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Play fighting taken too far

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Notsurewhyimdoingthis · 14/12/2020 08:50

We have a 7 month old male and recently introduced a 3 month old male. The older one trills through the door, while 3M purrs when he sees 7M. They have met and will play fight, but then it always goes too far. 7M will stop and walk away but 3M will always pounce and start playing again. This pushes 7M and he then takes it too far. There's never any hissing or growling. But 3M does end up meowing and trying to get free. When I separate, 3M immediately goes back to playing. What do I do, should I just let them both keep going until they tire themselves out?

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dementedpixie · 14/12/2020 09:13

What do you mean by too far? Have there been injuries?

Allergictoironing · 14/12/2020 09:16

I'd let them be, as long as there's no blood or big tufts of fur. 3M still has to learn the play boundaries, and 7M is teaching him. No growling & hissing means it's all still within the bounds of play.

Notsurewhyimdoingthis · 14/12/2020 09:48

@dementedpixie the little one meows like he's in distress but then will be quite happy to continue. 3M will hide to get away from 7M, but will come out again to play as soon as 7M walks away. 7M continually trills during play so I'm sure he is only playing but perhaps doesn't realise his own strength

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Notsurewhyimdoingthis · 14/12/2020 09:50

@Allergictoironing no blood, no fur, no growling, no hissing. Just some pitiful meows from the little one now and again

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dementedpixie · 14/12/2020 09:56

Mine always looked like they were trying to kill each other. They are 4 now (got them both at 8 weeks) and they can hiss and meow and growl at each other but never draw blood or cause injury so they are not trying to hurt each other.

mistermagpie · 14/12/2020 10:13

My two adore each other, they sleep together, follow each other everywhere and I had to get rid of a litter try because they will only use the same one!

They still play fight though and it can seem quite aggressive, my female is the aggressor here though. Outside of the fighting their relationship never wavers though so I can only assume they both understand whatever boundaries they have. If nobody is getting hurt then I think playfighting is pretty normal.

Notsurewhyimdoingthis · 14/12/2020 19:44

How long do I let them play - they went for 20 minutes today and then the meows from the little one got louder and louder so I put some food out to distract. Still no growls or hisses though

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vanillandhoney · 14/12/2020 20:32

Doesn't sound remotely problematic to me. Just let them get on with it. The older one will soon show the younger one that he's had enough.

I have a 5yo male and a 7m old. They play and sometimes the little one gets on the older ones nerves, but he never growls or hisses. Just firmly tells him off.

EachandEveryone · 14/12/2020 22:49

No photo?

Notsurewhyimdoingthis · 16/12/2020 08:39

I let their play sessions get longer and longer yesterday. And the they stopped of their own accord and had a nap. I think I've cracked it!!! The little one stills gives out these really pitiful meows every now and again but its becoming less and less.

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