Aggression or play?

[Belepheron]

So my kitten (she) and adult usually v laid back cat (he) have been time in person.

I'm no cat expert and I live alone so I'm asking those wiser in cat lore whether what they are doing is ok or should be stopped.

He meows and looks for her when she's in her room.

He watches her playing. When she prances up to him (arched back, fur up, tail up) she then runs off. He walks or creeps after her. She does it again. And so on.

Some times they chase each other. It's hard to know who is chasing who. He has batted her with his pay a couple of times - swat, swat - and she cowers. Then she gets up and trots or creeps off keeping her distance from him for a minute, then back again, prancing up to him. No hissing or growling from either. They both hissed at each other on day one. After about 20 mins of this I put her in her room and he and she both miaowed so I let her out again and it went on until he bowled her over and hissed at her. So I put her away with cuddles.

He's more relaxed than in day 1 around me, let's me stroke him and will come to me. Day 1 he pegged it outside and wouldn't have anything to do with me

He ate while she was downstairs and "out". He's used her downstairs litter tray (well it is raining!) They both have one each upstairs.

Are these good signs? Or are they fighting? I'm stressed AF about having possibly made a massive error in bringing a kitten into his lovely peaceful predictable life. Both are now fast asleep in separate rooms.

Is this behaviour good progress or not? I'm limiting their time together to half hour burst 3 x a day. Any advice or views?

Cute kitten

Bah. Pic didnt attach. Imagine a cute kitten!

My general rule is if there's no blood or chunks of fur, and no hissing, growling or screaming, then it's play.

Your older cat is teaching the kitten boundaries, and the kitten can't be getting really hurt by the older cat if they keep coming back for more. My pair (siblings, adult) play like this - one attacks the other & they "fight" and chase each other round the house, but they are totally bonded and inseparable.

I would let them be unless it looks like there's any actual injury being done.

Thanks allergic, that's reassuring. It's all so damn worrying - and it's not like there isn't enough to worry about atm!

I have a female kitten (now 14 weeks) and a male cat (5 years approx). They've been together for 6 weeks now. We had a bumpy start and had to take it slow but now play together a lot. They play a lot of chase games and are wrestling a little. At times I have to separate due to the size difference and I worry if kitten sounds unhappy. I think if there are no injuries/hissing/hairs up/growling then you are ok its playing, just looks a bit rough.
if you youtube cats fighting its easy to see the difference.

Should add, when mine "fight" I get the full ears flat back against the skull thing, and I even had a fluffed out tail a couple of times, but it still wasn't serious!

They've had a much better day today thank god. He slept on his tall post bed thing while she puttered about. She did drink from his water bowl which got a stern look from him. She walked past him earlier and he almost licked her. My god if they can be friends it'll be one lovely thing in my 2020. Thanks all.

I think it sounds promising for such early days. I find every day it feels like my two are getting better and better. I’m hopeful for you :-)