024 21:48

@AssumingDirectControl oh I feel your pain. Thank you for doing the right thing for Fennel. They trust us to do that for them but the feckers do leave a hole in our heart

RosesAndHellebores · 14/05/2024 22:34

@AssumingDirectControl Flowers

With love.

Mumsgirls · 22/05/2024 15:20

Would not have the feeding tube at that age. We had one when cat had dental but otherwise healthy. It was horrible.

PickledPurplePickle · 22/05/2024 15:26

This happened to my elderly cat and we had to make the decision to PTS - it wasn't fair on him otherwise

Toddlerteaplease · 22/05/2024 16:15

Mumsgirls · 22/05/2024 15:20

Would not have the feeding tube at that age. We had one when cat had dental but otherwise healthy. It was horrible.

The late Magic had one, when she was recovering from pancreatitis. As you say. It was not fun.

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