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My boy is being PTS tomorrow. Devastated

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differentkindofpenguin · 17/09/2019 19:26

He's had a good 14 years, enjoyed a good health, incredible appetite, and terrorised a great many small furries. He has bullied many neighborhood cats, dogs, children, and allergy sufferers ( always making a beeline for them when he treats most of humankind with disdain)
Last couple of months he has stopped eating, vets can't find any obvious reasons after an examination and bloods. I decided against scans as he hates the vets, and I don't think I would put him through anything like chemo. Mirtazepine and steroid injection made no difference. He has lost almost 2kg in weight, he's weak, sluggish and stopped grooming. Vet said he had until tomorrow to show an improvement, otherwise it's game over.
I know he is at the end of his life, I'm a pragmatic, practical person. As a nurse, I have cared for hundreds of dying people. I've been sad but never cried.
The furry git has had me crying my eyes out for days now. I have cried at the vet, vet receptionist, my work colleagues. I've just told the kids ( 6 and 8) and they are devastated. My little boy just asked if we can have a gravestone to remember him.
Our garden is not a suitable for a burial. What can you do for a little tribute, but without too much expense? How can I help my kids through this? They've never seen me cry before!
Sorry for venting, it's helpful to put my thoughts down.

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differentkindofpenguin · 18/09/2019 11:16

Vinorosso, where would I get one please?

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Vinorosso74 · 18/09/2019 12:02

The stone, apologies but I can't remember. A small rescue I follow on Facebook jas has them for some of their cats who have passed away-had a look on their FB and I can't find the company name. Really sorry.
The urn we chose to have the ashes returned in. The vet organises the cremation and showed us the options.

Whistle73 · 18/09/2019 14:40

I hope you're ok. Thinking of you today.

differentkindofpenguin · 18/09/2019 17:41

Thank you all. By the time we got to the vets his breathing had changed, and he weed himself. That made me feel like we were doing the right thing. Still heartbroken, but feel calm now. My 6 year old doesn't know yet as she's got activities, told my 8 year old, he asked me as soon as he came out of school. He's sad but not as bad as yesterday. His school friends looked after him today, one friend even gave him £1.30 so he can buy himself a treat ❤️
DS wants us to go to our local cafe tomorrow for a milkshake " in Maurice's memory" which I think is a lovely idea. He was also saying he hopes he likes other cats in cat heaven- then desided cat heaven is probably more like Valhalla! I'm so proud of him

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Stressmess · 18/09/2019 20:11

@differentkindofpenguin I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your lovely cat. I had my beautiful 13 year old boy pts earlier this year after a short illness and was absolutely devastated. I cried when I knew that he wasn't well, I cried when I knew he wasn't getting better and I cried when he was pts. It really was loosing a family member.

We had him cremated and had intended to have him buried in the back garden. However his ashes came back in a lovely tube and he remains in a cupboard. I was looking on Amazon and they have some lovely decorative plaques and stones that you can get engraved with their details. It's just in my head though, that if we ever moved house and he was buried that we would be leaving him behind.

It does get easier though. We got a lovely picture of him framed and talk about him often and have many pictures and many very fond memories and happy times that we all had together.

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