Emotional wreck thinking this is probably DCat’s last week

[m0therofdragons]

DCat is 15 and has been poorly for a while but was content. Then in February she had a new found energy and loved the garden during lockdown (having previously stayed inside by choice for 2 years). The last week she’s been wanting to be near me a lot in the evenings and the last 48 hours she’s looking very very thin and hardly any weight to her when I pick her up. She’s eating but we’ve put the bowl under our bed next to her as her back end is very wobbly and she’s so little energy. We’ve put a very low litter tray down so she can step into it.

I can’t see her improving so we’re going to have cuddles and tuna and any further decline then we’ll have to call the vet.

We’ve had her since she was a kitten and I’m so emotional. I’m not a cryer so colleagues are noticing my bloodshot eyes and being sympathetic but I really need to get a grip for the sake of the kids. This is so much harder than I thought it would be.

for you. It's awful.

Could you take her to the vet? This could be something treatable.

It’s so hard when you see them declining in front of you.

We went through it with our old girl 2 years ago and although it was hard I’m so happy she died at home surrounded by us and the other cats. She went peacefully and we left her on her blanket for most of the day and our boys were able to say goodbye to their sister.

It’s painful and you’ll need time to properly grieve and eventually it will stop hurting. Give her lots of love and cuddles and tell her it’s ok to go when she’s ready. Big hugs OP, it’s never easy to say goodbye to them.

Could you take her to the vet? This could be something treatable.

She’s seen the vet and I’ve spoken to them again this morning. I’m not just watching an ill cat and neglecting her! She has lymphoma. The treatment isn’t appropriate for her stage and age so would not improve her quality of life.

@m0therofdragons - I’m so sorry, it’s heartbreaking when you see them decline.

With regards to the lymphoma, am assuming this was diagnosed through blood tests? Have the vets done any scan or x-rays? The only reason I ask is that my boy declined quickly over a couple of days - looked like he’d aged 10 years, lost weight and was incredibly unsteady on his feet. The tumour had split inside of him, so the toxin leak caused the decline. He was still kind of eating, and still very much up for cuddles. That would be my biggest worry with your cat if no scan etc been done.

This is hard to say, but am not sure I’d be waiting for further decline - if she hasn’t had scan or X-ray, then I think you should call and request ASAP. And I can assure you I definitely don’t think you’re neglecting an ill cat. They are so blooming good at hiding how bad they are feeling, I think another early intervention would be ideal.

Sending head bops from this house to your girl 🐾💕

Oh bless you and your little one
May you both feel peace and love

I lost my 15 year old boy to lymphoma in April so know how painful it is near the end and trying to make the call on when it is the right time to let them go.

Sending hugs to you and your girl.

She’s not sleeping just laying with her eyes open. She’s normally fairly sleepy but clearly can’t rest properly so must be in pain. The vet is coming to our garden later today.

I’m in work trying not to cry over everyone, distracting myself with work. I managed to hold it together while I let the chief exec know I’d be leaving work a little early. He was really lovely. Part of me wishes I could work from home today but in reality she doesn’t want cuddles so it would have been for my benefit not hers. Feeling so so sad but it’s the right time.

@m0therofdragons has the vet come round? It sounds like it was the right decision. She will rest in peace now. It’s horrible when they go, I really feel for you. You must be devastated 💐

Yes, the vet actually came into the house (wearing a mask) and was absolutely lovely. She died in my arms very peacefully. Our other cat came over and sniffed her inquisitively. Slightly nervous about him as he’s 17 but he’s okay for now. I think we navigated the children’s emotions as best we could. She really was a beautiful and loving girl.

@m0therofdragons - am so sorry that she’s gone, but pleased that the vet was able to come to your house and that you were able to be with her. Most words seem trite at this stage, but sending you all gentle hugs.

RIP gorgeous girl

Oh big hugs OP

Big hugs to you OP. It’s so, so hard. I’m glad she had a peaceful passing, I’m sure she felt very loved 💐