I'm feeling pretty miserable about one of my cats at the moment even though I adore her. For context she is one of a sibling pair of rescues, she has a love/hate relationship with her brother and they cannot be allowed outside due to a virus they both have.
Basically, if we leave anything soft out, she will pee on it, no matter how clean her tray is, if our DCs forget to pick up thier clothes, a cuddly toy that falls out of thier bed or if we leave the bath mat down after a shower. Same for anything boxy, so if the DCs have toys out she will climb in the box and wee in it. We obviously try and keep things tidy but that doesn't always happen.
She has seen the vet a couple of times but they believe it's a behaviour issue. We have put lots of trays about and tried pretty much every brand of litter but she will still find something else, even if it is in the same room. We have just had new flooring fitted and we decided to by a doormat to protect the floor thinking she wouldn't pee on a scratchy mat but within a day I noticed it was dripping with urine.
We waited until our DCs were older to get cats but we have a genuinely unexpected 3rd DC on the way. Now I am really worried about things like play mats, moses basket etc and a younger child who isn't as good at tidying up. I don't want to be one of those people who rehomes a cat when a baby comes along but I need to sort this out before baby arrives or I don't think I can cope with baby's things being weed on.
I suspect it is to do with our other cat, they do have some pretty epic fights which I always put a stop to when I can. I have seen him nip her when she has come out of the toilet. To try and chill them out I have used feliway but it has done nothing. I have always wondered if she would prefer to be an only cat in a child free house. She really comes out of her shell when the DCs are at school, our boy cat is napping and it is just me and her, she loves the quiet, calm atmosphere.
DH dotes on them and has been really patient, but tonight while cleaning piss out of the just cleaned recycling bin he has said that he wants us to consider rehoming her if she just once pees on something we have bought for the baby. I really don't want to give up on her, but will she be happier elsewhere? My head is all over the place. Any ideas for anything I may have missed?