Coping with saying goodbye

[Abergale]

Today we put my gorgeous cat to sleep. My partner is in denial and keeps saying maybe the vet can suggest something but I know it needs doing. I don’t think I could cope with making the decision twice when we already knew we were on borrowed time due to cancer.

I know it’s normal to be sad but I feel horrific. I haven’t stoped crying since I realised it was time on Monday and I feel awful that she’s suddenly dipped yesterday evening but vet doesn’t have earlier appt than 5pm today.

I just don’t know how to cope. I know she’s “just” a cat but she’s everything to me. I can’t imagine the house without her. I don’t have many friends and my partner works shifts, the idea of being home alone without her makes me feel sick.

how do I get through this? I’ve hardly slept since Monday and nothing is helping me feel calmer about this.

I don’t know what to do until 5pm this feels like torture. The cat doesn’t want cuddles right now she wants some space so I can’t even fuss her and tell her how much I love her.

Thank you again for all your kind words and sorry for all your losses. Some really sad stories. It must be especially devastating when it’s premature. I can at least rest assured that I know I wouldn’t have done anything differently in regards to the cancer , only maybe pushed to take her to vets a day earlier on her last day.

I’ve had a really hard couple of days. I’m ok when I’m out the house but I just steadily sink and cry when I’m in the house. I keep trying to think I’d rather she was gone than she was here and in pain. But it’s so hard not to want or expect her to come running when she hears us.

I’ve had nice moments of “remember when” with my partner over last few days which has helped.

I’m sorry for your loss, it’s so painful but you did the right thing. When we recently had our beloved dog put to sleep the vet said that he’s had all his good days and only had bad days left, I didn’t want him to have any bad days. You’ve put your own pain to one side and made the best decision for your cat, you will start to think of the good days and the lovely life you gave her.

Completely understandable, you have done the right thing. And honestly it will get easier. You are in the raw state atm, but in time the last few days will lessen in your mind, and you will be able to see the happy day. Take it easy OP.

That is very sad, you poor thing

Be careful with sites like Timehop and Facebook memories. They can really catch you off guard!

I’ve worked out how to stop google photos prompting me with those things for her since it used to do it all the time when she was alive because I took so many photos of her!

today I am car less so can’t go far if I leave the house. I am crying and crying already. I don’t know what to do. I’m just trying to tidy up a bit.

I struggled losing my boy as he was so attached to me and bringing home the carrier broke me
It's not for everyone but I was telling the woman that fostered him (he came from rescue) that he had gone and she mentioned a cat..
my old boy was never patient and it became very clear this was the cat he wanted me to have next. I adopted him just 4 days after my boy had gone

It made my grieving easier in some ways but other than that, it's just time and doing whatever you need to do

How do you do?

i am so sad still. I got my big winter jumper out that I live in when wfh a day ago and I cried because it’s full of threads that she’s pulled (much as I cursed her for ruining clothes at the time). Sitting in it all snuggled up is rubbish on my own.

I am at the stage where obviously I have to roll on as normal, but I just feel really depressed. I am just not enjoying my evenings as winter is coming in without her. I miss her tonnes :(

It’s so hard, I really feel for you. We lost our dear little one too sadly in the summer after a sudden illness, and been also finding, as the seasons change, the darker colder mornings and nights so tough without them to cheer up and bring comfort and company to each dull day. They bring so much warmth and love and are so special when you have been so bonded with them. Take care of yourself and cherish the memories and I hope in time it gets easier for you.

It may still be a bit early for you. But another cat will really help you. The moment I met my new cat. Ally of the sadness went. I still miss my old girl terribly, but having someone new to get to know has been the biggest healer. I noticed this last time around as well.