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Had to let our beautiful boy go

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LadyOfTheCanyon · 29/01/2021 19:36

He had FIV, diagnosed very late by which time there was very little that could be done. He was so strong and powerful - he was a HUGE cat. Presented so healthy that we suspected the vets thought we had some kind of feline Munchausens by proxy because despite his diagnoses he looked like a cat in the prime of health. But he had no white blood cells.

He stopped eating on Sunday. No food, no water. He started to hide away under the bed, the place where he would go to to let us know something was wrong. We spoke to the vet - they agreed it was time to do The Kindest Thing.

We found a vet who would allow us to be with him and made the appointment. On the way there in the car I put my fingers through the mesh like I always do when we travel but for the first time ever he put both his paws round mine and licked my fingers. He knew. He held on to me the whole way there.

It was over so quickly. His beautiful bright eyes were still so bright and full of life, even in death. I'm so glad that the last thing he saw and heard was us there telling him we loved him. He was the best, most beautiful boy. It was a day sooner than we could have made the decision but I am of the a day sooner than a day too late frame of mind. We booped his nose before we left him. The staff could not have been kinder or more understanding.

Why do they leave such a massive fucking hole? I know it will get better but we miss him so much.

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Piggypiggyoinkoink · 29/01/2021 19:42

Flowers you know it was the right thing for him but yes, it bloody hurts.

frugalkitty · 29/01/2021 20:16

I had to let my boy go yesterday, and all I've done is cry since, it's just so sad. The house feels empty without him, even though we have another cat here who knows something is wrong. I know exactly how you feel, it's just so much harder than you think it will be Flowers

Giraffey1 · 29/01/2021 20:17

I’m so sorry, saying goodbye is the hardest thing x

isitsafetocomeoutyet · 29/01/2021 20:20

I'm so sorry. I wish I had words that could make this better. You did the right thing. And I'm sure he knew you did it out of love Thanks

Worriesandwobbles · 29/01/2021 21:34

So sorry for your loss. Its heart breaking isn't it. Give yourself as much time as you need.

TheLongRider · 29/01/2021 22:52

Flowers I'm so sorry for you all, it's such a hard thing to do. You know you did your best for him. Be kind to yourself, cats are never "just a cat".

rhubarblover · 29/01/2021 22:59

I am so sorry. It is really heartbreaking, but of course you did the right thing. I am dreading when the day will come for my boy.

Want2beme · 29/01/2021 23:41

It is one of hardest things we have to do. It feels so wrong, but I'm so glad that we're able to let them go before they really suffer.

So sorry for your lossFlowersBrew

LadyOfTheCanyon · 29/01/2021 23:49

@frugalkitty
Ah I'm so sorry. Cry as much as you need. I think in a way people are shamed for loving pets, it's as if we should just let go of any feelings and emotion the second they go because they are " just an animal."
Have you got anyone with you to talk it through with?

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LadyOfTheCanyon · 29/01/2021 23:51

Thank you everyone for such kind words and thoughts. It means a lot.Star

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Newnamefor2021 · 29/01/2021 23:53

So sorry, how awful. My mum lost two of hers to it within months of each other. Such a cruel disease. So sorry.

dublingirl66 · 29/01/2021 23:57

Sending you lots of good wishes

So painful
Xxxxxxx

LadyOfTheCanyon · 30/01/2021 00:01

His silly little face ❤️

Had to let our beautiful boy go
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TheLongRider · 30/01/2021 00:29

He was a handsome boy. There is a Litter Tray Memorial thread if you'd like to put up pictures and tell us stories of his fabulousness.

chaosrabbitland · 30/01/2021 00:30

we lost our first house rabbit on 19 jan this year , he would have turned 6 in august , it was very sudden fine on thursday morning and at vets first thing fri morning , readmitted fri eve and when i got there on sat just before 1pm i stood in the car park for over 20 minutes not knowing that they were trying to revive him after he collapsed , but the vet said he went quickly , i was devastated , i stayed there for over an hour and a half holding and kissing him ,begging him to come back , telling him how much he meant to us , i was in total shock had to take 3 days off work , im not crying every day anymore but i still feel empty when im in the living room , its so empty without him hopping about , its still so very painful for me and i miss him so much , i dont think i will ever get over it , il have to learn to live with it , they are are family and thats why it hurts so much , ppl that dont really love animals or have them just dont understand

ilovesooty · 30/01/2021 00:32

He's beautiful. I'm so sorry.

LadyOfTheCanyon · 30/01/2021 03:06

Oh Chaos I'm so sorry about your lovely rabbit. How devastating for you. They take a piece of us with them when they go.

Thanks for you.

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chaosrabbitland · 30/01/2021 07:17

@LadyOfTheCanyon

Oh Chaos I'm so sorry about your lovely rabbit. How devastating for you. They take a piece of us with them when they go.

Thanks for you.

thank you so much , you know here in the facebook rabbit community there is a saying that everytime one of our furry companions leave us they take a tiny piece of our soul with them and only when its our time and we are departing here and arrive at the bridge to be reunited with them , will our souls be complete again , its a lovely saying and i think it typifies how most animal owners feel when a beloved one has to go . xxx he is a lovely cat , i say present tense because he still is , just up in the rainbow bridge now
Roselilly36 · 30/01/2021 07:30

Aww what a beautiful boy, my last cat was a tabby, he was such an individual, and very much my boy, I loved him so, so much. He was sadly pts at 18. Just coming up to 4 years ago. I still really miss him.

We have lost our wonderful dog, many years ago and 3 cats in total now. They all take a bit of your heart with them. As much as I love animals, I can’t bear to lose anymore. So we haven’t replaced them.

Just take each day as it comes OP, and cry why you need to, it is a really awful time when you lose a much loved pet.

afaloren · 30/01/2021 08:56

I’m so sorry. You did such a kind thing for your beautiful boy. Be very gentle with yourself Flowers

frugalkitty · 30/01/2021 15:38

Lady thank you, I think I'm all cried out now, today I woke up feeling sad but not tearful which is something. I've talked to the kids about things, and had a long chat with my mum today who also loved him. I can see things a bit clearer today, and even if I'd taken him sooner the outcome would have been the same, his bladder was blocking even with a catheter in place, so I'm glad that at the end he was being looked after and was medicated so wouldn't suffered as much as if it had happened at home. Also, I'm glad I brought him home to bury because we had the chance to stroke him and tell him how much we loved him. He's buried in his favourite spot in the sunshine. I think it's just the shock of it, we had no idea he was poorly, presumably the crystals and stones take a while to build up, I honestly thought we'd have him a few more years yet. He was one of a kind. I hope you're feeling a bit better too, it's so hard to lose a beloved pet.

pinkhousesarebest · 01/02/2021 18:29

I am crying reading this. Your description of his final journey is heartbreaking.

Fluffycloudland77 · 01/02/2021 20:49

It’s such a shock to lose them no matter how old they are or how poorly. It just wounds you so deeply.

pinkhousesarebest · 01/02/2021 20:57

chaos that is beautiful. I miss my little buns too.

LadyOfTheCanyon · 01/02/2021 22:59

Thank you everyone. I've just been looking at photos of him. The house seems so still without his constant pottering about and chatter. He was a noisy boy who felt the need to comment on all the comings and goings of the day. I had to cancel his insurance this morning and it was so sad knowing I can't protect him any more. You're all so kind to listen and take the time to comment. I really appreciate it.

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