BastardCat

[MrsCatE]

When will we get over his death? Something set me off and I’m up crying again and I know MrCat feels the same. We have signed up with cat rescues but I don’t think MrCat will bond with another cat again. I just miss the bugger so much and still want to know why a massive, healthy just turned 8 year old cat died at our feet.

I'm so sorry. I was like that after our previous dog died suddenly. It's such a visceral loss, isn't it.

Thank you @ErrolTheDragon I did have some kind responses when he died but much appreciate your one x

I’m so sorry you lost your lovely cat. The pain of losing our much loved pets is awful and it will take time for you to stop feeling quite as sad.

We lost one of our cars to FIV - he became unwell so suddenly and died not long after 😞 he appeared to be healthy and happy right up until that point.

It's heartbreaking. I'm afraid I didn't recover from losing my old cat (even though he was old, he'd had a good life and it was his time) until I got another cat.

DH had the same worry about not bonding, but has actually bonded better with our new boy.

Leroy will never replace Harley, but it doesn't hurt very often any more.

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I lost my DCat 10 months ago. She was absolutely the best cat and I'm still having to sleep with a cuddly toy in the position she slept in every night and cry when I think of her.

We've got a new rescue cat since and she's showing signs of being as wonderful a cat as my last but it's early days. No cat will ever replace my old cat but the new one isn't replacing her in my heart, just expanding my heart to accommodate her too.

It will get easier, I promise, but know you're not mad or alone in feeling like this. X

I'm so sorry and just wanted to say you're not alone.

Both my cats died in July this year, so I understand how you're feeling.

One died on July 13th and the other became suddenly ill and died on July 30th.

It feels so raw and painful. However, I have taken a lot of people's advice, and am about to adopt two elderly cats whose owner died.
They've been on a website for some weeks and nobody has shown any interest in them, so I am going to adopt them.

I have lost a car in the past, and didn't get over her death for a very, very long time. I don't think it's reasonable to expect to get over something so painful, so quickly.
Things will gradually improve for you, but it does hurt. A lot.

That should say "lost a CAT" near the end - I wish there as an edit function on here.

Cats are such individuals . I am sorry for your loss xx

Thanks all. So stupid I didn’t realise reason. We buried BastardCat in the garden and about a month later, this massive plant grew. MrCat found out what it was (something that you would buy). Anyway, he had to cut it down - from the base - and I think that’s what got me blubbering / like the first day / shock. MrCat’s even worse.

It still hits me and mine died Nov 2019. It’s just so unfair we’ll never see them again when we loved them so much and had a bond.

I’ve a long list of humans I couldn’t care two hoots about but I lost my cat I raised from a kitten instead.

Your loss is very recent. You will eventually feel it less and less, but it will never be completely gone. They really do have such a profound affect on our lives, and we don't realise it until they're gone. It took 5 years for me to be able to say one of my cats names without getting tearful. I was in a dreadful state. He was my special boy and I didn't think I'd ever cope without him. I've been devastated when my other cats have gone, but him leaving me was dreadful. It's been 8 years now. When I think of him, I see him deep in my heart and he's with me wherever I am. Giving a home to another wee soul is a lovely, healing thing to do, but only when you're ready. Talk to us. We all know what you're going through.

@Want2beme

Your loss is very recent. You will eventually feel it less and less, but it will never be completely gone. They really do have such a profound affect on our lives, and we don't realise it until they're gone. It took 5 years for me to be able to say one of my cats names without getting tearful. I was in a dreadful state. He was my special boy and I didn't think I'd ever cope without him. I've been devastated when my other cats have gone, but him leaving me was dreadful. It's been 8 years now. When I think of him, I see him deep in my heart and he's with me wherever I am. Giving a home to another wee soul is a lovely, healing thing to do, but only when you're ready. Talk to us. We all know what you're going through.

That is so beautifully put, thank you. 💓

We lost our old boy at the beginning of the year, and despite constantly grumbling about the “bloody grubby cat” DP took it harder than me.

I’ve been looking at cats over the last few weeks and he’s been reluctant; says he’s not over DCat and won’t ever love a cat like that again. Saw a picture of a cat over my shoulder, asked about it, and now we are going to meet him this weekend. He’s very excited but trying so hard not to show it.

I still well up if someone asks about our old boy. I don’t think I’ll ever get over him, he was an unusual and special cat, but the pain gets less sharp and more mellow as time goes on. I miss him constantly.

I'm so sorry for the loss of your lovely cat

It will get easier with time. And you will bond with another cat. It's just that it's still very raw right now.

We lost Ellie 3 years ago. She just disappeared and never came back. I did everything I possible could to find her. I still feel sad sometimes and I think about her a lot. Especially this time of year as she went missing in August.

We now have the terrible tuxedo twosome who I love dearly. Ivy brings me daily comfort as she is so affectionate. Betsy sometimes lets me stroke her head without swiping me 😂

Thanks all. We’re both blubbering messes but MrCat is even worse! I’m the one that has to look after him. BastardCat was very much his beast. Poor MrCat too. X

Still grieving ours, we have another cat and they're settling with each other and he's adorable but he's not our BastardCat

Thanks all. Better try and get this thread closed because it’s all been said but much appreciated! X