Buyers remorse

[Ilovemycat13]

We’ve just moved house and also got a kitten (yes I know maybe bad timing).

I’m really struggling with adjusting as it is but I feel real kitten remorse. I posted a while ago about my lovely bengal who died in august and how I wanted another, and I really really did. But now he’s here I think have I done the right thing?

I really don’t want to be flamed as my mental health is in a bad place anyway but I’m struggling. Will this get better? Is it just because he’s a kitten and needy? I didn’t have this with my first cat, I loved the bones off him. Any advice?

You will get there. It's really hard after you loose a cat. But give it time and you'll soon me smitten.

And you've just moved house! Go easy on your self's

Is it another Bengal? Because that’s like 10 normal kittens on amphetamines.

I didn’t bond with my Bengal straightaway, it’s a lot of effort looking after kittens anyway but after a couple of months I’d have done anything for him.

You just need time to bond with your new kitten. He won't develop his personality until he's older. You might suddenly 'click' with him, or your bond might develop gradually, but if you were capable of deep love for your previous cat, you are capable of it for your new one.

I remember feeling just as you do five years ago. We'd lost our cat a few months before and took the plunge and got two kittens after must nagging and cajoling from everyone.
I really didn't warm to them for months, At one point I even suggested that they went to live in my daughters bedroom otherwise they were going to go back to the breeder 😂
I've had many cats over my lifetime and had never experienced this, I was quite shocked with myself. It was almost as if I had PND as far as the kittens were concerned , made worse by the fact that the kittens seemed to take a beeline for me constantly.
I think I was just so overwhelmed and couldn't stop the comparisons to our last.
All is well now and I love them to pieces but I'm sure if I could swap them for the last one I still would in a heartbeat 💐

Hi OP
I read your post, and almost didn't want to reply.
I adopted my cat 5 years ago, and felt very much like you at the time.
Unfortunately for me I still feel the same and know that it will never change.
Sorry I don't want to upset you but just being realistic. Sometimes, and it's hard to put your finger on it, the bond isn't there and never develops.
I too was shocked at myself, I have had 5 previous cats over 40 years that have instantly stolen my heart, and I loved them completely.
I hope its just a readjustment thing for you, you have had a lot going on.

This is honestly my fear once my current cat moves on - I honestly don't think I'll ever, can ever love another cat the way I love him but at the same time can't imagine my life without a cat

I bought Cheddar Home 10 days after my cat died. Honestly you will love them in time.

What is it you're struggling with in particular?

I think some of my issue was that I missed that feeling of snuggling up with Dcat on the sofa. I really missed that when mine were kittens.

I was convinced they hated me most of the time!!

I made a similar thread a few weeks ago
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/4423815-Huge-kitten-regret
I'm still struggling with him tbh, he was neutered yesterday so I'm hoping to see some improvement in his behaviours. I'm not sure what I'll do if he doesn't get better soon.