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Neighbours Cat

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nettie1969 · 24/09/2019 16:48

I'm looking for some advice as to my neighbours cat. A little Black cat has always been about since I moved in to my road just over 5 years ago, this cat has always been friendly and in the past month I have been hand feeding her Dreamies when she comes over to say Hello! However in the last 3-4 weeks she has taken to slipping past me and up the stairs when I open my front door, as I had my own cat until last Christmas I still have tins of food, biscuits and litter, I have fed this cat small portions not wanting to upset her regime opposite.
My problem is that its become more regular and I have let her stay overnight letting her out in the morning - I have to force her out mostly- so being concerned I've knocked on the neighbours door, no answer, despite lights on and the fact I can see at least 2 Flat-screen TV's on! So 4 days ago I posted a letter to explain the cat's visits and feeding and that I have no intention of "stealing" and that I enjoy her company.
I received a note last night that is not so much rude but is rather short, saying that their cat doesn't come home because I've been feeding her and the daughter is upset having had the cat for 7 years.
The cat - who I've nick-named "Scruff"- sits on their driveway and in their porch all day when they're out at work and school and is always out in the evening, I don't recall her ever being let in or called for in the evenings.
I don't want to upset a young girl or her family, but I also feel sorry for "Scruff" as the only attention I've seen her get is from people walking by and myself and friends. "Scruff" was in the neighbours porch this morning and as I was putting my rubbish out she shot across the road and up the stairs, I didn't turn her away as there was quite heavy rainfall, I'll force her out when I see her family home from school and work, which should be soon.
I'm in a dilemma as to what to do, especially now we're in autumn and the weather's changing.
Should I ignore "Scruff" completely - which to me seems cruel - or what I'm doing is limiting her time round here and sending on her way when the neighbours are home, I just felt a little put out by their note, if the daughter is upset,why is the cat always out in what ever weather and follows people that walk by her house, surely they should be paying the cat a bit more attention?

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MaidenMotherCrone · 24/09/2019 16:53

You should never have started giving her treats then food and then a bed for the night.

You have pinched their cat.

One of mine is a proper '6 dinner Sid'. She comes home when no one else is in. She eats very well at home and is just a pig.

Stop feeding her and don't keep her over night.

Get your own cat!

NotJustACigar · 24/09/2019 17:08

You really shouldn't have given her dreamies in particular - those things are addictive for cats so of course she's going to be hanging around you as much as she can now. They're also really, really bad for cats. My vet said she would never give her cat dreamies and I shouldn't either. If you gave those to my cat I'd be really annoyed!

darkcloudsandrainstorms · 24/09/2019 17:13

That’s the trouble with cats they have no loyalty.

We have a cat visitor who comes into our garden and house and sometimes we don’t even know she is there inside. We don’t feed her though. She is just a bit if nice company for a while.

Should I tell the neighbour whose cat it us.

MrsFogi · 24/09/2019 17:20

You should not be feeding their cat. Stop it.You are "stealing" their cat.

MrsBertBibby · 24/09/2019 19:17

You stole a 7 year old's cat. Well done you.

viccat · 24/09/2019 19:28

It's not ideal you've started feeding her and enticing her in, however neighbour only has themselves to blame really if they don't provide any way for their cat to get back into her own home while they're all out. This is exactly why most rescues insist on a catflap being fitted - cats who don't have access back home will find somewhere better instead - if it hadn't been you, it would be somewhere else.

NoFucksImAQueen · 24/09/2019 19:47

oh please, theres no way you had your own cat yet you dont know that feeding another person's cat will cause them to hang around you.

ChildminderMum · 24/09/2019 20:13

Don't steal a little girl's cat!

There are loads of unwanted cats in rescues - get one of those.

Wolfiefan · 24/09/2019 20:21

Get your own cat.
Don’t feed someone else’s cat. You know it has a home and is fed and wanted. Thank fuck it doesn’t have a medical issue that you’ve messed up with your feeding.

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