Saying goodbye

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I've booked the vet for tomorrow at 3pm to come. It'll be at home as I don't want to put stress on an elderly, sick animal.

Our old girl is 19, would have been 20 in August.

She's been treated for hyperthyroidism for about 5 years now but in the last month doesn't appear to be able to absorb nutrition from her food and is constantly hungry. She's losing weight.

Further investigation would be invasive.

I'm so, so sad. She's had a good long life but this is so hard.

It's so, so hard. We had to have 19 year old boy put to sleep last month so I know how you are feeling. We are all still heartbroken.

Just know that you are doing the kindest thing for her. I'm sure she's had a lovely life with you and she'll know that you are with her to the end at home.

I know. It's not the first time we've had to make the decision sadly and I'm sorry for your loss too.

She was my baby before I had babies. Saw me through my first marriage, divorce and three kids.

DS1 is on a school trip this week and I told him that we may have to do this while he was away so he said goodbye before he went - that made me howl. She's been there his whole life. DS2 and DD are upset, DS2 is accepting, DD is angry with us despite us explaining that we can't let her suffer.

You are completely and totally doing the right thing.
Our old girl was 19. She had a thyroid problem and we treated it successfully with pills. No problem. And then within 48hrs she declined so steeply. It was shocking. I don’t think any investigation in the world would have revealed anything we could do anything about. She was tired. Her whole body had had enough.
It was heartbreaking but peaceful and dignified. I was with her. I thanked her for being our cat and said I loved her and I was sorry we couldn’t make her better. I told her she could go and find her son (we had rescued them both) and sort him out. And I kissed her on the top of her fluffy black and white head.
Be kind to yourself. You’re doing an unselfish thing for an animal you love dearly.

You're an amazing cat parent. It's so hard to do what you're doing. Your cat is blessed to have lived out her long life with you and I'm sure she really appreciates all the thought you've put into making her last moments comfortable.

Please look after yourself as well OP. I know there's not really anything anybody can say to make it easier for you, but cats really are members of the family, especially when you've been together for almost 20 years!

I said goodbye to my 17 year old girl last month. Also hyperthyroidism and renal failure. She had got really thin and was just really unhappy and not herself anymore.

I really believe it's better to let them go a week too early than a day too late when their quality of life is declining, it's the last act of love.

Definitely the right thing. I suddenly saw Fatty with new eyes after the vet did bloods for kidney failure and I knew she'd had enough. She had a lovely death. Very peaceful and dignified.

I just wanted to say how sorry I am As with other posters I have been there too. Reading this thread has brought tears to my eyes. So much cat love. You are doing your best for her because you love her so much, she has had a very lucky life being with you ❤️

I'm so sorry that you're having to say goodbye tomorrow. We said goodbye to one of our girls an hour ago. She was only 8 and seemed perfectly healthy at the weekend. I'm emotionally drained but it was the kindest option.
Thinking of you

Lovely that they can come to you. Sending you hugs at such a difficult time. We all know it's the kindest, but my god we all know it's the hardest too. 💐

Sorry to read of all your losses. It’s so hard.
@Toddlerteaplease I understand what that phrase means after seeing my girl PTS. She was so peaceful and knew I was there and she was loved.

Bless You OP .

My 14 year old boy , many years ago now, had kidney failure and the other was on its way out . The day he started to lose his balance and fall , and stop eating was the day I sadly took him to the vets as I had been prewarned that he would start to stumble and fall .
You are doing the right thing for your beloved girl and you gave her a wonderful life . It is heartbreaking, I know .

It's so bloody hard but the kindest thing you can do for her now.

Bless you both, I'm so sorry.

We had to let our old boy go recently, age 19 too. The vet had missed a tumour at his last check up in January and with hindsight, knowing what we now know, he can't have been absorbing food properly for months. That thought haunts me now and although it completely broke my heart to let him go I would do anything to turn the clock back and be able to let him go sooner rather than him have been quietly suffering those last weeks.

I know its beyond hard for you, but you are doing the kindest thing for her.

She's gone. DH burying her in a sunny spot in the garden.

I’m so sorry.

I was thinking of you earlier. I'm so sorry. I am sure the spot in your garden is the perfect place for her to be at peace.

We had our boy cremated and his ashes are now buried next to his sisters, also in their sunny spot where they used to sit together.

It's hard. Be kind to yourself and remember the lovely times you shared.

I said goodbye to my 19 year old in January... like you she was the cat of my children's growing up years. I miss her very much, BUT it was the right thing, at the right time, and the last kind act that we can do for them, and they are lucky to have that, just as we are lucky to have such faithful little souls living with us xxx

for you
Such a heartbreaking time. I still miss my 18 year old fluffball terribly after saying goodbye 10 years ago.
Remember how much lovely time you had together
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