Is male cat kneading or something else?

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I have read threads on here where OP’s cat is actually using them to hump rather than just knead for comfort!

How can you tell the difference?

Our recently adopted 2 year old boy likes to knead on me (rarely DH) and I think it’s totally innocent for comfort but I want to be sure!

My 11 year old neutered male used to knead/hump the bedspread, used to drive us nuts! He gets chucked out at night now lol.

Why what difference does it make

I think they all make different little motions when they knead anyway, mine female cat does a sort of shuffling with her back legs while shes doing it too

If his back goes rigid, he looks spaced and he’s cross if you stop him, he’s humping. 🤣

Sabbat describes well, kneading is not at all like humping in cats.
Mine would shake his whole booty in pleasureful anticipation (sigh)

Is his groin in play too? If he's just sitting nicely and 'making biscuits' as they say in America, he's just doing his happy kneading thing. Some cats prefer a particular person to do this with (my childhood cat thought I was her mum and would knead and suckle (dribble!) in my armpit FFS, poor thing).

Our most recent and dearly departed cat, a boy who was given the chop rather late, at about 2 years I think, was a humper. The vet thought it might be because he was being bullied and taking it out on my son's soft toys, but I think he was just a dirty bastard. And it was absolutely clear what he was doing, because his horrible little cat pizzle would come out, and afterwards he'd give it a good old lick. He yowled horribly too, but you could see his hind quarters really thrusting and going for it, and he did, as someone else said, look fairly spaced out and distracted.

Incidentally, for all that he'd been castrated, I could swear he left some exudate sometimes. or a Smell.

Delightful things, cats. Sometimes I wonder why I'm trying so hard to replace the dissolute old bugger.