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Advice on adoption

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goldpendant · 22/08/2019 10:51

We would like to adopt a cat as a family pet, we've two children 6, and 4, both have some experience around animals.

I've registered with Cats Protection, Battersea etc but DH isn't keen - says you never know why they've ended up there. I've said they'd never place a cat with kids if it wasn't safe, but DH would rather adopt one locally so we can see where it's come from. The suitable cats at these places do tend to be much older too, and we would prefer a younger cat.

A kitten is kind of off the cards as we'd like one that won't scratch the house to shreds and where we can be sure of the suitability for children. We have a few weeks off work now but from mid Sept it's back to work, so I don't think we've time to settle and train a kitten.

I've found a cat via a local Facebook group. The owner is in a flat and has a 9 month old baby, she's sent pics of them on a playmat together. Very cute. She's going back to work and says it's unfair on the cat so she's looking to rehome it. Cat is litter trained and great with the baby.

The cat is 6 months old. She's not been vaccinated or neutered as she's been an indoor only pet (not sure that's a valid reason but it is what it is). We'd obviously sort all that out as a priority.

The owner has said we can go to see the cat with our DC, but I guess my main question is whether you think this cat could be suitable for us?

We'd eventually like it to go outdoors, we have a safe garden and would install a cat flap. I appreciate that'll take some training but I understand indoor cats do naturally want to explore so can be introduced to the outdoors.

Does the background raise alarm bells (no vaccines?) or would you be happy to go visit with a view to bringing her home (via the vets!)?

Many thanks!

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viccat · 22/08/2019 11:51

Well, the main issue is that the cat has never seen a vet by the sounds of it and if something goes wrong, you are on your own basically.

Going back to work is no reason really to give up a cat that soon (she must have only had her for 4 months at most?), makes me wonder what else is going on...

Compared to adopting from a reputable charity - all cats have had full health checks, been vaccinated, neutered, microchipped, flea & worm treated and assessed by experienced staff/volunteers. Many offer dedicated support and advice for the first few months, some for the lifetime of the cat.

6 months old is still very much a kitten by the way and her personality won't have fully formed yet. Obviously it sounds good she's got used to kids and most likely everything will be just fine. Do take up pet insurance BEFORE you take the cat to a vet, you never know, if she turns out to have a heart murmur or something...

goldpendant · 22/08/2019 11:56

Thanks for your reply. Yes that's my main concern..... what's the back story? My senses tell me that the cat was probably a mistake, I'd not want a new kitten and a newborn in a flat but that's what she chose. From the photos she has sent everything looks clean, cat looks gorgeous, and I'd like to think it is just not compatible with her lifestyle.

So, if we did it, pet insurance before vet, neuter, vaccinate, microchip. She is routinely dewormed, de-flead etc.

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viccat · 22/08/2019 12:00

Ironically her story is very much the reason why so many cats end up in rescue in the first place - people buy a kitten privately and don't think about the long term... I deal with cat intake at a small-ish charity and most cats come to us because owner's circumstances have somehow changed, whether that's moving house, having kids and not wanting to have a cat anymore, new job that involves lots of travel, moving in with a partner who is allergic or just "not coping" with the reality of a cat etc. Most cats at rescues are not problem cats at all (and we do usually tell people why the cat is in our care, it's not a secret).

goldpendant · 22/08/2019 12:08

I said all that to DH but he certainly isn't keen on getting a cat from Battersea or similar. It's frustrating. I really want to assume it's just been a mistake on the owners part but would hate to walk into adoption without my eyes fully open!

What things should I look for when we go to meet her? Will it be obvious if she's a happy character and good natured with the kids?

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PancakeAndKeith · 22/08/2019 12:14

Cats are not like dogs.

Cats aren’t generally going to be in a rescue centre because they have problems with people or children.

Your nearest rescue centre will know if a cat can be around children. I know my local RSPCA centre, where my girl came from, has listings of all their cats and will say if they need a child free home or whatever.

Your DH is being rather ridiculous to be fair.

Grumpyoldpersonwithcats · 22/08/2019 13:01

While not wishing to be (too) rude, please tell your DH he's a bit of a knob.
All four of mine are from Battersea and I couldn't wish for better.
I concur with the poster above who said cats are not like dogs - and the vast majority of cats end up in rescue for reasons entirely outside their control..

EmrysAtticus · 22/08/2019 13:04

Always get from a proper rescue such as Cats Protection. They will do a thorough health check, neuter, vaccinate and treat for fleas and worms. They will also know the personalities of the adult cats in their care and will be able to tell you their histories is most cases. We have adopted 3 cats from them and I couldn't recommend them more. We have 3 amazing cats who are just perfect.

goldpendant · 22/08/2019 13:19

Ok thanks everyone this is really helpful and the advice I needed. I'm now speaking to the RSPCA and will possibly visit Battersea!

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Toddlerteaplease · 22/08/2019 13:46

Steer clear of cars on Facebook, gumtree etc. Especially one that has never seen a vet.

Allergictoironing · 22/08/2019 18:17

Don't discount smaller local rescue centres. My DSis & I both got our cats from shelters in Kent that weren't part of any national network; the one I went to had all the cats on site and the one my DSis went to had most of theirs out at foster homes. Both places were excellent, both in their care of the cats & matching us to the right animals.

I would suggest to your DH that there's MORE chance of a private adoption cat having something wrong with it! You hear all kinds of stories about people finding out their pets have a health problem & getting rid of them, whereas a reputable rescue won't let any animal go to a new home without ensuring they are healthy.

OrcharD14 · 22/08/2019 19:10

I agree wholeheartedly with Viccat re organizing insurance before taking the cat to the vet. It turned out that my cat has a mild heart murmur, so nothing heart related would be covered by my insurance.

I hope that you find a suitable cat soon - they’re fantastic pets!

Advice on adoption
goldpendant · 23/08/2019 18:39

Update, completed registration at Battersea today and now we wait patiently for a kitten!

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PancakeAndKeith · 23/08/2019 18:42

Yay. Of course the rule is that you must post pictures.

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