Feeling guilty about new kitten

[LostFrog]

My much loved cat died in July from HCM at just four years old. Recently decided to get a new kitten which we will collect in 3 weeks when he is 10 weeks old. Now I am consumed with guilt and regret and I am worried I won’t love him as much. Old cat was one in a million. Kids are excited but I just feel sad.

Anyone else had this and can offer some reassurance? Perhaps I have rushed into this after only 2 months. But I don’t think if I waited another year it would be any different! Just hoping I will feel better once he is here. Sorry I know i am feeling sorry for myself and there are bigger problems out there right now.

You can miss your old cat dearly and love your new kitten too. It’s not being disloyal. Kittens are very hard not to love....

Your new cat will be different so you might not love him in the same way, but you will still love him.

No addition of a kitten to a home can ever be a mistake.

Where is the pic?

I loved my old cats and thought I wouldn't love my new kittens as much but omg I adore them, they're totally different personalities to my old cats. I sometimes feel disloyal
Kittens worm their way into your heart with their adorableness

You obviously have a great cat home and a loving heart. It would be a shame not to let a kitten (or two!) have a brilliant life.
You will love him just as much.

Thanks guys. I needed to hear that. No pic yet until he’s here but he is ginger with a white tummy and I think he will be a Jeremy.

I've made the mistake of getting a new cat when one of the old ones has just died in the hopes it will comfort me, it doesn't, it just makes me feel worse.
You need to allow yourself to grieve first.

I have had three cats, all of them have had very different personalities & all much loved, don’t worry OP, enjoy.

I remember saying to my husband when we got our kittens that i dont think i could ever love them as much as my old girl however I completely adore them. They have totally different personalities to my 1st cat and because we got them as kittens they have brought so much joy to our house hold.

I also lost my cat to HCM. Had intended to wait to get a new cat. But the right cat was in the rescue and she came home 10 days later. You absolutely will love your new cat just as much.

Cheddar was absolutely the best thing I could have done at the time. She's completely different from Maia but has some real similarities to her. It's quite spooky at times but lovely.

I lost mine to HCM. It took 3 1/2 years until I was ready. I'll never forget how special Troy was and I purposely got a cat that wasn't black and white like him. That would have been too hard.

You will love your new cat, even though they are all cats their personalities are different.

Thank you. I don’t think I will ever really get over losing him really. We almost decided to get a dog instead (he was pretty much a dog in cat form anyway!) but not ready for the lifestyle change right now. I hope we are doing the right thing.

Troysmammy I know, I will never be able to have another black and white cat either.