My poor cat is near the end.

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My lovely, sweet little cat is very ill. She has a tumor and right now we are trying steroids and anti nausea injections. She's more alert but has stopped eating. I know it won't be long until we need to end her suffering, but I feel so awful.
I have had to explain the process to my children who are obviously upset, but they do understand. They are 10 and 12.
Many years ago I went through this with my old cat who had heart disease. We left him too late and I remember the guilt, I won't do that again.
But what I can't remember is, if I felt relief after. At the moment I feel nauseous and so sad. Will I feel sad but relief after?
I know it's not about me and I will make the decision soon. I will be there for my little puss.
But I could use some advice from those who have experienced this.

It's hard to know how you'll feel, but I felt empty when I let each of mine go. I planned how I wanted it to be on the approach which helped, ie I wanted them to pass on something comfy (my boy had our quilt cover under him which was covered in his scent). Hopefully you'll know when the time is right, and try and hang onto the fact that your girl had a good life with you and that she was yours for whatever time she had with you.

I completely agre with @ifonly4, plan how you want it to be when it does come to it. Also plan what you want to happen to their body. It's easier than trying to
Think when you are upset. My cat had exactly the death I wanted for her, and it was a huge comfort to me that it was like that.

Thank you.
We have a plan about her burial but hadn't thought about her blanket for the vets.
I will be with her, but my dh will stay at home with the dc.
PixelCat is almost 14, we've had her almost 13 years. She was a stray and had been handed into the RSPCA when she was having kittens. Her one surviving kitten was adopted and she was left. She has a funny shaped tail, probably broken and healed badly when she was stray.
Her life with us has been cuddles, sun spots and mad runs. She's been very contented, very loved and has had a good life.

It's horrible. But she's had a wonderful life with you.

I was with my cat when the vet put her to sleep and I'm so glad I was there. It was really peaceful and I knew that I'd made the right decision. I'd had her for 21 years and wanted to be with her at the end.

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I took my cats sister with her, as she would always go to her for comfort if she was scared. (Didn't like each other the rest of the time) Maia has a wander round the room then climbed in to her sisters basket with her while we waited for the vet. It was perfect.

Sorry to hear this it is tough. Myself and DP stayed with our girl when she was PTS. It was very calm and peaceful. The vet let me have her on my lap. They also let us have some time with her before and after.
The vet did ask what we wanted to do with her body beforehand so I agree that is good to have planned already.
It sounds like she has had a lovely life with you.

I always look at it as the last gift we can give them, and it's always better a day too soon than a day too late.
I find it easier having them done at home in familiar surroundings.
Euthanasia actually means a good death, and we are lucky to be able to give them that. Burial etc afterwards I don't really worry about to much, it is how they spend their last moments that matter. I hope all goes well for you and your lovely cat.
Afterwards of course I'm incredibly sad, but also relieved.