Advice needed, oh catty ones.

[OhWhatFuckeryIsThisNow]

My adult DS lives in another city a few counties from us (relevant) Last year he got a kitten, all was well. Come this year he has had a very acrimonious breakup with his flat mate, and had to hurriedly move out. He's moved in with another mate, but he is unable to take kitty. Currently he is in hiding at my dd's (not allowed pets). We (my dh) can't take him, because distance and also we have a 6month old puppy who has never met a cat. Kitty hasn't met any other animal, he's a house cat. He's neutered. Dd can't have cat forever. Ds can't move out yet, (new job,shit credit rating due to fm sticking him with bills) and even if he does doubtful he'd get a let that allows animals. It's a mess. He loves that cat and is reluctant to give him up to a shelter. (He's black, notoriously hard to rehome)
Anyone got any bright (non judgmental, it really isn't his fault) idea So?

There are house shares that allow pets. Houseshares don't normally bother with credit checks and if they do could you be a guarantor? Tell him to look on Spareroom. They have a filter to find pet-friendly rooms.

Thanks for your tip CN. To be honest, he's still quite shell shocked by the whole thing (abuse doesn't always happen between partners) and he's just grateful to have a roof over his head, but I'll put it to him.

Not ideal but cats and dogs can share the same space. While it's not perfect you could take the cat until your ds gets sorted.

It'd be a logistic nightmare, ds hasn't a car, so we would have to drive to collect him. Would take two people, dh rightly says one person and cat in carrier for three hours is not good. We always had cats, but decided not to get a dog until we were cat less as it wouldn't be fair. Dh says it wouldn't be fair on the pup or the cat. Gaah, it's tough.

I really feel for him. We managed to find a flat that would allow our cat we went unfurnished as I think the main worry with cats is that they scratch the furniture. I however have the biggest soft spot for black cats so I totally understand his anguish. There must be something that can be done?

Our dog and cat get on really well.

Where in the country is he? Some places foster cats till their owners can take them back.

A young black cat without behavioural problems won't be so hard to home if he rehomes through a charity. Just choose the charity well (only approach the ones with a solid euthanasia policy basically and steer clear of the RSPCA...).

Otherwise, as cat and your dog are both young, it's not impossible to introduce them if you are willing to do it. Three hours in a carrier is nothing in the scheme of things, people move house with cats all the time and have a long drive.

Personally I'd go get the cat. Both dog and cat are young. Cat is indoor so you can stairgate off upstairs so they have separate space. They'll be fine.

SIL and her middle aged cat moved in with MIL and her middle aged (large) dogs and they made it work.

A day trip to save rehoming someone's pet wouldn't even phase me.

We used to take 4 cats on holiday in carriers for a 3hr journey. I’d go get him too. He’s family.

Can't see why you can't take the cat. As long as you introduce the cat and dog slowly abs carefully. It may well be fine. The cat will put the dog in its place.

Dh, who is generally the mildest (and easily manipulated by his dc) of men, has stuck to his guns and won't have the cat.
Whoever asked, he's in Manchester, so if anyone knows any fosters there I'd be grateful.

To be fair my skittish cat moved house on a 3 and a half hour drive and she was completely fine.

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Please follow sage advice above. I am not worthy. My cat would kill anything below 8 stone. I am small but have developed cake and cheese habit to ensure I survive.

I'm not sure what the problem with a 3 hour drive is or why it would require 2 people? We've moved countries and the cats have had to be in carriers for up to 24 hours and alone in aircraft cargo - they've all always been fine, zero side effects and happy to get extra treats when they reach the new house!

I think that DH needs to be leaned on. How about "it's the cat or you alone in a sad bedsit with the puppy"

Wouldn't be cheap for long term but maybe a cattery? Perhaps suggesting that you could pay to help your son out might help with persuading DH to give puppy & kitty a trial run?

If you really can't take the cat and your DS doesn't have any plans to move in the immediate future, your best bet may be finding a friend or relative who wants to have a temporary cat and can in effect foster, maybe if you cover vet bills, food etc.? Charities are unlikely to have the capacity to help if there is no defined end point in sight and a cattery is not great for long term (the pens are quite small really and the cats don't get much interaction compared to living in a home situation).

Any update OP? How's the wee cat?

He may be able to find a friend to have him for a bit(he's hoping to move in late august/September) but, Lordy me he's not very proactive. Dd would keep him but she finishes uni this year and won't be there much after end of April. I'm going to push him a bit tomorrow. Catteries are a no go, we can't afford it and he can't.

He could ask on the Facebook page for South Manchester Rehome and Rescue. They may not be able to take the cat themselves but they may be able to assist him with fostering advice/homechecks. Millstream animal sanctuary (in Droylsden)and the Society for Abandoned Animals (in Sale) are good local cat sanctuaries but they are usually full to the rafters. I hope you can persuade your DH to take the cat though.

Why on earth do you think cats and dogs can't live together? I've always had one of each and with careful introductions they can very easily learn to be mates. It's ideal to introduce your dog to family cat while still a puppy.

Do you think he’s hoping dad will relent?.

My dad said no to a 3rd cat 31 years ago & my mums still pissed with him “mum, what was that silver tabbies name again?” Mum .

You won't find any rescues to foster in this situation. They need all the space they have for desperate cases that come in constantly. Most would almost certainly be able to help to rehome - but the advice above that some sort of long term foster may be found is just pie in the sky unfortunately.

Update. Well as expected we now have a dog and a cat. Despite dh having panic attack after googling fox terriers and cats, and dd having to bring him by uber, train and car (where he was sick). We confined him to kitchen and gradually introduced them. Edie dog thinks it's another type of dog and wants to play. Marmy cat is following her round fascinated. Of course we are still wary, baby gate up so cat can hide in kitchen. Quietly optimistic. (And I forgot how much I missed a lovely soft cat)