New cat & neighbour's cat garden stand off

[Startingagainandagain]

I got a lovely one year old girl from a local animal shelter. I kept her indoors for the first month as per the shelter's advice to let her settle.

I am now slowly introducing her to my back garden: I go with her outside a couple of times a day and she has slowly been getting braver and has a little sniff around and checks her little domain.

The problem is the next door neighbour (terraced houses) has a boy cat who has been used so far to seeing my garden (and my roof & front garden...) as his territory. He even has managed to sneak into my kitchen when I bought and renovated the house six months ago and had the doors open. I fed him a couple of times. He is friendly and does not mind being petted.

So when he sees girl cat he is now coming to greet her but my cat has been hissing at him and retreating inside.

Neighbour's cat is not showing any aggression in fact he retreated when she hissed at him, but I want my girl to be able to enjoy her time outside...

Any thoughts on this? do they usually work it out? Realistically there is no way I can prevent the neighbour's cat from visiting.

I wish I had an answer! We moved 3 years ago and our cat and the neighbours cat have been at war ever since! It's horrible and we really can't find a solution. I break up fights when I see rtem but often I'm out.
There's a chance your cat will learn to tolerate the other one...

If he's being friendly and she's hissing, there's hope in my mind! You've not had her long, she's a rescue and will take time to settle. She is still getting used to her territory and defending her new surroundings, in time they may become friends 😊

They usually work it out without fisticuffs but female cats can be a bit unsociable.

They will work it out one way or another. However I do suggest you are no longer friendly to your neighbour's cat and chase it away when you see it. Don't make it feel welcome. I know it's hard, as a cat lover myself, but it's the best thing to do, I've learned that lesson the hard way!

Perfectly normal for a new meeting and in fact very positive from him.

Girls tend to be all noise. They could become friends over time.

Thank you everyone for the feedback!

Hopefully that will be resolved without fights...

I am a real softie with cats so I don't have the heart to chase the other cat...although I did draw a line when he tried to get into the house again.

I remember when we got our cat it took a little while for the neighbourhood cats pecking order to be sorted and there were lots of fights for a while between my female cat and the other females. The male cat opposite though they are happy to sit in the same vicinity without fighting - he's just a big old softie. You're probably in a better position in that he's a male - if it were another female there would be a bigger problem x

Our female rescue fights all the males our previous male was friends with. We chase them off to show her that we're on her side, but they need to sort it out themselves,