Help please- I'm not sure I like my cat

[OldSpeclkledHen]

So I got her from a rescue Aug21, I wasn't able to meet her before adopting, it was a case of only meet her when you take her - and I've never really gelled with her
She's was/is very nervous, she's now ok with me but anyone else in the house, she's gone (which doesn't bother me) and here are the buts!
I'm out the house all day Monday to Friday at work, so she's alone. Can't get another cat as she came from multi cat house and instructions from rescue she needed to be only cat
She doesn't play (she's an indoor cat, she's not interested in toys - scared of the wand)
I've got family coming to stay for 10 days later this month - am worried she'll freak out
She's always been very good with the litter tray, but just lately - not so great - I think it's stress (and I don't know how to make it better for her😫)
My friend when I got her said she'll have a better life with me, but I honestly don't think she does.
She needs to be with a little old lady who's home all day every day that wants a lap cat and they both have company.
Not really sure why I'm typing this ... prob to get it out of my head 🙈
Shoot me down.

Have you tried Feliway? Do you let her out? She may well be just quiet

I definitely won't shooot you down! I can understand and truly empathise how you feel.
We rescued a homeless street cat 7 years ago, in an emergency situation, so I didn't know his personality. It was a mistake!
It has been awful, I've never bonded with him.. He's aggressive, not loving, and just tolerates living here. He's always missing, fighting and in trouble or ill.
I wish I could have rehomed him years ago.
I love cats and have always loved my other cats. I hope it does get better for you, but don't feel guilty. You feel what you feel. Good luck.

Took me tears for my ex-ferals to settle in well enough so they felt at home, and even now Girlcat will only come downstairs if any visitors are people she knows. Boycat right to the end would hide even from DSis & Nephew no. 4 who are regular visitors & would feed them if I was away.

As a pp said, try Feliway or a similar hormone plug in. Also try Zylkene starting a few days before your visitors come to stay & for while they are there. Make sure she has a safe place to hide, mine use my bedroom where I've got plenty of comfy hidey holes e.g. old towels in the bottom of the wardrobe with the door kept open all the time, or a drawer with the front taken off so they can hide there.

After about 3-4 years of being scared of me, they eventually "turned" and Boycat ended up a total cuddle monster. Girlcat not so much, but since Boycat was PTS she's also gone that way.

Tobias is still being an insecure ex-stray after a couple of months, but I know it will take forever and he will be worth it in the long run.