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What's best for an old stray?

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UtterlyUnimaginativeUsername · 06/08/2023 11:50

We moved to a house in the country three years ago, and there was a stray living here. We fed him daily and he's been around more and more regularly. We set up a bed and heat lamp for him in the external utility room (with the door open) and he spent last winter sleeping in there.

A few months ago, he had a seizure on the patio and we brought him to the vet. He had a load of infections and parasites, so he stayed in our downstairs loo for a week while we treated him for those. Then we let him out, and he went back to his usual routine. The vet said that even though he's very small and has enormous paws for his size, he's probably about ten. We have noticed that he tends to sit down gingerly and shuffle himself into specific positions, as if he has sore hips.

For a few weeks now, he's been coming into the sitting room and sitting watching telly with us. We've been giving him bits of dinner, which obviously helps, but he comes in when there isn't food, too. He'll happily sit there for an hour blinking at us. Yesterday he came up onto the couch beside me to investigate, and stood on my leg for a while. So he's getting more relaxed with us, though he doesn't like hands going near him and will slap us with his gigantic paws if we try.

We're planning to sell the house and move back to town, and I'm wondering if it's better for him to leave him where he has always lived, even though the new owners might not be cat people and he won't have a warm bed and regular food supply, or try and bring him with us and try and keep him warm and fed. Which would be the less awful of two traumatic options for him?

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BrevityOverLevity · 06/08/2023 12:09

I’d take him, sounds like he’s getting ready to retire from stray life. If the new people aren’t cat people he’s outside in the cold again with no food.

Or worse they hurt him.

AnnaMagnani · 06/08/2023 12:14

I'd take him with you.

He sounds old and slowing down, there is no guarantee the new owners will like him or even feed him and then he is going to die very quickly.

INeedAnotherName · 06/08/2023 12:23

He'll happily sit there for an hour blinking at us.
That is a form of cat communication. It's indicating that he trusts you. Blink back slowly. He's giving you cat kisses and saying I love you.
The eye blink is another way that non-aggressive cats signal that their intentions are not hostile. Cats blink at each other, as well as at the humans they trust, with a slow eye blink "cat kiss." Kitties that use this non-threat signal are able to smooth their interactions with other cats.

The new owners might hate cats and then he's going to suffer dreadfully. Either take him with you or contact Cats Protection or local cat rescues. I know what I would do if a cat was giving me kisses for an hour...

Freysimo · 06/08/2023 12:25

Please take him if you possibly can. It would be so sad for him to have to lose people who've cared for him so well.

Grumpyoldpersonwithcats · 06/08/2023 12:27

He really is your cat now. Please take him with you.
And please pay your MN cat tax by providing a photo 😼

BlastedPimples · 06/08/2023 12:29

Op, you sound so lovely. Taking care of this old boy.

Please take him with you.

Bonfire23 · 06/08/2023 12:36

Take him. You could try a joint supplement, my fussy old boy would come running for yumove on his food and he also liked seraquin
Neither are mega expensive and might help

Yarnorama · 06/08/2023 12:37

I would take him. But you'll need to keep him in at the new house for 6 weeks or so, longer than if he was a socialised and fully domestic cat.

He also might need some pain relief, the vets can advise on this. Arthritis is fairly common in older cats and, sadly, often ignored as it's seen as 'getting old' but treating can dramatically improve quality of life. It might be worth insuring him with a lifetime policy before approaching the vet on this. I would also apply a quality flea treatment before the move.

UtterlyUnimaginativeUsername · 06/08/2023 12:38

I know about blinking, I've had cats for years. That's why his blinks play me like a violin. He's such a lovely old boy. I just don't want to upset him too much.

Given that we're not even on the market yet, we have a few months to prepare him. I think we'll start by only feeding him in the house, and continue sharing our dinners with him.

He got up on the couch last night and changed the channel with the remote last night, DH was watching the Redbull racing thingy and Shadow changed it to The Brokenwood Mysteries. He's definitely an older gentleman!

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LostCats · 06/08/2023 12:46

Oh he has a name?! How lovely! Do pay the tax 😁

Also agree about arthritis meds if possible. The change it made to our old boy has been remarkable.

Florissante · 06/08/2023 12:50

Please take him with you. He's your cat now.

BrevityOverLevity · 06/08/2023 13:00

I think warmth and food will win him over. I’ve lived rurally and it’s bloody cold compared to suburbia.

My old girl has salmon oil in her brekkie every morning and I think it helps her joints.

You can get electric heating pads for old cats too. Or just hand your heated throw over to them.

FloofCloud · 06/08/2023 13:36

Aahh he's found his people - maybe he knows you're moving and has made the decision to be with you too - please take him!
Have you tried the usual sprays, plug ins, cat nip etc?
We adopted a stray feral cat and he's my absolute angel ... the vet didn't even realise he was stray he was so cuddly with me and purry (even though the blipped ear gives it away somewhat!) - and she said well he's no longer a stray feral cat and it made my heart sing 💕❤️🐾
Pics for tax ...

What's best for an old stray?
What's best for an old stray?
UtterlyUnimaginativeUsername · 06/08/2023 13:50

He has three names, as any good cat should! Shadow (because DD's first sighting of him was of a shadow slipping into the hedge), John West (because he reminds me of another black and white stray at our first house who loved tuna, and my ADHD-addled brain can't compute that it's not the same cat, so just uses the same name) and Captain Bap-Bap, because he baps us with his paws.

He has a heated mat in the bed under the heat lamp; we lost two geriatric cats in the last couple of years and one of them lived on a heat mat, so we had it lying aorund. We lost two young cats too; four cats in two years - it's been quite traumatic, and is actually the reason we're moving. The two younger ones were hit by cars, it's a tiny twisty dark country road and everyone drives like maniacs on it. It's not the right place for us.

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Grumpyoldpersonwithcats · 06/08/2023 13:59

@FloofCloud
Your ex-stray is gorgeous. Very similar looking to my first cat who decided to move in with me having been living rough for a while. That's why I can never resist a grey cat.

FloofCloud · 06/08/2023 14:02

Aahh thank you @Grumpyoldpersonwithcats - he's so lovely 🥰
We have two other cats but he's just my little treasure - I also love grey cats - he's very little too but delicate paws 🐾

Toddlerteaplease · 07/08/2023 12:33

@BrevityOverLevity my cats weren't overly keen on their heat mat. But love my heated throw!

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