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Cat hit by car last night and it was awful

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KingofCats · 21/01/2023 19:49

My cat died last night after being hit by a car.
I can’t stop thinking about it and what I should have done differently and so I hope it’s ok to use this space to try and decompress a bit.
It is distressing I’m afraid.

I came home around 10.30pm from a works do and he was very pleased to see me to get fed and hammered down two sachets.
Then by around 11.15pm when I was in bed and on the phone to my partner (working away) I could hear animal noises outside but thought it was next door dog.
Then when I came off the phone around 11.30pm I heard him howling
in the house and went downstairs and he was howling, retching / vomiting and dragging his back legs.
He was moving around a lot between rooms and going into small spaces and then tried to get out the cat flap again but clearly in a lot of pain.
I faffed around trying to get the vet emergency number - had to make a few calls and be redirected - out to the bottom of the garden to the shed to get the cat carrier and then realised I couldn’t put him in it as he was stretched right out in pain (lying more still by now) and I didn’t want to cramp him up in the carrier.
I had some left over metacam from a minor surgery he had a while back and thought about trying to get that into him and couldn’t find the dosing syringe or think how I could give it to him.

So I lay him in a big box (more faffing to get recycling box from outside and find blankets to lie him on) and took him to the car but then he was trying to drag himself out the box and was distressed by being in it.
I lay him on the footwell but he was still clawing about trying to get up and I couldn’t possibly drive like that.
It was late and all my neighbour lights were off and nobody passing by on the road to help me and I thought I would have to get him in the cat carrier so I could drive safely (emergency vet was half an hour’s drive away) but I couldn’t bloody put the thing together as required different bits to be zipped up and I couldn’t do it and whilst I was faffing about with that he just went still at last and died in the footwell.
I was still sat next to him while he was in the footwell and was stroking him in between trying to do the zips but not enough 😞

I feel terrible the last hour of his life was so awful !
And I was on my own and if I’d just had someone with me I could have fully comforted him and got him to the vet sooner.
But at least the kids were all with their dad so didn’t witness.

He was a boss of a cat.
Head of the household.
Excellent hunter and liked to take offence at every other cat on the road, and also at random cupboards/corners of the room in the house (have many videos of him miaowing at a random corner).
Bullied the postman (attacked his legs so that parcels are now left at the post office).
Have postman on ring doorbell running away and telling a passer by “that cat’s a nutter”.
Affectionate to his own humans on his own terms / when hungry (always hungry).
He went out fighting I reckon as that was his personality.
But also loved a nice long cosy sleep on the grass out the front of the house on a sunny day.
Sleep well in a sunny patch forever, my king of cats.

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TheStarMachine · 21/01/2023 19:58

I am so sorry. I am sure he knew you were helping him and he would have felt comforted having you with him. He sounds like an amazing cat. x

DrSmoot · 21/01/2023 19:58

I’m so, so sorry for your loss Flowers
I too have lost a beloved cat to a RTC, it is heartbreaking.
There is a memorial thread here. Would you like to post a favourite picture? He sounds a little character, poor postie! He was well loved and must have had a happy life with you all. So sorry.
www.mumsnet.com/talk/the_litter_tray/3965838-The-Litter-Tray-Memorial-Thread?reply=115986059

megacat · 21/01/2023 19:59

I'm so very sorry to hear this.

I lost my cat to a car a year ago and thankfully it was instant. I can't imagine how terrible it was for you seeing him in pain like that.

Guilt is often the first feeling in grief. I felt guilty for letting him out that morning, a minute either way and well it wouldn't have happened. But we do our best. You did your best and a vet wouldn't have saved him by the sounds of it. He was with you and you cared for him.

I still cry over mine now. It's an intense grief, the pain of losing a cat. Especially in this way.

It's a horrible distressing thing that you've just experienced, please be kind to yourself Flowers

Runningoncoffeealone · 21/01/2023 20:00

Oh OP I am so, so sorry 😞
I've had at least one cat in my life since I got my first at four years old and couldn't imagine the pain of what you've just been through.
They give us so much love and happiness and then they leave and break our hearts completely.

Try not to blame yourself or wonder how you could have done things differently - you did what you thought was best at the time, and from how you described it, I think all the vets could have done was end his suffering 💐

SmellyBumMum · 21/01/2023 20:01

So sorry to hear. We lost our cat the same way back in October and it was heartbreaking. She was our first cat and only 8 months old. She too ruled the roost and lived for being outdoors - loved hunting mice and bringing them home. RIP to your precious furry friend, you gave him the best life ❤🐈

DillDanding · 21/01/2023 20:04

Oh poor you. I’m so sorry. We had a cat killed by a car. She was dead, but warm and floppy when we found her on the road.

We were heartbroken for a long time and there was no comfort to be had. It took a long time to get over and we’ve never dared have a cat since.

You’ll feel better with time.

KingofCats · 21/01/2023 20:23

Thank you all so much.

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PissedOffNeighbour22 · 21/01/2023 20:29

A similar thing happened to my cat too. I still feel so much guilt years later that her death was dragged out due to me because I couldn't drive. I had to wait for my mum to come over to drive to the vets. By the time we got there she had died. She was a wonderful cat and I'll never find one like her again. Definitely one of a kind.

All we can do is try to move on and not blame ourselves for panicking or not doing things quick enough. We can only do what we can do at that moment in time.

Because of my guilt over it all I got sucked into buying mementos to remember her by. I bought a beautiful £40 photoframe and paid to have it shipped from America - when it turned up it was the most crappy plasticky piece of trash ever and that upset me even more - I couldn't even get buying a photoframe right and it felt insulting to her memory.

Make sure you give yourself time to process it properly and grieve appropriately. I felt rushed into being 'over it' and my then husband was not supportive as he processed it by not showing any emotion to avoid upsetting me more.

So sorry for the loss of your wonderful cat. Go easy on yourself 💐

MortimerTheCat · 21/01/2023 20:32

My cat died after being hit by a car, but he had already passed when we found him. He had been missing for a few days, and I found him tucked under some bushes in a neighbours garden. It was awful, but at least I knew what had happened to him 😢

so sorry to hear about your cat, just know that he he had a happy life with you, and knew that you loved him

helpfulperson · 21/01/2023 20:39

You took the best care of him that you were able to. He would have known you were there and trying to help.

Its OK to feel sad and think about the 'what if's' but don't beat yourself up about anything you did or didn't know.

Wolfiefan · 21/01/2023 20:44

Oh my lovely I’m so so very sorry. We lost a cat to an rta. You have to remember all the many many hours and days that your cat had a wonderful life with you. And I’m sure that even if you feel you didn’t do enough that your cat knew you were there and he was loved. Look after yourself.

KingofCats · 21/01/2023 20:50

I’m so sorry for all of you who have loved and lost cats as well. They’re bloody awesome. We had a lovely evening together the night before he died, he sat by me on the sofa the whole night.

kids are devastated but want a new cat and I just don’t think I’ll be ready for a long time. My lifestyle doesnt suit an indoor cat and I don’t think I could bear another accident.

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Flaunch · 21/01/2023 20:53

We lost our favourite cat after she was hit by a car just before Christmas and it was devastating. I found her moments after it happened and I could see her injuries weren’t survivable so I just held her while she died. One of the most horrible things I’ve been through and like you it took me ages to process it and it still comes in to my head all the time. All cats are fabulous but some cats are really
special, mine was even though she was thick as mince and a complete knob, and it sounds like yours was too.

Rest in peace Pussmus.

tabulahrasa · 21/01/2023 20:53

I hit a cat*...he was in a similar state to how yours sounds, I found his owners really quickly, they got him to the vets but he had to be PTS about a week later.

If they’re that badly injured there really isn’t a good outcome, if you’d just say with him you’d be wondering if you could have saved him, if you’d got to the vet in time it could have just resulted in a slower death.

  • It was honestly just unavoidable, I was doing just under 20, I saw a cat run out from under a parked car, braked and hit the one chasing it. It was really upsetting, it was about 13 years ago and I still get upset thinking about the way he was crying... so I can’t imagine how much worse it must be when it’s your cat.
Rosie492 · 21/01/2023 20:58

Thinking of you and sending lots of love.

Ludo19 · 21/01/2023 21:35

Sorry for your loss. Take comfort you were with him at the end. X

Toddlerteaplease · 21/01/2023 23:27

I don't think there is anything else you could have done. He died with you next to him. Knowing he was loved.

Manaslave18 · 23/01/2023 15:36

Sorry to hear this. I lost my own beloved cat this weekend too. She was just passed away when I got up in the morning. I'm blaming myself by looking back at all of the small signs that she may have been unwell last week and torturing myself with what-ifs.

KingofCats · 23/01/2023 18:27

Manaslave18 · 23/01/2023 15:36

Sorry to hear this. I lost my own beloved cat this weekend too. She was just passed away when I got up in the morning. I'm blaming myself by looking back at all of the small signs that she may have been unwell last week and torturing myself with what-ifs.

I’m so sorry. I’ve been working from home today and he’d always keep me company curled up on the floor next to me waiting for me to get up so he could mither for food, and join my zoom calls. If I was having a stressful day I’d sit with him for a 5 minute stroke and feel better.

I’m sure your D Cat knew she was loved even if unwell.

here’s my handsome boy. He was a tuxedo Maine coon mix. He was bloody massive!

Cat hit by car last night and it was awful
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LittleLillie · 23/01/2023 22:41

I am so sorry Op, be kind to yourself.

He was very loved right to the end and he would have known that x

Finallydo · 24/01/2023 15:19

My love to all of you. We lost our princess, Tilly, Sunday just gone. She was in the garden as usual, a free spirit. I spoke with our vet, she could have had a heart attack or stroke. We desperately miss her and are all heartbroken. She was DH's loyal companion, wherever he was, she was with him.😢

eyestotheskies · 25/01/2023 20:43

I’m in tears reading this OP, that must have been so distressing.

My lovely cat of 12 suddenly became extremely ill and had to be pts 6 weeks ago. It was just devastating..

i’m so sorry for everyone’s losses.

KingofCats · 26/01/2023 20:45

I heard from the vet. I assumed it was a car accident as he came in from outside apparently terribly injured and he couldn’t move his hind legs and in pain. However apparently it was a blood clot. There was nothing we could have done even if at the vet when it happened and it was a mercy he died relatively quickly. I’m at least slightly glad he hadn’t been hit by a car and had to drag himself in from that. It’s apparently common in middle aged male Maine coons.

www.pdsa.org.uk/pet-help-and-advice/pet-health-hub/conditions/saddle-thrombus-aortic-thromboembolism-in-cats

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KingofCats · 26/01/2023 20:47

@Finallydo@eyestotheskies so sorry for your losses. Thinking of you and your lovely cats.

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Manaslave18 · 28/01/2023 18:55

Do you find any comfort in knowing what happened?
I’m still driving myself mad trying to figure out what happened to my girl.

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