Older cat - stressy

[FloofCloud]

Hi
We
Have a cat who just turned 9 this week, since we got her as a kitten we've lost our male older cat (a true gentleman) and have now got 2
Boy cats, she despises one of them, and the other she tolerates. We have a sag too which she's a bit 😵‍💫 about who is good to her but she's not keen.
I just noticed she's losing some fur on her tummy and part of a leg, it's
Like the hair is shorter, rather than gone.
Has anyone got any advice ref felispray, cat nip etc? She LOVES cat nip but it's still happening. She seems to be getting better with the other pets but was really hissy with one of my boy cats earlier today (he was cowering under the table when she attacked him)
We do have safe space for her in the upstairs (boys and dog don't go there and she lives like a Queen in my daughters room), so she does have space for herself, but she's trying to expand her areas which is good but the fur thing isn't good
Any ideas? About to order feliway plug in ... are they worth a try?
Thanks

Yes I think Feliway helps. Also some probiotics for her food.

Has she got lot of places downstairs she can get away from Boycats and feel safe? Including some up high places like stepped shelving that she can climb up. Lots of cats like being up high as they feel more in control. And a bed or place she sleeps that the others can't get to is a good idea.

If you google Jackson Galaxy on YouTube he gives ideas for 'catifying' your house, especially where there are multiple cats, dogs or children. A bit part is giving them routes o that they can use to get around the house without being on the floor.

How old are the Boycats? If still young and crazy it may settle down as they mature a bit.

I've assumed you've ruled out anything medical and had her vet checked - the fur loss could possibly be some other reason not just overgrooming due to stress.

Hope you find something that works and makes her happier.

.

Thanks, yes she's been to the vet and they're happy with her but I only saw the fur thing today and will get some Feliway this weekend and see how she goes. I need to get some De flea stuff too - it could be that albeit they don't have flea symptoms

I think she wants to be an only cat. You have stressed her out by bringing in two males. Not much to be done but she was there first.

And 9 years old isn’t really an older cat.

She sounds like she would be happier as a solo cat with no other pets in the home.

It's not fair that she's been forced upstairs to get space when she was the one who was there first.

I got the Beaphar version of feliway. Half the price. Works really really well. I will be buying again. Cheapest I got it was at pets at home.

It sounds like stress.
My previous cat had this when was rescued as a stray.She was in the cats' shelter for weeks and it started then.
Vet said she was unhappy with lots of cats around.
Fortunately it stopped as soon as we brought her home. 2 adults no kids or other animals.
All her fur was so thin and patchy when we brought her home, she looked like a bald old teddy bear.Bless her.
As the fur grew we realised she was long haired.

Cats have been settling in together a bit more!! Success! Even eating food earlier near each other! Lots of sniffing and she's venturing into the room our boy cats spend most of their day snoozing 💤