Meet the Other Phone. Only the apps you allow.

Meet the Other Phone.
Only the apps you allow.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

The litter tray

Join our community of cat lovers on the Mumsnet Cat forum for kitten advice and help with cat behaviour.

Neighbour's cat - our problem or theirs?

17 replies

Thurlow · 02/07/2020 11:43

Really can't decide whether we should suck this up, or talk to the neighbours about it - especially as I know you can't make a cat do a damn thing it doesn't want to!

We have a cat, and an unlocked cat flap because she goes in and out 24 hours a day. Had no problems with other cats coming in for years. Six months ago our neighbours got a cat, who's turning out to be a bit of a bully. During the first few months the neighbours cat started coming into the house and fighting with our cat; admittedly our cat was a bit of a wimp which didn't help! We've had a few occasions where we were woken at 3am by the cats actually fighting in our bedroom, and I was thinking about getting a different cat flap, but then they seemed to sort themselves out. Now they aren't friends but tolerate each other and will be in our garden without fighting.

I've suspected for a while that the neighbours cat has been coming in and helping herself to our cat's dried food, but there's not often much available (we tend to put down only what she needs to eat) and it wasn't a problem. I have to say I don't mind at all someone else's cat being in our house if they're not causing problems. While chatting to the neighbours a few weeks ago I mentioned their cat occasionally trying to steal food and they said they've put her on a diet.

Which leads to the last few nights, when I've come downstairs to find more often than not that our kitchen caddy has been tipped over the food gone through - only when we've put bones in there. Our cat has never done this. At first I thought it had just been knocked over while the cats were fighting or one of them was chasing a mouse, but this morning the bag was clearly ripped and the chicken bones strewn all over the floor.

Anyway - first time cat owner here, is it up to us to pay and install a microchip cat flap (which I've always been slightly unsure about in case it breaks when we're on holiday or something), or is it up to the neighbours to try and keep their cat in at night if it's so destructive?

OP posts:
SandieCheeks · 02/07/2020 11:45

Yes up to you to have a secure cat flap if you want to prevent access.

SandieCheeks · 02/07/2020 11:45

Why not just lock your cat flap at night? Your cat should be kept in anyway.

SoupDragon · 02/07/2020 11:46

Yes, you need to install a microchip cat flap I'm afraid. You can't rely on the other cat being kept in.

SoupDragon · 02/07/2020 11:46

Why should they keep their cat in at night when you don't?

MinnieMousse · 02/07/2020 11:46

If they are reasonable, I would talk to them about it but I'd probably just suck it up and get the microchip one, then at least you know it's safe.

Have you given it a good soak with some water when it comes in? I had one try to get in through my cat flap a few times but it disappeared when it got a good spray with the supersoaker. (Not trying to be cruel - I am a cat owner and would be more than happy for my cat to be doused with water if it was entering other homes).

sluj · 02/07/2020 11:47

Yes it's your job to keep the unwanted cat out. He won't listen to reason . Also your own cat will thank you for it and be less stressed.
Microchip flaps are brilliant and I recommend them

EasilyDelighted · 02/07/2020 11:48

We've got a microchip catflap as our neighbour's cats do try and get in occasionally. We change the batteries before going on holiday. To be honest, if yours are in and out 24 hours a day I think it might be a bit cheeky to ask your neighbour to lock theirs in.

EasilyDelighted · 02/07/2020 11:49

Our neighbours cats have managed to get in through the microchip flap occasionally by tailgating ours through, but its been about twice in 7 years as far as I know.

gotothecooler · 02/07/2020 11:51

Someone else's cat has been coming into your house for months and you haven't thought to lick the cat flap Confused

Of course it's up to you to stop unwanted animals entering your house!

RedCatBlueCat · 02/07/2020 11:51

Microchip catflap.
Ours defaults to "open for everyone" if the batteries go. So problems when away wont include cats locked outside (we would only ever leave them for one night anyway, cattery if we are away longer).

gotothecooler · 02/07/2020 11:52

Lock the cat flap, I'm not sure licking it would be much help Blush

Thurlow · 02/07/2020 11:58

Licking it Grin

I don't mind the cat being in the house at all, until this.

I'll get a microchip one - I don't know why I'm wary of them, that's probably just me, so I'll bow to universal opinion and get one.

I know our cat doesn't go in other houses because she's too scared. I wondered partly if the neighbours might want to know all their hard work with the diet is clearly being undone by the cat going into other houses and eating other cats food - I was partly thinking of that too for them keeping her in.

Off to Amazon I go! Any recommendations?

OP posts:
redwoodmazza · 02/07/2020 12:20

We had exactly this scenario. A big fluffy neighbourhood thug cat kept coming into our house too. We have a cat flap on our back porch and then another on the back door. Thug cat even had a fight with our two in the conservatory!

I decided that we had to get a cat flap that works on the microchips. Thug cat hasn't been able to get in since. The only problem is that our younger and dopier sibling cat is frightened of using the new cat-flap. He's only little and because of our door frame, the flap is higher up in the door. He has used it though - when the dustbin lorry came he zoomed through it at 100 mph!!!! That was only because he was terrified though.
He has now trained us to let him in and out of the front door...

If the batteries run out in the microchip cat flap, the cat flap just stays on the open option - so the cats can't be either locked in or out. Our batteries last for more than a year though.

We bought the SureFlap DualScan Microchip Cat Flap - in 2015!

SunbathingDragon · 02/07/2020 12:26

We have a microchip one and when the batteries start to get low, it flashes a red light to give plenty of warning so you don’t need to worry about holidays - although for extra peace of mind, any time you go away you could change the batteries beforehand. I’m assuming someone will be coming in to feed your cat anyway, so they would very quickly notice the smell and open up the cat flap if needed.

Fluffycloudland77 · 02/07/2020 12:29

I’d keep her in overnight, it’s the worst time for them to be killed on the road & being a bit bored overnight is better than being dead.

SandieCheeks · 02/07/2020 12:31

I wouldn’t be happy for another cat to be coming in, your cat needs a safe place to retreat to.

Just lock your cat flap at night.

sluj · 02/07/2020 12:34

Our microchip Sureflap is mains operated so no problems with batteries running out. It defaults to open when there is a power cut.
You can get one now that ties in with an app so you can lock it remotely, looks good.

New posts on this thread. Refresh page