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When to say goodbye

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smurfmonkey · 05/05/2022 09:53

I posted here a couple of months ago as my 18 year old boy was diagnosed with very early renal problems. He was doing ok on renal food but over the past couple of weeks he stopped wanting it so I've been feeding him regular food just so he'll eat something.

I took him back to the vets yesterday and he's lost yet more weight and the vet could feel either a growth or possibly his kidney in his stomach area. He said the kindest thing would be to make the decision then but I just couldn't do it 😭

I'm having a rough time of it lately anyway as I've split from my long term partner and he's due to move out this weekend. I know it was selfish but I couldn't bear to part with my boy at the same time, the thought of still at least having him about has been keeping me going.

How do I know when to let go? He's still eating, although not loads and is drinking but he spends most of his day sleeping on the sofa. I don't want to make him suffer but I can't bear the thought of losing him too at the moment 😞

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smurfmonkey · 11/05/2022 22:11

@LaMereDuChat thank you, I've been ok ish, it's just really weird him not being here. I opened my wardrobe earlier and thought oh I'd better close the door before he gets in and gets stuck in there... then realised he wasn't here. It's just silly things like that which remind me 🙁

I am just grateful for the years I had with him and that I was so lucky to have such an amazing cat. He truly was the best cat you could wish for.

I hope you're doing ok 🙂

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