Grief

[Happylittlekitty]

Hi, I’ve just lost my beautiful cat and I’m struggling to cope with the grief that I am feeling. I don’t know what I’m asking for by posting but I feel so alone and lost.

I just wanted to say that you're not alone and lots of us have been through it. Nothing I can say will make it better but I promise in time it does get easier. I lost my gorgeous girl in March and it nearly broke me. I'm so sorry for your loss x

There’s lots of us the same on here. It was the first time I’d lost something I truly loved.

Thank you for your kind words and I’m sorry for your loss too x

I'm so sorry for your loss op. Loosing a pet is devastating you're not alone in how you feel. All I can say from experience is that it feels less painful as time goes on.

That’s exactly how i feel fluffy, she was my best friend and I can’t believe she has gone. I have amazing family and friends who are being so kind, my Dh especially but i feel no comfort

It's been 3 weeks since I lost my cat, she'd been with me for 15 years and I have to say I have never felt pain like this. I also feel lost, the house feels empty and quiet - not that she made a lot of noise, I think it's more that I talked to her all the time. I am overwhelmed by how deep the grief is. I always knew it would be hard when she died, but I never expected it to be like it is.

So sorry for your loss. I've been there too and it's heartbreaking ❤️‍🩹

I lost my 18 year old girl last week. I feel numb. I knew it was coming, so I had time. I wish I could have said goodbye properly. It was all so rushed and awful at the end.

You’ve just described exactly how I feel, word for word. I knew she was ill and thought I had mentally prepared but I absolutely wasn’t ready. I keep thinking I can hear her and I’m going over everything that happened repeatedly like an awful movie. I’m sorry for your loss too, we were also together 15 years.

I’m so appreciative to everyone for responding to me, I haven’t worked out how to respond to each of you yet as I’m just finding my feet on here but I am reading them all and do appreciate it. I’m sorry for your loss to everyone who is/has been through this too x

I'm so sorry OP, I've been there too and it's just devastating.

I'm sure we'd all like to hear about your lovely girl when you feel up to it.

It takes time, but the grief will fade eventually, and you'll be able to remember her with a smile. In the meantime though, be kind to yourself, and know that you loved her and she loved you. 🐾

I am so sorry for your loss. I lost a dog years ago, I totally adored her. I felt like you and I couldn’t bare how I felt, how the house felt so strange.
Before she died I had just stocked up on her food so I decided to take it to the dog shelter. I ended up coming home with a dog.
I was in no way replacing, I helped save a poor dog stuck with no one to love her. We helped each other.

They mean so much to us and it's so hard when they're gone. Unless you've experienced this kind of loss, you've no idea how sad and helpless you feel. She was your little friend, but you will start to feel less grief as the weeks go by. Just take it day by day and keep coming back here when you need us.

So very sorry for your loss

So very sorry for your loss. I have 2 old girls who I adore, they are 15 so I know what is around the corner & I can't bear the thought.
Sending you a hug 💐

I'm so sorry your loss. It is losing a member of the family - we lost our 18 year old in January and I still miss her (and her sister who died 2 years ago at nearly 16) every day. But it does get easier and I'm now just beginning to imagine my life with other (new) cats in it. But our 2 old girls will never be forgotten - they grew older as our family did and were included in most of the DC's milestones from starting school through to becoming adults - sent birthday cards and everything - lol! to you.

And to everyone posting who has recently lost their pet.

It’s so hard, isn’t it. It was September for me, and I miss my lovely cat (together for 13 years) every day. But it will get better for you than it is now.

The grief was overwhelming for a good while. Now I just miss her. Nobody else knows how much. (Actually, the posters on this thread do; it’s nice, though sad, to read how much we loved them and what a gap they leave.

You will be ok though this bit is really hard.

I’m very sorry you’ve lost your beautiful cat.

I lost my gorgeous girl last month. I lost her lovely sister two years before that so for the first time in 15 years we have a home with no cats and I absolutely hate it.

It is so empty and quiet. I so miss her lovely hello when I get home. I’m up very early so I don’t lie in an empty bed. I hate sitting in the lounge as she’s not with us. Don’t even mention feeding time.

It’s so horrible and I really do sympathise. It does get easier in time from past experience but you’ve lost a lovely member of your family so give yourself time to grieve.

Thinking of you x

I still miss my lovely cats who passed 6 years ago. Will love them forever. They were the 2 best boys 💙
Thinking of you, it’s so tough at the beginning xx

Thank you to everyone for sharing your experience of loss and general kindness, it means so much. I’m sorry you have all lost too. I’m starting to feel better and can smile at all the crazy stuff she did, I haven’t rejoined the world yet but I feel like I’m getting there. Everything you have all said is just how I feel, she had a few special spots in the house and garden and it’s painful she’s not there, I’m not ready to sit in those spots without her yet but I know I will in time. She really was the most beautiful and elegant lady who had the biggest heart but was also a total diva who kept us in our place, she would make disapproving noises if something wasn’t up to her standards, she always won we just adored her. I’ve been on one of the threads on here with pictures of all of your lovely cats and it’s made me smile to see so many gorgeous and spoiled cats, nice to know I’m not alone x

It is utterly devastating to lose a much loved cat. Cat Protection has some resources here:
www.cats.org.uk/what-we-do/grief
and has a listening service if you feel you would like to speak to someone who understands what you are going through, the number is on the webpage.

In due course giving another cat a loving home really does help, they can never replace the one who has gone, but they fill a void in your home.