Would you rehome kitten?

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I have 8mth old Siamese kitten. He’s really affectionate and a people cat. Not an independent bone in his body. He’ll go out in the garden but he needs people time or he’s destruction.
I’ve had cats before so it never occurred to me that I could be allergic. I noticed that when I cuddled him, he drools a little and I’d breakout.
The problem is I’m pregnant and my allergy is 100x worse. I cuddled him and my entire face and neck was covered in spots for nearly 2 weeks. And cat hair makes my eyes itch and tickles my throat. My DH is in office 2-3x a week and I no longer have the cat upstairs because it all carpeted. He’s lonely and I can tell he’s sad. He just curls up in his bed all day until my DH comes home. Not to mention we both had covid a couple weeks ago so he on his own for nearly two weeks and I think stress shedding because the house was covered in cat hair and smelled awful by the time I could smell again.
DH thinks it will be fine because when I have the baby my allergy won’t be as bad but I don’t know that it’s guaranteed to be same. Meanwhile the poor cat is mainly on his own.

It sounds like he'd be easy to rehome and in your position I would. When the baby comes even if your allergy improves you'll not be wanting to spend much time cuddling the cat and it may well become even more stressed.

Is there a breed website you can use to find the right home for him?.

Siamese are very social cats, they’re highly intelligent too so easily bored. Within enough interaction and stimulation they tend to become destructive or neurotic in one way or another. TBH I’m surprised the breeder let you take a single kitten without other cats in the house. Most Siamese breeders wouldn’t unless you were, say, a retired couple who’d had Siamese for years or something like that.

I’m not a fan of rehoming at the first hurdle but I think it’d probably be kinder to regime in your circumstances. Are you still in touch with the breeder?

Autocorrects galore. Sorry.

@OwlBasket I didn’t get him from the a breeder and he was last in the litter. I definitely should have got two instead of one because he’s very needy.

@Fluffycloudland77 I’m not sure but there’s a very good rescue nearby that I could a direct rehome with.

Lots of people love Siamese so he’d go quickly. They’d just need to understand that this is not a breed you can feed twice a day and leave to it’s own devices.

I really feel for you OP, it’s great you can recognise his needs so clearly and want to do what’s best for him. It’s not easy.

Rehoming via a breed club or association would be ideal, or you could look into some of the breed appreciation groups on Facebook. I’m not in the UK so can’t recommend anything specific, annoyingly. Does he have his paperwork in order?

But, yes, Siamese really are happiest with other Siamese or with breeds with a similar character. They love to sleep all piled up together and often move through the house and garden in a herd. Such sensitive sods though. Change tends to upset them so going to adoptive humans who ‘get’ the breed is pretty important. If he’s rehomed as a single cat (or with other cats who don’t appreciate him being so endlessly needy with them) he’s likely to develop behavioural problems that’d try the patience of a saint. That’d be a shame for all concerned.

Also not a fan of rehoming when pets become inconvenient, but there is nothing you can do about a severe allergy. Sooner rather than later, I would say, as he is still young

Where did you get the poor little thing from if not from a breeder?

If you're going to rehome him, please do it soon whilst he's young and relatively (for a Siamese) adaptable.

Disclaimer - I love my Siamese cats to pieces but know that they are not good with change. In my opinion, they are a breed that is very human centric and usually bond with particular humans in the household.

A friend of mine had to rehome a kitten as her young DD was allergic - hives, coughing, and a runny nose. It was strange as they’d had a cat before, and their DD had been ok. They were very sad but it really couldn’t be helped and the shelter were very understanding (it had been a rescue kitten so was returned to the shelter they got it from).

@OwlBasket he’s had all his shots and he’s neutered. He’s definitely people oriented and wants to be with you all the time. I feel like he needs more than give him with current situation. It’s so weird I had no idea pregnancy could do this.

@ChequerBoard one my neighbours sister cat had a litter. In hindsight I would only get one from breeder. He’s had a lot of stomach issues because he was on crap food when I got him. It’s taken us months to get his stomach to settle. He’s gets stressed if too much is happening, which is why I feel so bad. He’s gone from having all the cuddles with me. To me struggling to have him beside me. Today my husband has left since 6:30 and he won’t be home until 10pm. So i’m sitting beside him itching like heck because I’ve mostly left him alone all day. But he’s so desperate for cuddles he jumped in my lap.

Ahh, poor you and poor cat, what a rubbish situation.

At eight months and a very desirable breed, he’ll be snapped up quick from a rescue centre or breed association. They are such an affectionate breed that if you can’t give him the attention he needs without being in pain, YWNBU to rehome.

What a horrible decision for you to have to make

Depending on how far you are through pregnancy, you could wait and see if it improves afterwards. But if you’re early on in pregnancy, maybe better to rehome him when he’s still a kitten - he’ll find a home easier.

@RandomCatGenerator I’m only 19weeks so I still have a bit to go. There’s a high chance I might need CS. I think I’ll wait until my 20weeek scan where I should know for sure and make a decision. I feel awful, I had to leave him again because I just couldn’t take the itching.

You can’t help it! Sounds shit for both of you.