How to handle end of life for old poorly cat with tumour

[bigarsebelinda]

Please may I have some help and advice regarding my poorly cat? I don't have another adult I can talk to about this and I'm feeling a bit clueless.

Cat is 18/19. Has big tumour on skin that is growing fast. She's scratched it and broken skin in the past so she's been wearing a medical pet vest to prevent this.

She is clearly deteriorating, likely to be in some pain. A bit unsteady but mobile. She is alert in that she can spot another cat outside and want to chase it away but she doesn't go far.
She mostly uses her litter box correctly and eats loads still. She's become very vocal ☺️

I need to talk to vet again I know but so far they've been very reluctant to give me advice on when she might have reached the end. Not helped by having to discuss her in a carpark and no face time with the vet.

I don't want her to suffer at all but I don't want to make the call to euthanise too soon. Heard the expression better a week too soon than a day too late.

I've got two kids who've not experienced death before. I've been preparing them but this is making me so sad and it's going to break me. No idea how I handle it for them too.

Any advice on any of this please pile in

Thank you.

Hugs to you.

very glad it was able to happen at home. Sending hugs x

Thank you everyone. I've told almost no one at the moment so I appreciate your kind words.

So weird last night without her wanting to sit on my lap constantly and again morning she wasn't meowing for breakfast. 💜

We were all slightly freaked out by a loud meowing coming from outside this morning- turned out to be a neighbours cat

So sorry. It sounds like she was a well loved kitty so will leave a big hole behind.
You mention the meowing. After our old girl was PTS a neighbourhood cat started visiting us most days. He was quite happy for about 10 minutes of fuss then off he went. It was like he was offering some comfort.

The gap is so hard, isn't it. Places you're expecting them to be, or noises you're expecting to hear. For mine it was a tumour, as well; PTS three weeks ago, at 13. Like you I had a few weeks of weighing up how well/how ill she was, and when was the right time. I know it was the best thing for her but oh my gosh, I miss her terribly.