I had to put my beloved cat to sleep 😢

[Anna0221]

I had to put my baby to sleep 2 days ago and I’m not coping very well. It all happened pretty suddenly an unexpectedly. He was 12 and in good health until a couple of weeks ago when we noticed his breathing became laboured. We took him to the Vets and they diagnosed fluid on the lungs due to suspected cancer. They drained it and he was almost back to himself for a few days until it happened again and the vet recommended we PTS. I miss him so much, expecting to see him in his fav spots and then remembering he isnt here anymore 😭😭anyone been through this and has any coping tips? I also have a lot of guilt as Ive been on maternity leave for the past year and the baby stuff just took over. I went from spoiling him rotten before the pregnancy to ignoring him and even getting impatient with him most of the time in the past year 😭

I’m so sorry to hear this. Please don’t beat yourself up, he was loved and cared for. When I lost my much loved cat I saw him everywhere around the house, it’s normal I think. But whatever anyone says, it’s just like losing a part of you and it’s a huge gap.

Take your time, another one will find you when the time is right, if it’s right. And you’ll always love him x

So so sorry. I know how devastating this is. Sending love ❤️. Would you like to post a photo of him and tell us about him?

Ah very

It is difficult when you have a new baby ( my DCat was about 9yo when I had DS -she was a Rescue) , I was paranoid about her fur and CatGerms . I'm sure she was bemused at my cleaning and WTAF at this new screamy thing in her house .

You didn't ignore his health , you noticed he was struggled . The Vet suggested PTS so you did what your cat's Medical Professional adviced

It is difficult but you didn't let him suffer .
Treasure his memory ,

@user1499114292 Thank you. I have another cat so it is some comfort although I worry about him as he was brought in when Ian (my cat who just died) was 4 so he’s never been an only cat. He seems a little depressed 😢

@Igmum here he is 😢 he was my first pet as an adult, been with me through several house moves and major life events, my only constant 😢loved tuna and tin foil. He was the calm, quiet, cuddly one out of my two cats🤍

It all sounds normal, including the feelings of guilt. When my first cat died suddenly overnight, I felt guilty that she'd asked me for some of my dinner that last evening, & I hadn't given her any (though I gave her treats afterwards). It was such a silly thing to feel guilty over, but I did.

You loved Ian, & he knew it. You did your very best for him.

I'm sorry for your loss, & I hope your other cat will soon get over his loss - they do grieve. That first beautiful cat lost her best friend (a neighbour's cat) who was run over when they were both very young, & she grieved for about a month afterwards. I had no idea cats did this. She was a feisty ginger & white with big emotions.

OP, he was absolutely gorgeous & very much part of the family.

Aww I'm so, so sorry.....he's just adorable!

I dread the day when it's time for my 13yo girl to go...we'll all be traumatised, so I really sympathise, but as others have said, you gave him a long happy life and didn't let him suffer at the end!

He was beautiful! So sorry for your loss xx

Thank you everyone x

He is gorgeous 😻😻. So sorry for your loss. I hope the many happy memories stay with you as a comfort ❤️

So sorry for your loss. We had our beloved cat put to sleep on Thursday as well. keep expecting to see / hear him (he was a very vocal cat bless him). Can definitely relate to feelings of guilt but I hope my dcat knows how loved he was. We also still have his sister. Sending hugs

So sorry for your loss @Bringmefood, it’s awful isn’t it? How old was your kitty and what was he like? X

We also did it on Thursday btw @Bringmefood, that was a horrible day😢Nearly told the vet we changed our mind when she arrived at our place 😭

I try too think of pts as the last kind thing we can do for them but it is incredibly hard because they are such a huge part of family life xx

No advice sorry but solidarity. Mine was taken from me suddenly a month ago in a RTA. I feel horrific still. I'm so very sorry you're going through the same.

You have beautiful photos there with Ian and your lovely baby.

I found printing and framing some photos has helped a little, as I can see him around the house.

Sorry for your loss. He was a beautiful cat.

What a beautiful cat, and in all of the pics he is in the middle of your family, obviously well loved. So sorry for your loss

I'm so sorry for your pain and loss.
My cat died unexpectedly last year, age six, and I still think about her each day.
It sounds corny, but time will bring some peace.

It's typical to feel guilty. Another of my beloved cats passed away when I was heavuly pregnant and I felt so guilty, but please be kind to yourself. It's clear from those pictures what a special and beloved friend he has been.

Sending you love and hugs. In the saddest times just think about what a great life he had with you all and how he enriched your lives too.

I am so sorry for your loss xxxx

So sorry for your loss.

I'm sorry you have lost your lovely cat .

It's normal to feel guilty about whatever occasions you didn't do exactly what your cat wanted you to do, because you had other (perfectly valid) priorities. Cats don't always do what we want them to do, because they have their priorities too. It doesn't matter one bit - what matters is that your cat was loved. You sought care for him as soon as he became ill, and you gave him the gift of a peaceful end. You did all you could do.

What a beautiful cat he was! I’m so sorry you’re now without him and I wish you all the best. You showed courage in making a choice that was right for him, difficult though it was.

@ifIwerenotanandroid I know exactly what you mean and I’m sorry you’re feeling guilty too but like you say, we really shouldn’t. I’ve realised I had stopped buying the cat soup he liked because they stopped selling it on Amazon and I couldn’t be bothered to buy it from somewhere else 😢

I’m so sorry to hear this @catstale, sending hugs 😿🤍