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Is it time to say goodbye

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tootyfruitypickle · 09/03/2020 06:10

My lovely cat is nearly 19 and has kidney disease. Her levels were just over 300 in Jan. I took her in about a month later for chronic sickness and vet said he would think her level would have risen and that it was time to pts, and she had also lost a lot more weight. I needed time to talk to dd so he gave her fluid and anti sickness but warned the sickness would return within a week.

However that was about 6 weeks ago and she’s only been sick twice. Once was yesterday, while trying to poo. She tried for ages and can’t. Still hasn’t. I came downstairs this morning and there are blood droplets everywhere. They lead to wee in the litter (no blood in wee) so I think maybe while straining to poo?

She’s become extremely confused the past fortnight. I have to keep her in the living room with food etc in here as she gets lost and does bizarre things, has habit of wedging herself down side of bin then getting stuck and weeing where she stands.

But she eats. She comes for cuddles. She’s glued to me the last week.

I think it’s time. But then I see her eating ravenously and wonder.

I’m going to wfh today and speak to vet.

I wonder whether I should just do it today. Dd knows and thinks cat is not happy. But I dread telling her when she wakes up that I should do it today , she’s 11. We’ve talked about it for weeks though so maybe best to stop dragging it out for her .

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tootyfruitypickle · 09/03/2020 06:14

Also she’s not groomed for about 6 months, I brush her. She weighed about 3.5kg last tjme at vets so less now.

Is eating and cuddling enough or is that outweighed by everything else - she has extreme confusion. Smacks her lips a lot and so i think feels sick even though she does eat. And now constipation with blood when straining.

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TheLongRider · 09/03/2020 07:46

It's the hardest but best decision you can make for a cat. She's been through so much and she trusts you. Better a day early than a day late.

ChewChewIsMySpiritAnimal · 09/03/2020 07:49

It sounds like it's time sorry op. The cat eating well seems like it's the only marker of any kind of health. The vet has told you his opinion and I think you should listen to him.

DeborahAnnabelToo · 09/03/2020 07:52

I would say it is time - she sounds like she is extremely confused which must be upsetting for her. The hiding away is also a sign of a very ill and unhappy cat. Let her go now before things get worse and you may be left with a feeling of guilt rather than relief for her.

tootyfruitypickle · 09/03/2020 07:57

It’s the confusion that I think is the main issue for me. That must be so awful. DD has also remarked she is very uncat like now . I just told DD and said I would do what vet thought best so most likely pts today. She was a bit upset then grabbed iPad and went to get ready, think she’s already accepted it.

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tootyfruitypickle · 09/03/2020 07:58

Is the wandering into corners and getting stuck a hiding away symptom? I hadnt thought of it like that .

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tootyfruitypickle · 09/03/2020 08:00

Yes the only thing that makes me wondering is the eating (recently 5 pouches a day). Also the cuddles. But she’s a bit like that and I wouldn’t want to get her to a situation where she no longer wanted a cuddle as she has always been extremely affectionate.

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Allergictoironing · 09/03/2020 08:32

I would want cuddles if I was sick, in pain and confused, so please don't look on that as a positive thing. I'm afraid I agree that it sounds like it's time, and the last good thing you can do for her is pts before she gets more confused, more in pain, sicker.

My heart goes out to you, I don't know what I'll do when it's time for one of mine Flowers

Want2beme · 09/03/2020 11:31

My cats have all had traits of themselves left at the end. Sadly, it's the actual illness that's the deciding factor for letting them go. It's such a hard decision to make. I was constantly going back and forth to the vet for reassurance, but I knew when it was time. You still have doubts about your decision, but they can't carry on being so unwell and not being themselves. Let your vet be your guideSmile

tootyfruitypickle · 09/03/2020 11:37

Vet hasn’t called back yet. Meanwhile she’s eaten three Sheba pouches quite happily and now sleeping . She’s had a wee (as usual, on puppy pad next to litter!), and there’s no blood in it so definitely a constipation issue. I’ve given her two little bits of laxativehairball paste over the morning to try and get things moving. Changing my mind every two minutes as the following me around seems to be food related as she stops once I’ve fed her !

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ChewChewIsMySpiritAnimal · 09/03/2020 14:13

While she might rally for a bit - an hour, a day, a week - at her age she isn't going to get better.

tootyfruitypickle · 09/03/2020 14:52

The vet has suggested I bring her in, as they think the constipation sounds mild so easily treated. We will then have a conversation about her overall quality of life. It’s a different vet, and this is a different issue , so this should help. Thanks for all your views, I do agree earlier is better and what I don’t want is to have to do this after some awful crisis. So I think what I might do is book in a home visit for pts later this week, unless the vet tells me it’s too early.

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mummymayhem18 · 09/03/2020 15:18

Sorry to read this. Sorry to say but it does sound like it's probably time for her to go. I know it's hard but you wouldn't want her to be in any pain. Good luck. X

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