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To PTS or wait & see? Devastated
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Catnipples · 23/06/2022 09:43

Hi everyone,

Struggling and need a hand hold. My beautiful cat, who is my world, is very poorly.
She started having occasional coughing spells around 8 weeks ago, and my DW & I thought she was trying to bring up a hairball, which she does occasionally.
She went for her annual vet check a month ago & they said she seemed healthy. However, the last few weeks, she began to go off her food (she has always been food-obsessed) and a little quiet. She lost a bit of weight too, so we took her to the vets last Tuesday. They did blood work & an abdomen ultrasound & everything came back clear. Said we could go to a specialist referral centre around an hour's drive away
for further investigation.

Over the last week, she has become more withdrawn & pretty much stopped eating. We took her back to the vets this Tuesday as I thought they should have done X-rays. They did, and they found that her lungs look cloudy. They don't know if it's cancer or could be asthma. They gave her a steroid shot & antibiotics. We brought her home & she is just hiding away in the garden underneath bushes, and looks so spaced out it's heartbreaking.

I cannot stop crying & am devastated. She absolutely hates the vets & travelling, it is always a trauma, so if it is cancer, treatment/chemo is just not an option. We are taking her back tonight for another steroid shot, so we will speak to the vet then. She's still not eating or drinking.

Am so so torn about the possibility of her being PTS. My main feeling is that I just don't want to let her down. I don't want to PTS now and wonder if it was something that could have healed/passed if we had given her more time on the meds. But I don't want to prolong her suffering by waiting & then having to PTS if she doesn't improve.

It is the hardest thing ever. She is our baby (we don't have DC).


Sorry for the long post. I'm not sure what I need. I just feel totally unprepared, it has all happened so quickly & I just can't imagine life without her.

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Want2beme · 23/06/2022 10:55

I understand how you're feeling. It is so difficult to decide what's best. I always tell myself to be guided by the vet. My young cat went through a similar thing. She was behaving differently to normal. The vet x-rayed her and found a mass on her lungs. I was so shocked because she was young. There was nothing that could be done to cure her, so I had to agree to put her to sleep there and then.

See what the vet says later today. You'll know what's best for your DcatFlowers

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Roominmyhouse · 23/06/2022 13:28

No advice but just wanted to offer my support as in a similar boat.

Our beautiful ginger boy has cancer in his mouth, and we are now just waiting for him to deteriorate. He’s still eating fortunately but the vet didn’t think he’d have long. We are really struggling on knowing when is the right time when we don’t want to say goodbye but also don’t want him to suffer.

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Catnipples · 24/06/2022 20:30

Thank you both for your replies, I really appreciate it.

We took her back to the vets yesterday, they gave her another steroid shot & an anti-nausea & vitamin B12 shot. Discussed the possibility that it might be fluid in her lungs as she has brought up mucus since starting the antibiotics & they said it's possible. They definitely weren't encouraging us to PTS.
Got home & she started eating! Little bits at first then more throughout today, acting more normal & not hiding anymore. Trying so hard to not get our hopes up but can't help it.

We're just going to take it day by day & see how she goes.

@Want2beme I am so sorry to hear about your cat. That must have come as such a shock & although we are never ready for them to leave, it's so much worse when they're young 😔

@Roominmyhouse That sounds so tough, I'm so sorry. My thoughts are that you know him best and you will just know instinctively when the time is right 💕

Thanks again x

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Roominmyhouse · 24/06/2022 20:39

@Catnipples glad she’s eating and home. I hope you enjoy some snuggles with her.

Our boy has taken a turn for the worse today and now seems to be struggling to eat. We are seeing the vets tomorrow but I think realistically we will be saying goodbye this week 😕

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Catnipples · 24/06/2022 20:50

Oh no, I'm sorry. If he's struggling to eat then yes, the time may have come. I was looking back through my phone for a picture of something & realised how many I have of my cat, and it reassured me that no matter what happens, she has had the best, most loving life. Maybe that would help you too.
Hugs x 💐

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Roominmyhouse · 24/06/2022 20:59

You are so right. We’ve been looking through pictures of our boy. He might not have had the longest life but he’s had a lovely life. He lives between us and our neighbours and is loved by both households. It really does bring some comfort to remember that ❤️

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Catnipples · 24/06/2022 22:23

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Roominmyhouse · 26/06/2022 19:35

He’s not so good today. Desperately trying to get some pain meds into him but whatever method we try we are failing. He’s struggling today. Really thinking the end is soon 😔

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mistermagpie · 26/06/2022 20:01

I've had cats my whole life. One very very important thing I have learned about knowing when it's time to PTS is that it is always always better to do it a day too early than a day too late.

One of my cats was very poorly and I just couldn't let him go. Obviously I did eventually, but I look back and think I should have taken him a few days earlier. Yes I got those days with him, but what did he get? The next time I was in that situation I made the decision much quicker. The outcome was just as heartbreaking obviously, but I know he was spared a prolonged amount of suffering and I am glad he was able to enjoy his last days a bit.

I'm so sorry for anyone going through it, it's an awful decision to have to make.

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Astrak · 27/06/2022 06:25

I entirely agree with the belief that it is better to let an animal go a week too early rather than a day too late.
It's the last kindness that we can give them.
Condolences to all those facing this at the moment.

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Catnipples · 27/06/2022 08:29

@Roominmyhouse oh no, I'm sorry to hear that. It does sound as though the time has come. It will be heartbreaking but you are going to need to be brave now, for your boy.

I saw this post on another thread & it really helped:
thecatsite.com/threads/when-the-moment-comes.237066/

Sending you hugs. You can do this xx

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Roominmyhouse · 27/06/2022 09:04

Thank you. That made me cry but it was lovely ❤️

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Want2beme · 27/06/2022 10:37

Catnipples what a lovely note. I've kept it. Thank you for posting the link. I haven't heard of that site.

How's puss today?

Roominmyhouse, sorry you're bing through this difficult timeFlowers

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Catnipples · 27/06/2022 12:54

@Want2beme she's still eating & drinking, only small amounts but it's something. She's very quiet and resting a lot, finding quiet spots in the house. So no real improvement but no decline either. She has brought up mucus (clear) a few times so we're really hoping it's a chest infection & not The Other Thing.

Thank you for asking xx

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Want2beme · 28/06/2022 15:43

Hope she gets better very soonSmile

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GodspeedJune · 01/07/2022 16:47

@Catnipples I highly recommend taking the referral to a specialist. I have complete faith in my local vet but the referral centres have far super equipment and specialist knowledge at their fingertips. My own vet admitted they will get to the bottom of any problem, and a lot quicker usually too.

I may be able to recommend some options if you’re in the midlands or east anglia area.

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