Not having a cat sucks

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Our cat had to be put to sleep last week. I have concluded that not having a cat sucks. Things that I hate include:

1. Every discarded bag, jumper or soft toy caught out of the corner of my eye is mistaken for our cat.
2. In particular there is a large brown teddy that my kids keep leaving on the cat's armchair that I think is her and every time I realise it isn't my heart sinks.
3. I no longer have to leave a light on in the back room because the cat is in there. I can also shut the door to keep the heat in.
4. I'm not immediately accosted by a cat who has never been fed before when opening ham/smoked salmon/tuna/the fridge.
5. I have nobody to give that tiny chunk of cheese which breaks off when grating to.
6. She wasn't a lap cat but she did like to sit on the top of the armchair or sofa behind my head. Making an excellent purring pillow. Now my head is cold.

I am currently waiting to be matched with a rescue cat or two. But in the meantime, this house is a strange and unhomey place.

Sorry for your loss OP

Sorry for your loss too.
It took me a while to be open to another cat after beloved BastardCat dropped dead at our feet last year but am so happy we adopted a rescue. LittleBeast is absolutely wonderful and so different in temperament and looks it helps me not feel too guilty in absolutely embracing him into our lives. He's lovely.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope you are matched soon with some lovely cats to help heal your pain.

I know exactly how you feel though. When we lost our boy Elvis my house felt absolutely empty without a cat. I now have a terrible twosome of tuxedo cats (rescues) that make my life complete.

Oh OP
I felt every word of that
I am so sorry for your loss

I'm also sorry for your loss.
Especially for your Point 1, and the resulting realisation when you twig that no, it's just a bag /jumper /soft toy

Hopefully your house is a furry home again soon.

It's bloody heart breaking when they go isn't it.
My almost 3yrold 'kitten' has recently cost me almost £2,000 at the vets but it's worth it just for the HELLOOOOOO meows I get when I get home .

What do you live ( roughly ) , perhaps MN hive can recommend some rescue centers if you are not lucky with the one you are looking at .

If you are around Manchester I very highly recommend Millstream rescue

I lost both of my cats in the space of 14 months and it really sucks. DH doesn't want anymore either so it's even worse. Hate not having a cat in my life 😔💔

I'm sorry for your loss @TurdCrapley, especially with your DH not wanting more. Luckily all of us are in agreement that more cats are needed.

When my first cat died, who I'd had for 18 years since I was 10, I was convinced I wouldn't want another cat for ages. But within weeks I was at the rescue centre because the house was so empty. This was prekids, I thought this time the fact we are such a busy house would make a difference. It still feels wrong though and even the kids agree and the cat didn't have much to do with them.

@NewYearCalavicci the rescue will definitely come through, they are big and I'm approved. It's just a case of the right cat being available. The kids are the right sort of age where they don't make it more difficult so I'm hopeful we'll have something soon. Kitten season is coming so they'll be keen to rehome any slightly older kittens before the cuter babies appear.

And thank you everyone for the sympathy. I've got a case of the Friday night blues and just wanted to vent a bit.

Sorry for your loss, it's so hard.

Almost a year for us, we still talk about her every day. We're planning to move house this year and once that's done we'll look for a new housemate.

It's awful isn't it. I hope you're matched with a new cat soon

I'm sorry about your cat OP A cat makes a house a home as they say.

I'd recommend getting more than one new cat if possible, that way there'll always be one around for cuddles if the other has gone out Just don't be like me with four cats and only one lap 😹

Four cats sounds kind of fine to me @PollyCreo! I am hoping for kittens so we’ll definitely have two.

Thanks again for everyone being so nice. I’m admiring everyone else’s kittens on the kitten club thread at the moment. So much cuteness!

I'm so sorry for your loss. Yes a cat definitely is an essential in a home. We lost our gorgeous Dcat last October and I particularly remember 'seeing' him out of the corner of my eye so often.

Thankfully a month later we found our new rescue kittens who have brought new joy into our lives. We still miss our beloved dcat but the two new kittens have been a wonderful and life-affirming experience. I hope that your's come along soon.

Sorry for your loss there is a memorial thread if you would like to post a photo or two and say a little bit about her.

I was devastated when my boy was killed. It was a few weeks before I was scouring ads for a cat to adopt. DH wasn’t keen, as he is more of a dog person in any case, but I was just so lost without my boy he agreed.

The 8 month old I adopted has, somewhat, helped heal my heart. I hope you are matched with an adoptee soon.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/the_litter_tray/3965838-The-Litter-Tray-Memorial-Thread?msgid=110463743

I know what you mean. I can leave roast chicken on the side & no one accompanies me to the recycling bins now, I have to go on my own.

I miss my old boy every day. We've been lucky enough to home two, beautiful kittens last year. The joy they've brought back into my life.. it can't be measured. Even though my lovely old boy, my little soul cat, my beautiful floof, is gone and I know I'll always miss him - my heart is healed.

I'm so glad your new kittens have brought you joy, @SanFranBear. That's a lovely sentiment about your heart being healed.