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So what do I need to be aware of (if anything) with a baby on the way?

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cubesofjelly · 17/02/2019 00:20

We have two cats - moggies, brothers, 2.5yo. We’ve had them since they were 1yo and we adopted them from Cats Protection, at the time our DCs were 4yo and 2yo, and CP had ‘marketed’ them (if that’s the word!) as being suitable for a young family based on experience with their volunteers.

At the time I didn’t think we would have more children, I’m now pregnant with DC3. I’m not at all worried about the cats and the baby. However some of you may have seen an AIBU thread about young Bengals and a new baby - very different to my slightly older moggies! - but I was surprised by seeing several responses about rehoming, even with moggies. To be clear we adopted the cats expecting to have them for life, if they live a long life we expect to have them until around the time our older two DCs are old enough to leave home. We love them!

Any tips or things I should be aware to ensure everything goes as smoothly as possible with our new baby and the cats? I’ve been fairly relaxed about it all, so now I just want to make sure I’m not taking anything for granted and make sure my cats are still happy later this year when DC3 arrives!

A bit more info on our house in case it’s helpful. DCs are 4yo and 6yo. I’ll call DCats Treacle and Syrup, for ease. Treacle spends most time napping indoors, some time outside but tends to keep around our garden. Syrup spends most time outside roaming the immediate area, friends with neighbours’ cats, comes in for a bit during the day. We live in a townhouse so various floors to hang out on, nooks and crannies, as well as cat beds, cat tree etc.

They’ve never once been scared or aggressive with a person since we’ve had them, we have visitors to the house (including children) and they either want to be with them, or if DCs/visiting children are very active and noisy then they just hang out elsewhere. They don’t go into our bedrooms, those doors are kept closed, but otherwise roam around the house freely, and they sleep in the kitchen diner at night and are happy with that. They’re very sweet, sometimes they want a lap and other times not. Syrup is fine around the DCs but doesn’t hang around them as such, whereas Treacle spends time with the DCs especially DC1. The house has always been generally busy, full of children’s toys, buggies, scooters etc. DH is a busy SAHP so at home a lot but occupied with other things, I WOH FT but work from home one day a week and will of course be here during mat leave. DCs are out for school but home after school, on weekends and during school holidays (don’t do many activities, but we do of course have day trips etc). DH will have DC3 at home with him when I return to work.

Lots of info but trying to think of what might matter!

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Toddlerteaplease · 17/02/2019 08:02

They sound like there are already familiar with young children. Maybe play sounds of a crying baby so they get used to the noise?

Grumpyoldpersonwithcats · 17/02/2019 08:02

We have 2 DSs and had more than 1 cat when they each of them arrived. Just apply a bit of common sense - keep the room where baby sleeps alone secure from cats to start with (I.e.shut doors), and continue to pay attention to your cats.
We really had no problems at all, our cats always seemed attracted to the babies and regularly would curl up next to them. Both our sons (now 15 and 20) have grown up being animal lovers.
Good luck with your latest pregnancy and ignore anyone who tells you to get rid of the cats!

viccat · 17/02/2019 09:44

They should be absolutely fine as they are already used to small children and are generally relaxed cats.

From the stories I hear of cats being rehomed, it is usually because the cats were nervous to start with or older and used to a quiet life and find the arrival of a noisy baby a big shock; or the family live in a very small property (one bed flat with no outside space for example) and there is nowhere for cats to get away from the baby. The rest tend to be parents who are convinced their cat will hurt their baby or find managing caring for a cat and a baby too much to deal with.

As you are experienced with kids and cats I'm sure you will also know how to bring up your latest addition to treat cats with kindness and respect and will have no problems.

cubesofjelly · 17/02/2019 11:20

Phew, that’s a bit of a relief! Thought maybe I’d completely underestimated things!

Baby will be in with us and cats are already used to not being allowed in the bedrooms (doors are kept shut, but if I’m in the bedroom with the door open then sometimes Syrup comes up and sits at the threshold!), so sleeping space will definitely be closed off.

They do have lots of places they can go to escape a crying baby, and won’t be quite as subjected to the crying at night as they’re in the kitchen on the bottom floor and we’re on the top floor. Sometimes they join us in the living room in the evening so I’ll try playing baby crying sounds and see how we go, as that’s probably the quietest time they’re with us so when they might see the most change/disturbance.

Thanks for the tips! Any more are readily welcomed Grin

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