Thank you all for your replies, I'm sorry about the delay in replying, but I had a bit of a wobble reading a few replies thinking I'd done the wrong thing. The thought of returning him broke my heart, but either way I am grateful for the views of others.
To be clear, I did make the breeder (who has been doing this since the 1960s she claims) well aware of my circumstances, because it only seemed fair. I am home 24/7, with carers doing 12hour shifts & I feared this may unsettle him & because social services fund the care I don't get a huge choice in the timings of calls or the carers themselves. It seems silly typing it now but I was concerned.
The breeder said the kittens were use to her walker, which I know isn't the same, but she had previously had one placed with a little girl in a chair no problem. As the carers hoist me they are there when I'm in the chair looking out for me, opening the door etc & I have it on the slowest speed setting inside to make sure I don't crash.
Phoenix isn't stupid, but let's face it, he IS male, & a cat ;)
PerkingFaintly I go VERY slow because I'm use to the space I had in the nursing home not a house. Either way, I'd not go fast, social housing doesn't really provide the kinda space I need in real life so even with widened doorways, it's not wide enough to speed. I will ask dad to get his thinking cap on.
GoodVibesHere I have a collar for him, but I can get three finger in it right now, so he isn't using it yet. I've even added an extra loud bell. I even have one that adjusts to the weight of the cat, making it easier or harder to snap off in an emergency.
Fairylightsandwaxmelts the laser pointer isn't a bad idea, much like treats, & so far he stays well away when I move.
Worrysaboutalot, I know I'm over thinking this. Before I lived with my husband but he was arrested for domestic violence & I got moved under safeguarding. No refuge would take me so I got stuck in a nursing home & finding the "right" property for me has been a nightmare. Now it's just me (plus carers) I'm feeling the responsibility, this kitten on being fed in the lounge with my hospital bed so I can check he is eating enough but not being over fed! Stupid really but the carers are new to me too so we all all settling in together. The bowl is moving Sunday though. Thanks for sharing your own experience.
Spudlet a bomb mirror, good idea! So far he knows to stay out of the way, but anyone with a cat knows they do get under your feet sometimes.
Believe me everyone, I wouldn't do anything that I felt would risk him, thankfully my chair wheels are kinda squeaking on the flooring as the chair moves so that kind of alerts him.
Regarding the pictures, he just loves this bowl, won't leave for long so I've let him have it. & yes, I did buy him his own sofa, my hospital bed takes up the living room, so thought the lounge deserved one comfy chair ;)