My 10 year old cat died unexpectedly this morning.

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I'm devastated I've been crying on and off all day. She was fine this morning when my partner got up and then when I went down after getting washed this morning she was lying there.

I'm so shocked and just can't imagine not being absolutely gutted. We had her since she was around 3 months old. I don't have children and although not the same I feel my cats are my babies. I just want it not to be true and her to wake up.

Any advice on how to get through this would be appreciated. I don't know how I can just get on with things. I've been off work today. It's my first pet loss like this and totally unexpected. She was such a loving girl. I miss her so much already.

Oh it does hurt so much, it's a genuine bereavement and you will cope like people do with loss. Lots of crying and sadness. Talk about her, then when you feel ready put her bowls and toys away. In time you will not feel this terrible urgent sense of loss and pain it does pass. She would not want you to be sad for too long. She loved you I'm sure.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my 9 year old baby just 6 weeks ago and know just what you are going through. I was devastated too and cried everyday for several weeks.. I am slowly coming to terms with it now and keeping busy has really helped. The pain does lesson slowly. I have her buried in the garden and that is nice as well. I've planted a rose on top and I go out each morning to see her.

So sorry, OP. She was one of your family. Please allow yourself to grieve properly. It's especially hard when these things happen so suddenly, but hopefully it means she didn't suffer in any way.

Oh, I’m so sorry. You have had a huge shock. Allow yourself the opportunity to grieve for your sweet kitty. How lucky she was to be so loved. Xx

I’m so sorry, I lost my baby last year and took it badly but it’s something you love unconditionally and they give so much back that it’s a huge hole they leave.

So sorry OP. I lost my 11 year old suddenly over the first lockdown. It takes a while to grieve to be honest. Sending you well wishes x

Oh no I'm so sorry, losing them is so hard especially suddenly like that.
Do you have any photos so we can all admire her if you want to share?

I do have a DD btw but she's grown up and left home so my cats are my babies too.

Thanks for the kind messages. I don't even know why I'm posting really. Just to share. I'm glad to know it's effected others so much. It really does feel like losing a human.

The thing is most people have a lot of love to give and whether you channel that into work, kids, partners, careers, or pets it needs to go somewhere and if the receptacle of all that love goes you are rather lost.

Our house felt cavernous, empty and cold for ages.

So sorry. It is awful I know

So sorry

I'm sorry for your loss. Cats are so much part of the family

This is my 13yr old that I had to have pts today as his heart gave out. He was a daft cat but will be missed

That is sad, not only losing your girl but the suddenness must be such a shock.

It is losing a family member albeit a very small furry one, but one you have cared for, nurtured, worried about, played with, cuddled, communicated with and loved, just as you do any other family member.

@user1485291191 I’m sorry you had to do that

Much love to you.
It happened with a rescue cat we had, one minute I was telling him it was too early to be fed because he was yowling for dinner.
A few hours later, realised he hadn’t had dinner and he was dead under my bed. Most likely a heart attack because of the suddenness.

Thanks for the support. The shock and suddenness has made it worse. So sorry about your boy @user1485291191 sending love. They are like a family member not 'just' a pet.

I keep thinking about finding her and how she was. Her eyes open and her little mouth open. We're having her cremated this morning. I know she's gone but I don't really like the idea of burying her. It would have to be in my parents garden as we only have a yard. I'd be worried about foxes etc. So I'd rather just get her cremated and scatter her ashes somewhere nice. I know this is for us not her.

I'm crying again been awake for 15 min! My head is killing me. I just really want her back.

Sorry to hear about your boy too @MrsPnut

In a way it's better as they don't suffer and no hard decisions about having them pts. But Jesus the shock of it, its just awful.

We lost our previous rescue cat to a road accident.. it took over a week to find him and I had messages and posters everywhere. I was devastated and cried and cried.. it was awful :-( We left it a while and adopted another rescue cat when we were ready. Thinking of you, it's terribly hard :-(

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We lost our previous rescue cat to a road accident.. it took over a week to find him and I had messages and posters everywhere. I was devastated and cried and cried.. it was awful :-( We left it a while and adopted another rescue cat when we were ready. Thinking of you, it's terribly hard :-(

I'm so sorry to hear this. I try to have comfort in the fact it wasn't like this for her or us. I know there are many ways of dying for cats which are worse. But it's still so hard. I'm feeling awful today really tired and I have the woest headache. I'm crying less but whe I do cry just feel like I want to scream at the utter hopelessness of it as I know she bit coming back.