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Does anyone have a cat who chooses to stay indoors?

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BogHead · 10/01/2023 14:40

We live on a fairly quiet street with some absolute idiots who drive far too fucking fast. A year ago we lost our beautiful young cat who was hit by one of the idiots. It was horrific.

A year on, my teens are desperate for a new cat friend and are looking at rescues on Facebook again. I would have another in a heartbeat if I thought I could keep them inside or could cat-proof the garden, but unfortunately due to the layout of our house/garden, neither is possible.

I'm just wondering if there are cats out there who are genuinely happy indoors and choose not to go out?

Every time I think about a cat going out on the street it turns my stomach now and I'm worried I will live a state of perpetual anxiety!

Just wondered if anyone had a cat like this, if they've always been like that, etc. Or am I just kidding myself? 😅Thanks!

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Scalottia · 11/01/2023 16:49

I do! I can leave the door open all day, but she prefers to be inside sleeping on her bed. My other cat chooses to go outside. Some cats really aren't interested in going outside but I guess it's hard to know with a new cat.

sleepyfelines · 11/01/2023 16:54

I have three cats, they are all fully indoors. We're just careful going in/out and making sure windows aren't open.

They're all happy and healthy. One of them is currently lying on top of me, the other two are likely on a bed somewhere (they all have their favourite spaces!).

There's nothing wrong with keeping cats indoors as long as they're stimulated and occupied. I'd suggest getting two, so that they can keep each other company.

CongaLine · 11/01/2023 17:02

Mine (moggy) has full and free access to the outside world anytime he chooses. The furthest he's ever been is to the end of our very small garden - and even then, only with a human slave a couple of feet away.

He has all the hunting instinct of a wet mop. In 13 years the most he's ever managed to catch is one spider.

Fingers (and paws) crossed for you that you find a suitable rescue cat or two.

Greydog · 11/01/2023 17:06

We had a lovely cat, from a very tiny kitten who hated outside. Well, she liked the security of our back yard, and spent many happy hours dozing in the sun on the table or chairs, Once she climbed on the shed roof, on to the wall into next doors yard. She mewed and wailed to come home, and we had to go round to get her! We have a larger front garden with trees (smallish) which we thought she'd enjoy, but no - she growled at us for taking her out and never wanted to go out there. As for natural hunters - our yard has a wall, which sometimes had mice in it - sitting there one evening two of them ran over her tail, and she didn't even notice. She was the most wonderful cat, and I still miss her.

sleepyfelines · 11/01/2023 17:06

CongaLine · 11/01/2023 17:02

Mine (moggy) has full and free access to the outside world anytime he chooses. The furthest he's ever been is to the end of our very small garden - and even then, only with a human slave a couple of feet away.

He has all the hunting instinct of a wet mop. In 13 years the most he's ever managed to catch is one spider.

Fingers (and paws) crossed for you that you find a suitable rescue cat or two.

My three are very proficient at hunting roast chicken from the kitchen counter. Two have branched out to cover cheese as well, and one of them particularly likes pizza. Not sure how they'd do with moving targets though!

PlaitBilledDuckyPuss · 11/01/2023 17:10

Ask about an FIV positive cat - they are usually rehomed as indoor cats. My parents have one - he has no additional health needs, just can't be kept with other cats unless they are also FIV.

BamBamBilla · 11/01/2023 17:12

My cat chooses to stay indoors most of the time. She'll come out if we are out there like when I'm pottering in the garden but she'll follow be straight back in when I go back in. We always offer to open the window into the totally enclosed back yard but she'll only go out for about 2 minutes. She's quite content at looking at the birds from inside.

NewYearNewName2023 · 11/01/2023 18:17

As ours have gotten older they have been less bothered about being outside - could you look for an adult rescue?

whataboutsecondbreakfast · 11/01/2023 21:31

We have three indoor cats. They all seem perfectly happy - no scraps, no behavioural issues, no health issues with any of them.

Two we've had from kittens and one we rescued when he was about two years old. He'd been an outdoor cat previously but never seems bothered now and has never tried to go out.

We live on a busy road and cats get run over so often - I'd never let them out to fend for themselves.

UnknownElement · 11/01/2023 21:33

I adopted my cat aged 1 a decade ago. She is not an indoor cat but only likes to go out when we are in the garden, she follows us about. @BamBamBilla just like mine.

ohime · 27/12/2024 10:39

I found this thread while googling 'Why does my cat want to stay indoors when she could be outside?'. All of my previous cats, if given the choice, would have preferred to be outdoors at all times, and being good British cats they didn't care too much about the weather and were out in all sorts. (I've lived several times on a busy street, but fortunately not one where people drove like maniacs.) I used to think this preference for outdoors was because I had mostly male cats; they definitely had a need to patrol and mark their territory several times a day - but then I had a female cat who was the most intrepid explorer of them all; she would disappear for days, roaming far afield, then reappear with the whiff (often literally) of foreign climes about her.

Cut to the present, when new cat just looks at the door I'm holding open for her, shrugs and goes back to her comfy cushion. I've been trying to figure out this aberrant behaviour: is she ill? Is she being menaced by other cats in the garden? Is she particularly sensitive to the cold, it being winter? etc... but actually it's probably just down to temperament. She is an extremely nervous and freaked-out creature; if she was a human she'd undoubtedly be on medication for anxiety. She was also a fully indoor cat before ending up at a shelter, where I chose her because, of all the cats, she seemed the most unhappy to be there. My house has now become her safe space (possibly because I drench it with industrial amounts of Feliway), and she often refuses to go out in the garden unless I go with her and stand there scrolling on my phone while she explores. It's not that she's particularly afraid of the other cats that come through, it's just that unpredictability and wide-open spaces really aren't her thing. (I once saw her race for the house in a panic when a leaf blew onto her.) When she does go out on her own she tends to stick very close to the house; sometimes - having fondly imagined that she's roaming around out there, indulging her wild instincts - I'll catch a glimpse of her hunched on the bench outside the kitchen window watching, not the abundant wildlife, but me moving around inside. She's also afraid of most noises; sometimes I'll have spent five minutes holding the door open while she gathers the courage to go out, and then the neighbours will burst out of their house talking loudly and slamming the door, and she'll scuttle back inside.

My cat guru Jackson Galaxy once said, in response to a question about whether it's possible to train a standoffish cat to become a lap kitty: yes, it probably is - but why not enjoy the cat you have, rather than trying to create the cat you wish you had? I've been trying to take that advice to heart with my freaked-out kitty, and to relax - and not automatically think something must be wrong - when she chooses to spend an entire day indoors. The only issue is that she undoubtedly isn't getting enough exercise, so I try to play with her more - another issue for someone who wants a largely- or fully-indoor cat. If your cat is sedentary by nature like my kitty, it can feel like a lot of work just trying to get her to move a bit, and you may not want (or have room for) cat furniture/toys in your house.

I'm from the US, where most cats these days are fully-indoor cats. Personally I wouldn't have wanted that for any of my previous cats; I think they would have been miserable - but my current cat would likely be fine with it, so the key is to find the right cat. I had no clue about my cat's character before adopting her, and neither did the staff at the shelter (small local shoestring-budget outfit that was stuffed to bursting with cats when I visited), who somehow managed to keep her for six months without discovering that she was female! I imagine the OP has long ago either got a cat or not, but for anyone in a similar situation, I'd recommend going through Cats Protection as their process seems very thorough. Where the local shelter just seemed relieved that anyone would want to take any of their cats, Cats Protection (which I didn't ultimately use because they're too far away) wanted to have a long phone interview and look at my house on streetview in order to make sure the cat I wanted would be a good fit - and the person I spoke with listened carefully to my requirements and gently steered me away from the cat I'd first chosen on their website.

Favouritefruits · 27/12/2024 14:34

I have a blind kitten, she couldn’t survive outside, I take her in the garden on her harness and lead but that’s as much as she gets outside! There’s quite a few blind kittens, they are just as playful and snuggly as kittens with vision but are harder to rehome. I’m getting my garden landscaped in March and having a cat proof fence put up so my girls can roam the garden but can’t get out and nothing can get in! Have you thought about that as an option? Blind kitten tax ….

Does anyone have a cat who chooses to stay indoors?
stormsandsunshine · 28/12/2024 22:42

One of the cats we had when I was little hated going outdoors. If we took her out she would cry and sit on the back doorstep to be let back inside. She was scared of grass, birds, basically everything.

AuntieHistamine · 28/12/2024 22:47

I have a British shorthair who has no interest in going out. She is given the option to but very very rarely does. Will sometimes sit out on the patio if we are out there but would never go out alone. She doesn’t even seem particularly scared of the outdoors just not interested.

HPandthelastwish · 28/12/2024 22:50

My male cat would rather fling himself through a window rather than stay indoors

My female cat will potter around the garden with you when it's nice out but will go in with you and at the slightest sniff of a chill won't go out at all. She's very nervy, a rescue and did spend more time out but then we had a neighbour move in with 5 cats and that was that.

However I didn't know either of these things when I got them.

Unless you have to keep them in for medical reasons I think it's neigh on impossible to tell whether they will be a home body or an escape artist

OhMehGoddess · 28/12/2024 23:16

My old girl is an indoor cat by her own choice, for years she went out as she pleased. It wasn't very often though. She stopped going out unless I was with her. When we got a new door, we didn't get a new cat flap.

She never asks to go out ever. If I'm out and she's there, she may come out for a wee sniff and pee, but goes back in very quick.

She loves sleeping and sleeps all night, mostly tucked in next to me or the odd night with my youngest.

PurpleSky300 · 28/12/2024 23:23

Cats all have difference histories and experiences that play a part in what they like. I adopted an elderly moggy who had lived outside most of her life and now you couldn't pay her to spend time outdoors. She will go outside for maybe 5-10 mins a day in the height of summer and beyond that, she likes to be inside.

Fozzleyplum · 28/12/2024 23:29

Of our 3 rescue cats, one chooses to be an indoor cat. The other 2 come and go at will through the catflap, but our indoor cat will go through the open back door on a sunny day and roll around on the patio for a few minutes. We have very occasionally caught her using the catflap to go outside on a warm night, to eat cobwebs (!), but I suspect she's outside for no more than about 1 hour per year.

stayathomer · 28/12/2024 23:32

Yup, our cat happily stays inside, we’ve actually tried to get her out more and she scratches at the door or window then settles on the couch/ bed/ her bed. Hates the outdoors no matter what the weather!

Fozzleyplum · 28/12/2024 23:35

I ought to add that, for reasons to do with her mother's health (she died having her litter), along with some evidence of genetic issues spotted by the vet, our indoor cat is the feline equivalent of SEN. I hope that doesn't sound flippant, but aspects of her behaviour are not very typical. She is a lovely cat!

90sFilms · 28/12/2024 23:42

My cat won't go out

Tried a few times with a leash on her and she just froze every time

However we rescued her from a woman who threw kittens out in the garden before time because she didn't like the smell Angry

But she's incredibly happy indoors

ohime · 29/12/2024 09:13

Hmm, a preference for staying indoors does seem (roughly) to run along gender lines. Perhaps my roaming adventuress was an aberration!

ememem84 · 29/12/2024 09:31

My girl was a feral rescue. Someone had dumped her in a park when she was a kitten. She was rescued and then we took her home. She does go out but only in our garden (she chooses not to go further there’s nothing stopping her) she spends a lot of time snuggled up next to me.

iloveeverykindofcat · 29/12/2024 09:40

My old lady mostly stays in in winter. She's still very healthy and quite active for her age, but other than a quick check of the gardens to make sure all is in order she prefers to stay in until the sun returns. She was never an adventurous cat even when young. The little one is out gallivanting in all weathers. I have to stop calling her the little one as she is now bigger than the senior.

Waterboatlass · 29/12/2024 09:43

I know it's an old thread but in case anyone is looking for similar, a friend had a stunning cat with FIV who was happy indoors. I would see about cats with those sorts of needs rather than an 'indoor' breed which really doesn't sit right with me.

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