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Tell me some hopeful stories about finding your perfect 'next cat'

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GlomOfNit · 26/12/2023 01:23

We lost our beloved mog to cancer in November. I'm more than ready to start looking for another cat - they won't replace him but I can't be without a cat and I'm worried about DS's mental health. He and our old cat were very bonded and loved one another. He says he can't imagine bonding with/loving another cat but I know that's how it feels right now. He's in GCSE year and I really feel he needs a non-human, non-stressy 'friend' at home who won't be bitchy (as his peers at school often are) or make demands on him. And I just really, really miss having a lovely cat! Sad

Our last cat came from a local, very small cat sanctuary. They're a bit weird there. We did pass the house check but they were concerned about the road (outskirts of a village, open countryside out the back door, house set back a house and garden width from the 'main' road which is 30 mph... they are absurdly fussy). Last time we adopted, our autistic younger child was young enough to be of concern to them (about 4?) but not crazy enough to worry them! Now he's much older but much more obviously a handful. He isn't bothered about cats per se and old cat and he tended to leave one another alone. But I can imagine the stonewalling from one of the crazy cat ladies at a local cat sanctuary once they realise that DS2 is a bit different... I know so many people locally who have a really hard ride to get a sanctuary to allow them to adopt, and we're talking perfectly normal home circs here.

So there's that. I also think that a lot of animals who wind up at sanctuaries can be problematic because, sadly, of what they've recently been through.

But what's the alternative? None of my cat-owning friends are irresponsible enough likely to have un-neutered cats they're expecting kittens from. I loathe sites like Pets4Homes etc, it's so horrible, people deliberately getting their animals pregnant and putting the babies up for sale for £200 a pop. But as long as people pay silly prices for kittens this will continue (we're not talking pedigree breeds here - I understand there's a market there that will always be there, even if I don't agree with overbreeding cats). Short of a homeless cat falling into my lap unexpectedly (this only happens on MN and not to me!) where should we be looking for our next lovely cat (or cats...)? And please share with me your optimistic stories of finding another cat to love after losing your lovely friend.

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Scampuss · 26/12/2023 01:42

My location sounds similar and I'm on my second 'new' rescue since moving here. You just need to be clear about what you can offer and look for cats who are more likely to have some street smarts/road sense.

Last cat (Blue Cross) was previously an outdoor but clearly well socialised and well looked after cat, had had access to a garage but not the house, and was 8 when he came to me, was the most perfect bombproof cat for my autistic ds who was quite meltdowny at the time. He'd walk out the room if ds got too loud and wait until ds was calming down and come back and just rest against him, he was an excellent cat and took to living indoors immediately, never went near the front where the road is. I went and picked him 2 days after having my previous cat PTS.

Latest cat (RSPCA) is a former semi-feral stray, she's differently perfect, clumsy, demanding, funny, bitey, clingy, bossy, and makes ds laugh. Again, streetwise as a result of her past life and stays away from the road. I actually spotted her on the RSPCA site the day I booked my old boy to be PTS after he'd been effectively receiving palliative care for a while, somehow it helped me feel better freeing up rescue space, this was during lockdown so everything was done be email and phone and I didn't meet her before collecting her.

Alphabet1spaghetti2 · 26/12/2023 01:43

Well, we’ve always just trusted the cat distribution system. They seem to just know where there is a vacancy and when you are ready, even if you think you aren’t.
I do get where you are coming from with rescue centers. Perhaps try one slightly further away, or leave your details with the vet - that’s how I received one of my ddogs. (Someone wanted him euthanised so they could go to Disney as it was cheaper than kennels, he went in one door of the vets and out the back into my car - and lived a long, happy life.)

Heres hoping a feline overlord walks in and stomps their majestic paws on your heart soon.

christmaspawpaws · 26/12/2023 01:49

So I lost my elderly boy this year. Was browsing rescues via FB very soon after as I had all this love and nowhere for it to go

My elderly boy was fostered by a woman called Alex (changed name) and I messaged her to tell her he had gone. She obviously said she was devastated and then said "I know it's too soon but I now have my own charity and there's this cat.."
He had just come in, the day my old boy went

Went to see him and knew the minute she opened the pen door he was coming home with me

My old cat was a tiny, weirdo, black male and he has sent me this giant, weirdo black male cat who has so many similarities but just enough differences. They both hate being picked up, and both are/were obsessed with sniffing the bum of a visitor cat I have. Also both incredibly clingy and loving

christmaspawpaws · 26/12/2023 01:54

First pic is my old boy with not my cat
Second is my new boy with not my cat

Tell me some hopeful stories about finding your perfect 'next cat'
Tell me some hopeful stories about finding your perfect 'next cat'
sashh · 26/12/2023 02:15

I can't help, I've never chosen a cat, mine have all been strays or someone was moving and couldn't take the cat with them.

I'm sure the cat distribution system will be making preparation for you OP.

BluebellsForest · 26/12/2023 02:18

This website is good for finding cats and more rescues in your area. They do vary in how flexible they are:

www.catchat.org/shelter_centre/

Kittensat36 · 26/12/2023 18:49

Ah, the Ancient Order of the Weirdo Voids.....

I'm hoping that the Cat Distribution System doesn't swing into action for me. I may get a pay rise, but I have no idea how much. My first thought when I heard was "oooooh, I can get a third cat." Hoping the CDS doesn't swing into action before I discover that the rise is £1.50 +a soggy tissue.

jollywhite · 26/12/2023 19:08

We lost our furever boy 5 yr ago. Devasted didn't cut it. I honestly felt the same as you. He was a rescue and I was adament if/when we got another one, that too would be a rescue. We ended up getting a pedigree. Purely indoors, we enclosed our garden so he can roam safely.

Not a replacement but we love him just as much as we loved mr furever boy. I went pedigree because I needed the right temperament of cat and wanted to know (nearly 100%) that I would regret them. Did a heck of a lot of reserach and waited nearly 2 yrs with an amazing breeder.

BamberGirl · 26/12/2023 19:19

I’ve had a few rescues over the years, my current crop are two 8 yr olds from the RSPCA and then a year old from a local cat rescue on Facebook.

I think just contact different rescues some are fussier than others about circumstance but they will also recognise a loving home!

its so lovely to not have an empty house again when you do get a new one (or pair)!

my current ones have all been kittens when aopted but I have also rescued cats as old as 13, older cats are defo more chill.
happy hunting!

margotrose · 26/12/2023 20:10

As you're rural, what about farm kittens?

We've had three farm kittens over the years - found via local Facebook pages. They obviously don't come flea/wormed/vaccinated/chipped but they've all been healthy, happy little things who are very easy going.

Our latest is now eight months and he's fantastic. We got him six weeks after our girl died and our resident boys took to him straight away. He needed a lot of handling and socialising at first but he's so confident and happy now.

FormerlyPathologicallyHappy · 26/12/2023 20:40

I applied to a rescue further out for a cat no one else could provide a home for, she was long hair so needs grooming and hates children but people kept applying who had kids.

She’d been on their books for a year fostered by her owner.

maggiemoggie · 26/12/2023 21:32

I'm a member of some small local Facebook groups and people occasionally ask for advice rehoming a cat on there. If you have Facebook it might be worth putting a call-out that you are looking to rehome (not buy) a cat

mayorofcasterbridge · 28/12/2023 21:23

I am so sorry about your boy! I felt the same when we lost ours - a cat-less home was just too empty!

I wanted to adopt older cats, not kittens, and I think this is easier, and if you're open to having a black kitty? Follow as many local rescue pages on Facebook as you can - a lot have ceased rehoming over the holidays but I imagine there will be plenty needing homes in the new year, as the rescues all seem to be swamped.

TuxedoCatsRule · 28/12/2023 21:41

We got our fabulous cat from our local Cats Protection. Not sure if they all operate the same policies but ours were very clear on their website about what sort of home their rescues needed, so you could start to think about which cat or cats you might ask about, and they were very sensible about home checks / vetting of owners. Very different to some of the mad tales I have heard of not being allowed to adopt a cat without being checked out to the most ridiculous degree first or required to move to somewhere with no road etc!

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