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First day after my cat was put to sleep

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largeprintagathachristie · 27/09/2020 08:30

Oh gosh, will it get easier?
I had to have my cat put to sleep yesterday. My first time. It went as well as it could have. She was on my lap when they put the line In.
She had cancer and had weakened quickly over the past couple of days. It was the right time. I was a weeping mess and have been since.

Now I keep thinking I see her out of the corner of my eye. A dark cushion, a shadow, a curtain moving.

The house just feels wrong. So many little bits of routine involved her.
My first thought on waking up this morning was that she’ll be wanting fed and then to come into the bedroom to hang out.

I guess I’ve spent 13 years mostly knowing where she was. And she was very social, so she was mostly supervising whatever I was doing! Or I knew when I hadn’t seen her for too long and she had likely got herself into some ludicrous scrape, either indoors or out.

I have a partner and step DCs now but it was just me and her for many years and she was with me during some rough times.

I suppose these firsts are hard; my first time waking up without her, walking back into the house for the first time when usually she’d hear the door and come to see me.

When working from home she liked to “help” and was usually too near the lap top, on my lap or sleeping on an arrangement of scrap paper I’d made for her, so she wouldn’t be lying on exactly the document I needed Smile

It feels so flat.

OP posts:
ZigZagToTheBeach · 27/09/2020 08:35

@largeprintagathachristie I'm so sorry to read of your loss. I remember this heartache well and it is so acute in the early stages. I still feel sad thinking of my cat but it is not raw. I can think about her without crying and laugh again about the funny moments. With time it will get better. For now draw comfort from those around you. I found it helped to tell my real life friends. The good ones were just amazing.

Fluffycloudland77 · 27/09/2020 08:51

I’m sorry, it gets easier but there’s no time frame and no way of numbing the pain of losing them. Let it all out and cry as much as you need to.

Toddlerteaplease · 27/09/2020 09:14

It will get better.

Pelleas · 27/09/2020 09:17

Yes, this is the cat-shaped hole Flowers.

Only time can make you feel better, so allow yourself to grieve.

jellytot24 · 27/09/2020 09:19

I'm so sorry OP Flowers It will get better but you need to give yourself time to grieve. She sounds very similar to my 13 year old girl, your descriptions of her routines brought a smile to my face. Thinking of you xx

MrsCatE · 28/09/2020 06:58

Handhold. Not much else I can say but when you look back, at least you were with her x Flowers

betteroffdead · 28/09/2020 15:31

yes, I am 6 weeks today since we lost our gorgeous cat, I am still heartbroken. In fact just had a little cry looking at a photo of him

I can go a couple of hours now without thinking of him but the house is not the same.

hope it gets easierFlowers

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