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My dilemma with senior cats

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Aintgointogoa · 19/07/2021 04:24

I left the UK for a life on another continent four years ago, I had to leave for many personal and practical reasons. I still have my flat which is rented out, and my two resident cats come part and parcel with the tenancy, they are well loved and cared for by tenants who get a generous discount for this aspect (possibly unusual) of their lease. One puss is 16, the other 9. Relocating them to life in a tropical country wasn’t an option, the flight/stress etc would definitely have killed senior cat and they would have lost every thing they have known since kitten hood, roaming their territory (gardens !) etc. Now I am looking at selling the flat as I will never live there again, but I cannot give them up for rehoming. They can’t be separated and have very individual characters. The younger cat is quite neurotic at the best of times (she pisses on everything when stressed for example) I have found a place in UK which will take them both to live out their lives as free cats, together, with a one off payment for each, all their medical bills that may arise included. If I am able to return to UK in October as planned (looking doubtful, I am in a red list category country) I was going to tell my tenants that the two furries were going to ‘retire’ to the country and I would be looking to sell next year. I feel so conflicted. It’s going to be very very hard. Because once I take them to the “other place” I know I will never see them again. Although I will be updated regularly, sent photos etc. Which is pretty much what happens now really. And I feel anxious for my tenants. But I have to move things along in my own interest, my son has done a spreadsheet of what I spend on the UK cats and is eye rolling and drumming his fingers (I am effectively subsiding the tenancy) They could be taken to the “other place” without me, in spite of the distress ( it’s a 3 hour drive) they would probably hardly know me now. But I feel so very guilty. I don’t know what I am asking for, this is the first time I have really articulated my dilemma. I know this is a bullet I am going to have to bite very soon in any case. I miss them still so much (even though I have somehow acquired 2 street cats here who are great companions) Responsibility for any animal really never just ends when ‘convenient’ but I am not going to shirk it….handhold or advice welcome 😿

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Bargebill19 · 19/07/2021 04:54

Maybe speak to your tenant. They may be in a position to buy your flat and keep the cats. Win win all round.?
Or, they too may have become very attached to the cats and offer to keep them, this maybe a partial win in that the cats keep their known human slave.
Or the flat may sell with tenner in situ, new owners may want to keep both tenant and grant ‘grandfather’ rights for the cats and everyone stays as they are. Another win win situation.
No chance of you coming back at all or being able to continue the current area gent a few more years? (It’s your money not your sons).

Aintgointogoa · 19/07/2021 05:26

Thank you @bargebill19. Current tenant definitely not in a position to buy. And if she has to relocate she won’t be able to take the 2 furries with her (she is definitely their human now !) The option of selling with tenant in situ is interesting. Thank you ! The mortgage is up for review September and I will definitely look into that . “Grandfather rights” sounds brilliant !! No, not coming back, and yes it is my money - my son does have a benevolent attitude (although is allergic to cats ha ha) he just sees how much it is whittling away at what is coming out compared to what I am putting in. I just want the best outcome, for the furries to have a good prospect and happy end of life situation, I think they are going to live forever….but we know that isn’t the case…and it has been on my mind so much this pandemic year in case lovely tenant decides to relocate and/or return to Europe…it’s proving hard to find anyone else to share this particular set up. I am very grateful for your reply.

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Toddlerteaplease · 19/07/2021 06:35

The tenant may want to take them with her. And if she thinks it's practical. Then let her.

Aintgointogoa · 19/07/2021 07:00

@toddlerteaplease thank you for replying : sadly this wouldn’t be an option as it is very difficult to find rented accommodation with pets. Plus I don’t want them to be pushed from pillar to post and possibly abandoned. I featured the furries as an ‘add on’ to the tenancy and only people who wanted to take responsibility for them could be considered, I have been very lucky in that respect (incl coping with serious medical emergencies for senior cat). My tenant loves them, they have the time of their lives with her, but it isn’t sustainable in the long term….if I had very deep pockets then it would be I guess !

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