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My cat attacked me

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pitcherscat · 19/04/2021 02:12

My cat attacked me badly this evening and I'd be really grateful for any advice. Sorry if this is long but want to give any possibly relevant info.

We got him 7 years ago from rescue, he was around 16 weeks old. One of his sister's had a fracture and vet thought she may have been kicked. He's always been a bit of a nervous boy, but very affectionate when he gets to know you. He seemed nervous on his own, so a couple months after we got him we rescued another kitten. It took him a week or so to warm up to him, lots of hissing at first, but they're now best of friends. They do fight occasionally, but spend their days cuddled up together sleeping, and take turns to groom each other. Second cat is very laid back which I think helps.

Cat is not usually aggressive. He's not a fan of getting in the carrier, and when he knows he's going in and he's cornered he might give you a little swipe or a nip, but really feel it's a warning not that he's trying to hurt you.

Since we got him we've had 2 kids, currently 5 and 2. He tends to avoid the smaller one, but did with our eldest at first, but can be quite affectionate towards her now, giving head rubs and staying with her when he strokes him. He doesn't like being picked up and she's had a couple of warnings from him if she's tried, she's been told not to try.

I'd say he loves me most of anyone in the house. He'll snuggle up to me, he gives me lots of head rubs, and he's really happy to be stroked by me. He's generally very comfortable around me.

I'm the only person he's ever attacked aggressively. He's done it once before, I was lying in bed one morning next to eldest in the cot, who was 3 or 4 at the time. He'd been to see me in bed when he came in. Eldest kicked me or something so I suddenly sat up in bed and shouted out ow. He suddenly launched himself at me from behind, spitting, and sunk his claws into my back and arm hard. I don't know how I kept my composure but I turned around and spoke to him gently. I honestly felt that he hadn't realised it was me and thought I was someone else and a threat to the child, and I just needed to show him it was me and he would be ok. When he settled I got up and told husband, then got back into bed. When cat came back in the room he was really nervous, and sniffed around the whole bedroom. He was ok with me from that point until tonight.

Tonight I was sat on the sofa in my usual spot, had been there all evening and he knew I was there. He'd been sat on the cat barrel and I spoke to him from my seat. Other cat was cuddled up next to me as usual, I had a blanket over me and other cat saw movement under the blanket and suddenly pounced. I sat up and shouted ow, shooed other cat onto the floor and took the blanket off to check the new scratch on my leg. This is a thankfully quite rare occurrence, but has certainly happened numerous times over the years.

Very shortly afterwards, he got up and walked along the back of the sofa towards me, there were 3 seats and a table between us so quite far. He was quiet, and neither me nor husband paid him any attention really, so he mustn't have seemed very strange. Suddenly he launched at my head, dug all his claws in and was biting. I think I pushed him off with my arm and he came at me again. I managed to get my head down and pressed my face to the sofa so he couldn't get to it. I'm not sure if he jumped to the floor or husband shooed him down. He was hissing and his tail all bushed, I stayed still and got husband to get him out and shut the door. I'm lucky he didn't get my face, my scalp has been bleeding quite a lot, and is still painful now 2 hours later.

The only other thing I can think to mention, is that where I was sat was where my sister's dog sat for about 2 mins yesterday. We were in the garden the whole visit with cats upstairs, but we're in a terraced so had to bring the dog through the house and he walked in and jumped straight on the sofa. Sister got him off as soon as she had put her bags down, no more than 2 minutes. Husband is convinced he attacked me because he smelled the dog?

Another note on smell. We used to be able to take them to the vets separately, he might be a bit off with other cat when he returned but not terrible. Over the last few years he got much worse with that, hissing at him horribly for hours after we get back, to the point that we now take them to the vets together. He's ok if we do this. I looked this up and internet says it's non-recognition aggression.

At this point I'm feeling really upset, and not sure what to do. I love cat, he's been in our family for 7 years. He's usually loving and affectionate, if a little skittish. But tonight he's really injured me badly, and he wasn't cornered or anything. He approached me and attacked me, I wasn't even looking at him or talking to him. This wasn't a little swipe or a nip, this was the proper damage-causing stuff. I now actually feel scared of him (please don't think I'm pathetic). I feel like he's unpredictable and I'm not sure I want him around my children. Although to date, the only person he's ever properly attacked in 7 years has been me, twice.

My husband is convinced it's because of the dog smell. The attack occurred over 24 hours after the dog was there, I sat there all last night as well, kids have sat there today. I was wearing my dressing gown that I always wear, and that must absolutely stink of me as I haven't washed it in a good few weeks.

When he came back in, he was really nervous again, sniffing all around. His body was low and his tail was waving. He came up to me and I held my hand down for him to sniff. He did and gave a little head rub. I just sat as still as I could and spoke to him gently, basically too scared to move. I had no idea if he would attack me again.

I'm going to call the vet tomorrow morning and arrange to get him checked out. There's no reason to suspect any illness though, he's eating well, seems otherwise comfortable and happy.

Thank you so much if you've read this far, I hope I've included everything important. I'd be grateful for any advice or input. Other than the vet I don't know what to do. Please be kind though, I'm feeling a bit shaken up by all this, upset, and still bleeding. I just can't help thinking that if he'd attacked one of the kids and not me he could have really done a lot of damage, and that thought scares me.

OP posts:
Want2beme · 19/04/2021 12:53

That's a shame. The only experience I have of unpredictable cat attacks was years ago when I had a cat from kittenhood, who would randomly attack me, but then be a sweet little angel the rest of the time. I remember once she jumped on my head and stuck all her claws in. It was a real shock and made me feel really sad. She had a short life, as she was killed by a car, so I didn't have to deal with that aggression for very long. Have you watched cat behaviour videos, Jackson Galaxy on YouTube, etc? I'm not much help, only to say that he's not coping with something that's going onBrew

Arbadacarba · 19/04/2021 12:59

I think there might be something in your husband's theory. It does seem as though smell is a trigger for him based on his reaction when your other cat has come back smelling of the vets. I wonder if maybe there was an aggressive dog in his background before rescue.

You're doing the right thing getting him checked at the vets.

I can only suggest Feliway as a possibly calming measure if you don't already use this. There's a type called 'Feliway Friends' that might help with the coming back from the vet scenario.

suggestionsplease1 · 19/04/2021 13:22

One thing that links both occasions is that you shouted 'ow' - maybe he was provoked by this and attacked? My dog once snapped at me when I shrieked out over something - I think he found me suddenly unreliable and unpredictable and wasn't sure what was coming next.

suggestionsplease1 · 19/04/2021 13:24

And it looks like you moved suddenly on both occasions in addition to shouting - sometimes animals can become very unsettled by what they view as unpredictable behaviour from someone and react very strongly to it.

pitcherscat · 19/04/2021 21:41

Thank you all so much for reading that long post and taking the time to reply. I've been feeling really sad today. My mum thinks we should rehome him in case he attacks one of the kids. My husband firmly disagrees as he's a member of our family.

I couldn't get him in at the vets until next week and definitely won't be making any rash decisions, I'll wait until I'm satisfied he's been thoroughly checked out. I've also contacted the rescue where we got him for advice, and to see if they can possibly recommend a cat behavioural expert or something like that. I love him so much and don't want to give up on him, but know that I also need to be realistic if he could present a risk to our kids.

We don't currently use any diffusers or anything, so that could be worth a try. I've been playing him some relaxing cat music off the internet, sounds mad but I'd honestly try anything if it could help him.

@suggestionsplease1 you're right in that the trigger for both attacks was basically the same. I moved quickly into a different position and made a loud noise, having previously been quite still and quiet. However the first time he attacked me from behind and I've always felt he didn't know it was me at first. As it was from behind I don't actually know how close he was when I sat up, but he might have been right next to me and suddenly freaked and attacked. This time was different in that he approached me from across the room fairly slowly, and from the side. He had loads of time to see that it was me, and I was talking right before so he'd have heard my voice as well. I just don't see how he couldn't have realised that it was me he was attacking, which means that he approached me and attacked me on purpose. That's the bit that I'm really struggling to get my head around.

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MazekeenSmith · 19/04/2021 21:53

I really feel for you. I nearly cried this morning as I am so sick of my cat going for me - it's not as bad as what you described, he only goes for arms and legs but it's become several times a day recently and I'm so fed up. I'm starting to not want him to be around me which is a shame.
I am aware I haven't de wormed mine recently so maybe he has worms. Or some other pain, but he seems perfectly happy when not attacking Hmm
Have you tried feliway? I don't know if it's shite or not but I'm about to prime some to try again. Cat music is a good idea - I'm going to try that!!
It's really worrying that he went for your head though. I literally told DS today that if the cat goes for my face we won't be able to keep him. You risk blindness or facial scarring. It's not ok. Your husband may need to accept that the cat needs to go if he does this again. He's not the one being ripped to shreds.

sunflowersandbuttercups · 19/04/2021 23:04

Lots of cats dislike loud noise and sudden movements - most will run away but others will attack. I think the shouting doesn't help - DH shouts when one of ours digs their claws in but it only makes them worse!

I don't think he sounds unwell - I think maybe it's worth looking at your behaviour tbh. Not saying that the attacks are your fault, but now you know what he's vulnerable to, you can make an effort to change it.

MazekeenSmith · 20/04/2021 07:16

@sunflowersandbuttercups

Lots of cats dislike loud noise and sudden movements - most will run away but others will attack. I think the shouting doesn't help - DH shouts when one of ours digs their claws in but it only makes them worse!

I don't think he sounds unwell - I think maybe it's worth looking at your behaviour tbh. Not saying that the attacks are your fault, but now you know what he's vulnerable to, you can make an effort to change it.

It's impossible not to shout when you get a shock of claws and teeth digging in to your skin unexpectedly. Personally my cat goes for me when I'm sitting still at the dinner table. There is no trigger at all, that I can control.
suggestionsplease1 · 20/04/2021 07:58

@pitcherscat

Thank you all so much for reading that long post and taking the time to reply. I've been feeling really sad today. My mum thinks we should rehome him in case he attacks one of the kids. My husband firmly disagrees as he's a member of our family.

I couldn't get him in at the vets until next week and definitely won't be making any rash decisions, I'll wait until I'm satisfied he's been thoroughly checked out. I've also contacted the rescue where we got him for advice, and to see if they can possibly recommend a cat behavioural expert or something like that. I love him so much and don't want to give up on him, but know that I also need to be realistic if he could present a risk to our kids.

We don't currently use any diffusers or anything, so that could be worth a try. I've been playing him some relaxing cat music off the internet, sounds mad but I'd honestly try anything if it could help him.

@suggestionsplease1 you're right in that the trigger for both attacks was basically the same. I moved quickly into a different position and made a loud noise, having previously been quite still and quiet. However the first time he attacked me from behind and I've always felt he didn't know it was me at first. As it was from behind I don't actually know how close he was when I sat up, but he might have been right next to me and suddenly freaked and attacked. This time was different in that he approached me from across the room fairly slowly, and from the side. He had loads of time to see that it was me, and I was talking right before so he'd have heard my voice as well. I just don't see how he couldn't have realised that it was me he was attacking, which means that he approached me and attacked me on purpose. That's the bit that I'm really struggling to get my head around.

I think it's hard if you interpret it personally - that a much loved pet can turn on you in the 'right' circumstances. I've had to get my head around that for my dog - he is devoted to me, but I know in the perfect storm of circumstances he could snap at me. I know how to manage that because I've identified these circumstances, plus I don't have kids so I don't have that side of things to think about. I don't hold it against him; he's an animal, but it is my responsibility to judge and manage the risk appropriately.

Great idea about getting hold of a cat behavioural expert! Hope you find a good way forward.

AfterSchoolWorry · 20/04/2021 08:02

I would get him checked over by the vet OP.

sunflowersandbuttercups · 20/04/2021 08:33

It's impossible not to shout when you get a shock of claws and teeth digging in to your skin unexpectedly.

I would disagree - natural and normal? Yes, of course it is. But it's not impossible to remain quiet - it's just not natural behaviour to us.

Personally my cat goes for me when I'm sitting still at the dinner table. There is no trigger at all, that I can control.

Are you eating at the time? Food smells and eating sounds could maybe be a trigger for him. Or maybe he thinks you're sitting in his spot! Cats can be triggered by all sorts of mundane things.

I have one who hates it when I let the dog back in the house and he'll stand and swipe at him. But often he gets my ankle in the process Hmm

sunflowersandbuttercups · 20/04/2021 08:36

I just don't see how he couldn't have realised that it was me he was attacking, which means that he approached me and attacked me on purpose. That's the bit that I'm really struggling to get my head around.

I didn't see this the other day OP but I really think you can't take it personally - though I know it's hard.

At the end of the day he's a cat and he's acting on instinct - he has no concept of it being personal! Something happens and it triggers an attack reflex in him - he's not doing it to spite you or because he knew you were there and wanted to hurt you.

Notgoingonholiday · 20/04/2021 08:48

We had an unpredictable and aggressive cat when I was little. She got progressively worse and one day attacked me as I got between her and our dog. I was about 11, I had to go to a&e and was lucky not to be blinded. I had stitches across my eyelid and still have a scar. The cat was put to sleep the next day, she was far too aggressive to re-home.
As an adult me and DH have always had cats. We have 2 teenage DC, but had the cats ever displayed extreme aggressive behaviour we would not have put the DC at risk. They are too unpredictable.
Sorry if my story doesn't help, but your DC are young. A trip to the vet is 100% needed to get an expert opinion.

MazekeenSmith · 20/04/2021 08:51

@sunflowersandbuttercups

It's impossible not to shout when you get a shock of claws and teeth digging in to your skin unexpectedly.

I would disagree - natural and normal? Yes, of course it is. But it's not impossible to remain quiet - it's just not natural behaviour to us.

Personally my cat goes for me when I'm sitting still at the dinner table. There is no trigger at all, that I can control.

Are you eating at the time? Food smells and eating sounds could maybe be a trigger for him. Or maybe he thinks you're sitting in his spot! Cats can be triggered by all sorts of mundane things.

I have one who hates it when I let the dog back in the house and he'll stand and swipe at him. But often he gets my ankle in the process Hmm

No, I work at the table so I'm usually sitting completely still. It's the legs under the table he can't resist. I've got a theory now actually - there is a nest of mice or something under the shed, the cat keeps tearing out of the house to go and sniff around. I think he's got misdirected aggression at the moment due to being hyped up by the prey so close by. There must be a reason why it's got so bad in the last few weeks. He's always been bitey but it's usually playful (though painful) and fairly predictable.
sunflowersandbuttercups · 20/04/2021 11:05

@MazekeenSmith ah - there's always a reason!

Animal behaviour often seems totally unpredictable to us but if you really pay attention and keep an eye on when things happen, there's pretty much always a trigger for it.

Seeingadistance · 21/04/2021 08:28

I don’t have any advice to offer about your cat’s behaviour, but I can understand how upsetting this must be. Hopefully, the vet will be able to offer advice and a solution.

I did want to say that you should contact your GP about your injuries. Cat bites can become really horribly and very seriously infected, so you should get urgent medical help.

pitcherscat · 21/04/2021 23:59

Thank you for all of your responses. He's been acting completely normally ever since, he's currently lying next to me having a snooze. I contacted the rescue that we got him from, and they've recommended a cat behaviour expert who we need our vet to refer to, so we'll ask for the referral next week when we go. I'm not going to make any decisions about re-homing him until I've had him physically checked out and taken advice from the experts. I'm totally ready to medicate him with whatever if it could help. He's always been a nervous boy, but if I could see some change in that I might feel more confident that he'll be less likely to attack again. At the moment I'm finding it hard to trust him, but I've got a week until he's seen so I don't need to rush into any decisions.

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Silvercatowner · 22/04/2021 07:51

I agree with seeking medical help for your injuries - particularly the bites. Friend was kept overnight in hospital on IV antibiotics with similar injuries.

MoonshineWashingLine · 23/04/2021 14:21

Came here to say the same as Silvercatowner, best get something from chemist/gp for your bites & scratches. They're nasty.

As for cats behaviour, sounds like you're doing all the right things. Try feliway as well, experienced people at a rescue I used to foster for insist it works. Not tried it myself though.

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