Bereaved cat advice!!

[bairnk]

Wondering if anyone has any experience with a situation like this and could give any advice!!

My dad had two cats, brother and sister. Three weeks ago the boy cat died fairly suddenly after a short illness. They are around 12 years old. Since his death the girl cat is yowling very loudly most of the night and my poor dad is exhausted.

Girl cat seems absolutely fine all day- acting completely as normal, seems happy and relaxed. At night time my dad shuts her downstairs to sleep( as he has always done with both cats) and that is when she starts wailing. For the last week or so it has been 11-2am ish then starts again around 4am. He has tried letting her roam around at night but she was the same /worse. He has a feliway plug in which doesn't seem to have made much difference so looking for any advice. Has anyone tried cbd oil for cats? Just wondering if it might help!

I think she's probably grieving for her brother. One of my cats went around shouting for his friend for a month after he died. It only stopped once we got a new cat

Otherwise has your Dad asked a vet for advice or taken her to a vet to rule out any other causes?

Aww if she's usually shut to sleep she's probably lonely. Would he let her in his room. Poor girl. Must be so tough on your dad as well.

She is lonely. He should let her cuddle him at night
and then get another cat in a couple of months.

He has tried letting her roam about at night and she is just crying sitting on/ at side of his bed- vet thought better to keep her routine the same as it had always been and to put her inti the room she's always slept in- she's been checked over and no health issues, vet just recommended feliway.

We lost my mum in July( although the cats were always more bonded with my dad) so there has been a lot of upheaval for her this year and my dad hasn't been sleeping too well since then anyway but the poor cat crying all night is just such a shame for them both! She just seems so happy and relaxed during the day, 11pm it all starts! Think my dad worries that getting another cat might just upset her more.

They probably played at night or had a little routine you wouldn’t know about.

If she didn’t see her brother dead she doesn’t know what’s happened.

I have the same issue @bairnk and came on here to see if anyone had any advice.

We lost our 14 year old boy in the summer and his sister is still with us .

But she wails all the time. All day, all night. We have had her checked at the vet and no issues.

The thing is they weren't even the best of friends. She avoided him at all costs so we didn't expect such a strong reaction.

She went missing for 2 and a half years and he was here on his own in that time and he was a little out of sorts for a bit but then settled down quickly.

We're not sure what we can do. I feel sorry for her that she's clearly distressed but also am finding it hard being kept up all night.

She has free roam of the house as she used to and sleeps at the bottom of whoever's bed she wants to.

She also doesn't want to go out at all anymore. I think now her brother isn't there to fend off the other cats she is pestered in the garden by them.

Sorry, to be of no help OP but I can sympathise with your dad.

@Breathmiller

I have the same issue *@bairnk* and came on here to see if anyone had any advice.

We lost our 14 year old boy in the summer and his sister is still with us .

But she wails all the time. All day, all night. We have had her checked at the vet and no issues.

The thing is they weren't even the best of friends. She avoided him at all costs so we didn't expect such a strong reaction.

She went missing for 2 and a half years and he was here on his own in that time and he was a little out of sorts for a bit but then settled down quickly.

We're not sure what we can do. I feel sorry for her that she's clearly distressed but also am finding it hard being kept up all night.

She has free roam of the house as she used to and sleeps at the bottom of whoever's bed she wants to.

She also doesn't want to go out at all anymore. I think now her brother isn't there to fend off the other cats she is pestered in the garden by them.

Sorry, to be of no help OP but I can sympathise with your dad.

Sorry to hear you're going through similar! My dad's cats were the same-not overly bothered with each other their whole lives- he has had a little success the past two nights by putting a few drops of rescue remedy in with her food and she has only wailed for 10 minutes instead of 2 hours, so a big improvement!