Grieving a beloved girl

[Kelroc]

Yesterday my beautiful girl fell asleep. Everything has happened so quickly. Biopsy on Monday and results yesterday showed it was an aggressive oral cancer. She wasn’t able to eat or drink and we were advised that she would deteriorate rapidly, so we made the awful decision to put her to sleep last night.
My heart is broken. I’ve had her for 11 years-through so many life changes, and she was my best friend. I know everyone says this, but she was the most affectionate girl-always greeted me when I got home-always by my side. I also have her daughter and they only know living together. I’m wondering if my remaining little one will be okay. And others that have experienced this terrible grief-how long did it take for you to start to feel better?At the moment I just can’t stop crying! I have a lovely husband and wonderful baby, and I know I need to pull myself together but I just feel so sad

Your words are really comforting, thank you. Hoping that soon the happy memories will come more often than the tears

So sorry.

I love our pair of furry thugs that when the time comes we are both going to be utterly heartbroken.

Oh lovely, she was taken too soon but it was mercifully quick - never easy however it happens. My thug boy looks just like her and is 11 to the day and has arthritis. >>>hugs

Babdoc that's beautiful and made me weep. Rekindled a wickedness of grief and strength and love to survive thereafter.

RIP loved ones, Loved to all who are hurting.

Thank you for all the understanding. I picked up her ashes today and feel like I’ve gone backwards a bit. I’m still just devastated. I keep thinking about how she was fine then it all happened so fast. House feels strange without her. I’m keeping an eye on our other cat, who is her baby. This is so hard, they really do break your heart

Just wondering how others felt after a few weeks. I still cry everyday for her, and it’s been three weeks. I’m worse at night, but it’s a sadness that’s there a lot. I’ve got a gorgeous 6mo and I feel like I’m being silly still feeling so upset. Is this normal?!

Your not being silly at all, grief takes as long as it takes.

Life’s just not the same without them.

It’s really not. She’s left such a hole in our lives

So sorry. She was beautiful.

I'm so sorry, OP. It's almost a year since I said goodbye to my 19 year old boy. I'd had him since he was a kitten, and I relate totally to your through so many life changes comment - he'd been with me through the end of a LTR, a relocation, getting married.

I could hardly comprehend that he just wasn't there any more. I remember sitting outside work having a cigarette the afternoon after he'd been PTS and my life seemed to stretch out endlessly ahead without him, and it felt so bleak.

There was no answer, I just had to let myself grieve for him. A few months later I felt able to look at getting another cat - I now have a new, young boy to love and that has helped. I often talk to him about my old boy, to keep his memory alive.

It’s good to know I’m not the only one who grieves like this. I still miss her everyday. My other cat is definitely super clingy and had even made friends with my DD! I just can’t shake the sadness that I’ll never cuddle her again. And I know 13 isn’t a bad age, but I really thought she’d see her late teens. My heart breaks when I look at her pictures.

I still look for mine every time I go into the kitchen or up the stairs 😔

So sorry to hear this. I too lost my lovely girl 2 months ago with the same thing - an oral cancer. She was only 13 too (one month off 14) and I also thought I'd have another 5 years or so left. She was a rescue cat - we got her when she was 8. It took me about 3 weeks before I could actually talk about it without crying and now, 2 months on, I still wake up in the morning expecting to have her waiting for me. House feels odd and a bit sterile.

Hope the grief gets easier for you.

xx

I get the sterile thing.

So sorry you’re going through the same thing. Was it the same with you-that your girl was otherwise well. I think that’s what makes it so awful - that she seemed okay just days before. And I agree, sterile is how it feels here now