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My furry boy is dead and I am beyond heartbroken

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LivinLaVidaLoki · 07/04/2023 14:03

Yesterday morning we picked our 2 year old cat up from the cattery.
He had been there for 2 nights as we had been away for my brothers funeral.
We had literally just pulled out of the car park onto the road and he let out a howl and just fell over in the carrier.
It was awful. He just kind of howled and then like fell over. I knew he'd gone but I kept stroking and massaging his chest. We were round the corner from the vet so went straight in. They took him straight in but it was too late. I honestly just fell apart. Between my brother and now this it was just too much. I had to wait to pull myself together before we came home and told my son then when we told him and he broke down it just about fucking broke me.
He was just a baby.
My house is so empty without him tinkling about and running in and out through his cat flap, sleeping on his little bed in our room and following us if we go to the loo at night. Waiting at the window when we'd been out. He was such a beautiful boy and he was just a baby. I literally cannot stop crying whenever I'm in the house, even woke in a panic last night and started off again and I just feel like I've been punched in the heart when I think of his cheeky little face.
The vet thinks it was an undiagnosed heart condition.
I've suffered a lot of loss in my life and there's always been this thing inside that just tells me to keep going, but honestly, not this time. I just want to stay in bed and cry all day.

OP posts:
Dfg15 · 07/04/2023 14:06

Thats heartbreaking, Im so sorry for the loss of your lovely boy x

Toddlerteaplease · 07/04/2023 14:07

So sorry for both of your losses. At least you were with him though.

Topseyt123 · 07/04/2023 14:09

Oh no! I am so sorry, both for the loss of your brother and for your cat. What an awful thing to happen.

Sadly, I would guess that the vet was right about the possibility of an undiagnosed heart condition, but I doubt that helps you much at the moment and I can think of no words that can really help.

Thinking of you all.

orangeflags · 07/04/2023 14:09

So terribly sorry for your loss x

12BottlesOfVintageChampagne · 07/04/2023 14:10

Oh gosh, that's terribly sad and I'm very sorry for your loss. We lost a previous boy, though not in quite the same way. He left quite a big void. Hugs.

AliceOlive · 07/04/2023 14:11

I am so sorry. Heartbreaking.

ChrisPPancake · 07/04/2023 14:11

I'm so so sorry Flowers

HerodAntipasti · 07/04/2023 14:12

I’m so sorry for your losses. That’s just too much in such a short space of time. Gentle hugs.

RandomMess · 07/04/2023 14:13

So sorry, we lost one of ours suddenly and unexpectedly and we are still heartbroken.

Flowers
TomHanksIsFuckingAmazing · 07/04/2023 14:13

I'm so sorry xx

SpringHasSprung23 · 07/04/2023 14:13

I'm so sorry. It's a terrible loss & so young! both your brother & your cat 💕

Kittybelle123 · 07/04/2023 14:13

I'm so sorry for both of your losses. Take time and be kind to yourself Flowers

crazeecatlady · 07/04/2023 14:14

I feel your pain. The crying will stop - with time. It took me over a year but it will get less painful. Don't be afraid to talk about him. Have you got photos? Remember his funny little ways and his adorable face.

Pudmyboy · 08/04/2023 19:25

So very sorry for your loss, especially coming when it did, please be kind to yourself, given everything that has gone on, have you considered speaking to your GP for perhaps some temporary medication or counselling?
As others have said, eventually it will get easier to think about your little lost one 💐

SecretCoconut · 08/04/2023 21:08

I'm so so sorry 😢 that was a heartbreaking post to read. He knew you loved him ❤️

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 08/04/2023 21:18

Oh my gosh I'm so very sorry to read this. Would you like to tell us more about him?

Stillwearingskinnys · 08/04/2023 21:31

I am so very sorry for loss xx.

Please try to take comfort in that he will have known how much you loved him. You made him happy and gave him a loving life.

So many people and animals never experience love, security and a true close bond.

You gave him all those things in his life, you made him really happy xxx

HotSauceCommittee · 08/04/2023 22:53

I am so sorry. I was in the third day off work with stress and depression and my 10 year old boy was hit by a car and killed. Telling my sons was the worst thing. I was already suffering and really needed Dcat at the time.
Over a year has passed and I am better and back at work and we have two little sister cats living here now, to fill up the empty spaces Dcat left.
You WILL get better. Just allow yourself to grieve now xxx

longtompot · 08/04/2023 23:31

Oh that is so sad 😥 It almost sounds like he waited for you. Two is so young, far too young. He sounds a very lovely cat who knew so much love.
I am sorry for the loss of your brother too💐

headache · 08/04/2023 23:35

Oh so sorry for your losses, your poor boy but better to have so much love in a short life than none on a long hard life ❤️

LivinLaVidaLoki · 09/04/2023 05:41

Thank you all so much for your kindness.
I'm sat in bed crying now just because he didn't jump on my bed for cuddles when I got up for the loo.
He used to sleep on the roof of a pyramid bed in our room, he wouldn't ever sleep in it, he squashed the top down so it looked a bit like a chair. Then if I got up for a wee in the night, usually about this time, he'd get up on the bed next to me, make like he was digging a hole next to my belly (I sleep on my side) then curl up and go to sleep with me stroking his back or lie with his paws on dh.
He also had a little blanket in the window bay he'd sleep on and I picked that up and smelled it yesterday and I can smell him on it. Sometimes when I picked him up I'd put my head in his neck and breathe him in and joke that he smelled like spicy biscuits.
Just a little while ago we saw a cat for adoption that looked almost just like him and we were joking (half joking) we should get him and they could be brothers. We'd joke about him having to share toys and beds (he had so many beds as he always changed his mind where he wanted to sleep).
When I'm in the kitchen I keep looking down at the cat flap expecting to see his little face looking back up at me through it. He'd Sometimes be playing in the garden and if he heard or saw you in the kitchen he'd watch through the cat flap to see if you were making him food. Sometimes he'd come in and investigate and Sometimes he'd see you weren't and go back to hiding under the Bush or jumping around after bugs in the grass.

OP posts:
Tearyouapartlikeahumancheesestring · 09/04/2023 06:49

I’m so sorry, that’s such an awful shock for you. Our kitten was knocked over last year and I cried for weeks, it was awful.

it did take a while but we really found talking about him helped and we’re now just thinking about getting a new boy.

please be kind to yourself as losing a pet suddenly is a horrible thing to go through.

Kittybelle123 · 09/04/2023 22:12

@LivinLaVidaLoki such a beautiful description of your boy. It transported me back to those very moments that I also remember too well. Our little kitties really do leave their paw prints on our hearts 🐾

Bialystockandbloom · 11/04/2023 00:04

I'm so sorry 💔

My 1year old boy cat got run over 2 months ago, it's so so hard, the grief is properly real.

Like others have said, he had a life full to the brim of love and happiness.

Be kind to yourself xx

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