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Had Dcat put to sleep today

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BorahT · 01/05/2021 22:04

I am in shock. A few days ago Dcat was absolutely fine, her normal lovely self, and today she was put to sleep.

Yesterday I noticed blood in her litter tray, took her to the vets who swiftly diagnosed her with cystitis, gave her a couple of jabs and sent us on our way with a course of tablets, all good I thought. When we arrived home DS noticed a few spots of blood on her neck from where she had her injections, odd I thought but cleaned her up and hoped it would scab up and heal soon. But it didn’t, it kept on bleeding, I left her overnight to sleep it off in the hopes of waking up to a perkier cat, but found her in a complete mess. Blood all down her from her neck, no appetite for food or water and wasn’t able to hold her own weight. Got her back to the vets today to find that it’s massive internal haemorrhage caused by either poisoning or leaukeamia, he advised I could send her to hospital to have a blood transfusion, but with a really poor prognosis or euthanasia. I chose euthanasia, I believed what he said and didn’t want poor Dcat to go through any more trauma being somewhere unfamiliar or dying on her own without me by her side. So I stayed with her, until she was gone. I walked back to my car with an empty car box and sat crying in Morrison’s car park and haven’t stopped since.

She was such a lovely little cat, never once scratched or bit anyone, even my two small boys she would let stroke and or scruff about, and on occasion despite her advancing years would chase a string for my oldest. She would always find me in the garden and wind around my legs, give my face and hand raspy licks as her little way of showing affection. She was only 9, and I’m so lucky to have had her for this long, but I feel like it was too short.

I’m having her cremated and bringing her ashes back to my garden. I am so devastated.

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InpatientGardener · 01/05/2021 22:06

So sorry for your loss, its just awful when they're gone Flowers

ChelseaCat · 01/05/2021 22:06

I’m so sorry Op, how absolutely devastating. She’s sounds like she was an absolute delight Flowers

LoveSleeping · 01/05/2021 22:07

Oh no, what an enormous shock that must have been for you. You did your absolute best for her- gave her a lovely life and made sure she didn't suffer towards the end.

She sounds like a lovely cat, they really do steal your heart don't they.

💔

Ninkanink · 01/05/2021 22:08

❤️❤️❤️ she sounds like the loveliest thing. You did exactly the right thing. (((hugs)))

I’m so sorry, it’s just so shit. Flowers

QuestionableMouse · 01/05/2021 22:09

I'm so sorry.

9GreenBottles · 01/05/2021 22:13

I'm very sorry for your loss. It's always hard to let a pet go, but especially when it is so sudden and unexpected. It is heartbreaking Thanks

baldafrique · 01/05/2021 22:17

I'm so sorry for your loss, absolutely heartbreaking Sad The grief of losing a beloved pet is so painful. Thinking of you and your little one Flowers

MatthewHBpig · 01/05/2021 22:18

I'm really sorry for your loss. It's shite losing dcat.

Hemskis · 01/05/2021 22:18

I'm very sorry for your loss. She sounds like a wonderful cat and I'm sure she had a lovely life with you. Be kind to yourself and let yourself grieve.

Fluffycloudland77 · 01/05/2021 22:19

9 years is far too short a time to have her. I’m so sorry that’s an awful way to lose her and it will floor you.

StartingGrid · 01/05/2021 22:26

Flowers I'm so sorry, she sounds like she was a lovely cat, and I'm sorry her last day was so traumatic. You did all you could, I'm sure she would be grateful for that and the 9 years of love you gave her.

CarrieMoonbeams · 01/05/2021 22:33

I'm so sorry OP, she sounds like a little sweetheart.

Have you heard the saying "grief is the price we pay for love"? It's a bit of a cliché but it's so true.

I'll be thinking of you, and I hope you can take comfort from the thought that lots of us here are sending you a gentle hug. We understand. 💔

Botherfreedays · 01/05/2021 22:40

I'm so sorry, it's just awful when they go.

Snowdrop30 · 01/05/2021 22:45

Oh, I'm so sorry. That sounds horrible xxxx

hartof · 01/05/2021 23:00

I'm so sorry 💔 I promise it will get easier. My Dcat was hit by a car 6 weeks ago and has to be put down. We were complete messes but we are okay now. I still have a couple of tears, we all talk and think about him everyday but the pain has eased. I worried I was bad because I was reacting so badly to it but these little furry beings are members of the family! Take care of yourself, no pressure just deal with it in your own time.

TheLongRider · 01/05/2021 23:04

So sorry for you and your family but you made sure she didn't suffer. That was the kindest thing you could have done for her. Be kind to yourself and you have some lovely memories of her.Flowers

MarkRuffaloCrumble · 01/05/2021 23:07

Oh you poor thing. What an awful shock. Flowers

Small comfort but at least it sounds like your cat didn’t suffer, as it was such a swift deterioration. Poor little thing.

Sending you a big unmumsnetty ((hug)). You did absolutely the right thing not to put her through any more stress with medical treatments that were unlikely to help her.

NanuNanuM · 01/05/2021 23:17

I'm so sorry, it hurts so much.
I had to remind myself when our cat died that he had a happy home with lots of love.

Sending unMN hugs

Workinghardeveryday · 01/05/2021 23:33

So sorry for your loss xx

Want2beme · 01/05/2021 23:48

What an awful thing to happen. So sorry your little cat has gone. Are you home yet? The loss is enormous, but the pain will ease. Take careFlowers

viques · 02/05/2021 00:01

So sorry to hear this, she was quite young so I think part of your grief must be for the time you have lost with her. As a poster up thread says, honour her with the memory of the wonderful life you gave her, she was a lucky girl to be so loved.

And, although it might be too early to say it, I think there will one day be another lucky cat who lands on its paws to share your heart. It is often the way, not a replacement, but still a joy.

CausingChaos2 · 02/05/2021 00:07

I’m so sorry. What a shock. You did the kindest thing for her. I agree with PP, having lost a dog aged 9, an element to your grief is the time missed. Very hard to accept the loss when they haven’t made old bones. You grieve the loss and the time you should have had too. Do take care Flowers

BorahT · 02/05/2021 06:01

Thank you all for your lovely replies. It really is just a shit thing to happen!

I feel so silly feeling so very sad about it, which I know is daft in itself. DH isn’t a cat person so they were really my cats (I am lucky to have one remaining cat who was my poor departed kitty’s litter mate, man she had a lot of cuddles yesterday) so he’s sad that I’m sad but not grieving himself so I feel a bit lonely in my grief. I told my eldest DS who is only 4 yesterday afternoon and he wailed for about ten minutes until DH offered to put his favourite cartoon on which seemed to make him forget all about it. I wish there was something so simple that could make me feel better! Though I guess I’m hurtling towards the anger stage of grief because I’m feeling a bit peed off about whoever put rat poison down (which is what I suspect is the cause of her downfall) for my poor cat to find 😤 and a bit worried in case my other cat ends up in the same situation too.

@hartof sending a big hug back for your cat too, it must have been awful for you 💔

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