Lost my gorgeous girl

[scottishmama86]

My gorgeous girl was put to sleep on Tuesday. She was only 8 and I feel so robbed of time with her. We rescued her as a kitten and she'd had a pretty bad start in life and had a lot of health problems. But she had a good 7 and a half years with us and was so loved and spoiled. The rational part of me is glad she's not in pain anymore, but the selfish part of me desperately wants her back. I'm heartbroken. I see her everywhere. We've put her beds in the garage but I can't bear to clear out her food cupboard or toys yet. I've honestly never felt pain like this. Tell me it gets easier?

It does get easier with time. Go easy on yourself, you did the right thing for her. It's ok to be upset and to grieve, it's normal.

As you say she got 7 happy years she might not have had otherwise and when you are ready maybe another cat in need will also benefit from your love and care.

Yes, it does get easier. My girl was only 8 and I know what you mean about feeling cheated.

I’m sorry, you learn to live with it but it’s not easy& it’s not a linear process either.

Mine was 10 & thought we were only halfway. Through.

How upset you are shows how much you loved her. You gave her a good life and did the kindest thing for her.

I'm so sorry. We lost our girl unexpectedly in November just turned six.
I'm still bereft as I thought we had years left too.

I understand the pain and loss

OP, your cat was the spitting image of our girl. Beautiful x

And if it helps, there is no time limit on clearing away precious items.

Her bed still lies on the floor, as did her bowl with a few biscuits until DH decided to clear it out , and I refused to let anyone clean the work surface or floor where she stepped for months.

Oh, she looks perfectly regal - what a beautiful girl!

It must be an awful wrench for you; hopefully you’ll get to a stage where you just have all the happy memories and the pleasure of having given her a lovely life

Thank you everyone. I really appreciate your kindness ❤️

She looks adorable. So sorry for your loss. Take time to sort out her things, there's no rush. She was your best furry friend

I'm so sorry for your loss. It's the hardest part of sharing our lives with our animals. It does get easier with time, but don't be afraid to mourn her properly. They are beloved souls and cherished family members and it's right to mark their passing. What a beautiful, floofy girl she was.

I'm so sorry. 8 is too young but you're right she had 7 happy years with you. She was a gorgeous cat.
As others have said it does get easier, not straight away, but it will do.

@middleager we’re 16 months in. Litter trays still out

Oh I am so sorry, she's absolutely gorgeous. Yes you are upset, you loved her and she's gone. Be easy on yourself and take time to grieve.You gave her a good life. Its horrible but the pain will ease in time but its very early days. I was exactly the same when we lost our rescue cat, I can now look back with fondness at the years she had with us being spoiled and lying at the back door in the sun but I was devastated when she passed away. Sending hugs.

[quote Fluffycloudland77]@middleager we’re 16 months in. Litter trays still out [/quote]

OP, I know tonight will be hard, so thinking about you too.

Thank you everyone for your posts.

I've been so up and down the past few days, which is probably normal. I'm not spiritual or religious at all but I find myself looking for a sign from her that it's ok and that we made the right decision. I still worry we put her to sleep too soon, but the alternative was trying to give her medication 9 times a day. Plus she had stopped eating so would have went even more downhill and I couldn't bear to see her in so much pain.

We lost one of our dbrother dcats last year... He was 8. Remaining dcat was depressed. Gave in and and got a dkitten in December
... You wouldn't be disloyal to consider rescuing a pair of needy dcats op..

She was beautiful op, but you did the right thing for her, and she had a good life with you.
I tend to agree with Easter bunny, for me having another cat to care for and love lessens the loss, you aren't replaci g your beloved cat, I view it as the legacy of my lost cat that I loved them so much I'd want to repeat that with another, plus I like to think I'm helping another rescue experience a loving home. I do realise that everyone is different, but I just can't bear a cat free house.

so sorry OP it's heartbreaking, it isn't any easier when your cat is 19 either, I had my baby PTS a couple of weeks ago and all I can think is that we'd been together for 2 decades and life is so empty now.
I can't face getting another cat so soon yet I can't face being here alone.
Like fluffycloudlands the litter tray is still out because it has her pawprints in it and I cannot bear to throw it away.
It will eventually get easier but it takes a long time.

If she’s not eating you had to help her. It’s ok to cry it out you know, we love them so much and their less annoying than the rest of your family.