Guests asking if they can bring dog… AIBU?

[Dinkydonk55]

This is a cat related AIBU really….

We have kitten 4 months old, doesn’t go outside but full of beans and roams freely round the house now. House is quite big.

Friends from some distance away are due to visit in a couple of weeks date has been arranged for ages. I vaguely knew the had new puppy but he hadn’t been mentioned so sort of forgot, he’s 8 months old.
They’ve just messaged and asked if he can come too but not to worry if not can find a sitter.

I said maybe not due to kitten (also DH is really really uncomfortable around dogs which I thought they knew but maybe they don’t), but I didn’t say that

They’ve now said they can’t find a sitter, I’m not sure what to say, can’t quite see how it would work with the kitten? I don’t want to have to shut her up all weekend and our house and garden is not dog proof. There is an end of the house dog could be shut in but that wouldn’t be nice for him would it?
And then wouldn’t it also massively affect what we can do at the weekend.
Not had a dog since I was young so not sure how it would all work, even if there wasn’t the DH problem

Glad they have offered to rearrange.

It’s not just about keeping the dog separate from the cat while it’s there. It also means that your house is full of strange dog smell for however long after, which could be very unsettling for your poor kitten.

Glad you said no!

@Dinkydonk55

Ok thanks 👍 Glad I’m not being unreasonable even without the DH factor. I didn’t reply to the message so they sent another one offering to rearrange. I suspect maybe they forgot the date was the in the diary or forgot about the dog issue as it is a bit last minute to ask. I have also said about the DH thing.

More like they were hoping for

“Oh you can’t get a dog sitter? I guess you have to bring him then. No real choice”

You don’t need a reason. No is a complete sentence.

We don’t have any pets and I still wouldn’t be letting anyone being theirs.

Phew.
Yes it was the way it was left hanging 😂

For some reason I have issues with boundaries especially with this friend and am overly anxious not to offend so lost perspective for a minute.
I know that some (not all) dog owners can find it hard to understand not everyone loves them or wants to see their dog.

I don’t even have a cat but my answer would be no. Dogs stink. I wouldn’t want their hair, drool, food or poop in my house and garden.

As above 👆

Just say "ah no, sorry, we couldn't have the pup here as we have a young kitten just settling in. Let me know if you want to rearrange for a date that works better for you"

Maybe they do know about your husband and dogs, and want an excuse not to visit. 😅

If they've offered to rearrange then accept that. Give them a few other dates to choose from and ask them to let you know which suits them best.

Perfect they offer to rearrange 👍🏻

I have a cat and a dog, and I would just say no to a puppy in my house.

You don't need a reason to have someone else's puppy in your house. However, if you want one your kitten is a very good reason, it will not be happy.

Just say sorry it won't work with our new kitten . I think folk who expect you to accommodate dogs have a horrific cheek. It can go in kennels.

I wouldn't offer reasons as to why I'm saying no. I'd just say what a pp suggested about rearranging for when they CAN get a sitter.

They probably haven't even tried....