It hurts so much

[BlossomJill]

My gorgeous boy died suddenly at the weekend, I loved him dearly. I've never felt pain like it. It's like I've been kicked in the stomach repeatedly. I can't eat, can't sleep and can't stop crying. Im an absolute mess. Someone please tell me how to cope. I feel like everyone thinks 'it's just a cat' and I should somehow just be sad for an hour or 2 and then move on but I'm utterly broken. Sorry for the garbled rant I just don't know what to do with myself & can't help wondering if I had done something differently he might still be here 💔

I'm so sorry, I lost my girl a few months ago after 20 years by my side. I still cry, don't let anyone diminish your grief.

They never hurt you until they leave you 💕

I'm so sorry. 😔 He wasn't just a cat, he was your gorgeous boy.
I have a beautiful boy cat and I call him my son. He is very much part of our family.

Please be kind to yourself ❤

Oh so sorry 😔 no doubt that is devastating I have 2 cats and can't imagine if I lose them.
How old was your cat? Why don't you share some good things to us about him...try to remember him in a good way, what's his name?

Pets are in our lives daily, we live our lives around their routines, they’re always there, they’re family. So when they’re not, you can feel a huge sense of loss. What you are feeling is normal, ignore the ‘just a cat’ sort of people. I remember my FIL reacting with shock that I wasn’t ‘over’ losing one of our pets after about a week. I had to walk out as I felt so enraged.

We lost our cat and one of our dogs within a short period of time a couple of years ago and I honestly thought I’d never be ok again. I cried every day for months and still have a cry sometimes now. Still miss them, always will.

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Your cat was obviously very loved, how lucky you were to have each other. Time will help, it honestly really does. It does become bearable and you will be able to think of your lovely cat and smile one day. For now, let yourself cry and grieve. Try to put a rubbish film on or an audiobook if that might help you fall asleep. Be kind to yourself. 💐

No words of wisdom but lots of sympathy. Lost my little dog in June.

It's horrible. But they loved us & wouldn't want us to suffer.

💐💐💐

Thankyou everyone. He was only 10, he was such a big strong lad I thought we would have him for many more years. He had sudden liver failure, vet thinks he may have eaten some form of poison or possibly had something undiagnosed like a tumour. I'm not sure what's worse - I keep thinking of all the possible scenarios & it all breaks my heart. I can't help wonder if I could of done something differently. He was called Eddie and he had thumbs (polydactyl) and I just loved everything about him. I want him back so badly. He was our first baby, we got him when we didn't know if we could have children of our own... we eventually did have babies but the love we felt for him was huge & he got me through some sad times.

I can't bring myself to look at photos it's just too painful 💔

Eddie the cat, that’s very sweet. ❤️

I know it’s easy to say, but try not to go over all the scenarios. He lived a happy life with you, I can hear how loved he was in your words. That’s what matters and he would have felt that every day from you all. So many cats don’t get that level of love, and so many humans don’t get that special bond you had. Remember that part.

I do know I kept punishing myself that I’d missed something when we lost our cat and dog, I suppose it’s a normal part of the grieving process leading up to acceptance that they’ve gone. The reality is that I couldn’t have done anything, I know that. And it’s the same for you, he was loved and looked after. These things just happen. Give yourself time. ❤️

Be kind to yourself it really does hurt. Mine died about ten days ago, and was doing ok. But just told the cleaner she'd died, and that started me off again. It does get better though. And I found another cat really helped.