I'm hoping someone could offer some advice or reassurance. I have a cat who I adopted 4 years ago, who until this summer was so happy and affectionate - a life of chin scratches, sleeping on the bed, total lapcat. Since having our first baby in the summer, I think I've ruined his life and I don't know what to do. Our baby is a screaming velcro baby and we barely have a minute to acknowledge the cat. He hates the noise. He didn't come home for weeks so we missed a flea treatment and now he's covered in bites and rashes and is losing clumps of hair. He can't sleep on the bed as I co sleep and I'm always shutting him out of rooms as he's noisy when I'm trying to get the baby to nap. I've started to find his need for attention stressful at a time when I'm breastfeeding constantly and touched out. I feel heartbroken and guilty. I always thought it was awful when people rehomed pets after children but I just feel like I'm doing a terrible terrible job looking after him and he's so unhappy. I just can't give him the affection he wants. What can I do? I feel miserable about it.