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Giving up a cat

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Catproblem · 20/11/2022 09:05

You’re all going to hate me but please hear me out

Firstly we HAVE a cat. He’s 8. We’ve had him four years, and got him from Battersea at Old Windsor. He was incredibly nervous and it took him about three years to settle. He still hides when he hears the postman, dogs, or children walking past. We’ve no idea of his past, but I don’t think he was happy. We love him so much.

My 24 year old daughter lives in a rented flat 4 hours away in a city. She took in a street cat, that her friend found and had him for about 2/3 months. She sent us so many photos and videos of this cat. She deflead and wormed him, and he spent hours sitting on her lap. He wouldn’t leave her alone for a second. She said he was lovely. Earlier this month her landlady found out, and said she couldn’t keep him. She begged us to take him, and so we did.

Obviously we kept him in a quiet room for the first few days, but he was desperate to explore. Now he’s out, he attacks our cat constantly, and our cat (who is huge) is terrified.

We’re real animal lovers and all our pets are from rescues (we also have guinea pigs), but I think I would like to rehome this boy. I think he needs to be an only cat. I know things might improve, but I think my first priority is our actual cat.

My daughter says no one will want him and he’ll be put to sleep because he’s not the most attractive, and she thinks he’s old because he doesn’t have teeth. I’m not convinced. Watching him flying across the room to attack our cat, I don’t think he’s that old. I think he’d make a lovely pet for someone, or a couple.

Are there shelters that don’t put cats down? I’d love some advice on where to contact. We’re in north Hampshire, not far from Reading and Basingstoke. I’d rather not take him to Battersea as that’s where we got ours, and I’d just feel awful.

Im prepared for abuse, but this isn’t my mess

OP posts:
Stickytreacle · 30/11/2022 10:07

It's no wonder he's attacking your poor cat of he's entire.
I'd keep them separated until he's been dpne, bearing in mind that hormones take a while to settle, then reintroduce gradually.
I've taken in 11+ feral cats, all have integrated well but need neutering as a priority.
I'm sure they will be fine as long as you don't rush reintroductions.

TheOGCCL · 30/11/2022 10:18

We had a situation a bit like this but wouldn’t have dreamed it should be the resident cat that should go. That’s kind of like replacing your cat. It’s not your cat’s fault your daughter took on a cat she probably shouldn’t have.

Given how scared your resident cat is, it may be a hard slog integrating them but there is still hope especially if you can neuter.

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