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my cat is so scared of everything!

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tara738 · 26/08/2020 11:22

my cat (kitten?) is 8 months and increasingly getting so scared of everything, it's quite sad to me. She was such a confident baby, climbing all over everyone and purring away at the vets but as she's got older it's like everything is a threat! she now hides from visitors (she comes out eventually but only if we completely ignore her and are quiet) and when we go in the garden she SHOOTS inside at the slightest noise - even just neighbours talking next door!

I feel like it's our fault she's become so scaredy because over lockdown her life was very small and quiet, as it was for all of us - but now I'm completely at a loss how to grow her confidence back. Nothing bad has happened to her and nothing has ever caused her trauma. I sit outside with her and it seems to make no difference. We try having guests regularly to expose her but that doesn't seem to help because it's always at the weekend and we can't help that sometimes we need to be out elsewhere or whatever.

Any tips? She's still super friendly and social in terms of playing, getting picked up, etc but only with us. Anyone else involved or anything outside of exactly what she is used to and bam, she's under the bed. Will she grow out of it?? I'm a first time cat owner!

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Movinghouseatlast · 26/08/2020 11:27

My cat is a scardy cat, but got better as she got older. She still won't be picked up, the vet is a nightmare, noone has ever touched her apart from us. She isn't scared in the garden now, but won't be in the room with strangers!

tara738 · 26/08/2020 11:41

aw, poor little thing - was he/she always like that? mine let herself be touched by my friend the other day but she was here for HOURS being quiet and calm before she would come into the room. it's just inevitable things will change, cats will have to meet strangers, go to a cattery, hear loud noises etc but seeing her terrified is so upsetting

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BovaryX · 26/08/2020 12:18

Cats are very sensitive to noise. My advice? Play her some soothing, relaxing music. This may sound crazy, but Armenian Duduk is my cat's favourite, it puts him in a trance and he jumps at his own shadow....

AnnaMagnani · 26/08/2020 12:31

Silky cat was like this, she's grown out of it as she got older and also we weren't really having any truck with it as she needed to burn off some energy.

We felt like utter wallies to start with taking her out in the garden and standing with her as she would only go out if both of us were there with her Blush but she was unbearable as a house cat as she was so bored.

We built it up and OK, to start with all she did outside was hide in a hedge and there were a lot of jokes about her being faulty.

But at the grand age of 2 she now loves going out still mainly the hedge has caught a mouse and does appear to be enjoying cat behaviour. OK at the cattery she spends the whole week hiding under a blanket but she's happy to be home and clearly does come out from the blanket as she comes back quite fat!

It's never bothered us that if we have visitors that there is the cat they don't see. And eventually she did start turning up, but if she hadn't that would have been fine too.

She is a very happy cat and if you support her while accepting her own personality, it'll be fine.

Oldraver · 26/08/2020 12:37

Ernie was like this, the list things that frightened him just got longer. Ice cream van, postman anyone at the door, any dog, bin men, fireworks and even the Thursday night pot bangers

Overall he was a lovely cat so we just took this as one of his foibles. It is a bit disconcerting that you can't comfort them

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tara738 · 26/08/2020 13:16

ah I'm glad to hear she's not the only one! maybe I do just need to let her get on with it and accept it as her weird personality! little idiots

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